So, I saw this approach with 'dating' requests, but honestly, I am not looking to 'date' anyone at this time.

I am not looking to skype or webcam and I don't own a cell phone.

Who can handle a cyber penpal kind of thing? anybody?

Is this like getting free therapy?

why not?

I'm not sure what you are getting at? Not sure if I understand?

Me personally, I like good conversation. If a person can't converse with me online I will get bored with them quickly. Before I can even think about dating a person they have to show me that they have something going on between their ears.

I get 'whats your phone number? can I text you?/can we talk outside of mingle?'

always within one or two messages,,,,


and my answer is NO, I do not have a cell phone, and I do not give out my landline because once a number is given out, you cannot ungive it and unlike seeing someone in real time who has asked,, online you do not have a clue as to the real person behind the request , and I don't like online strangers having access to my phone number,,,,,,,

so, I prefer a period of online communication, to find out if there is compatibility in the area of communication,,,,and after that persons character and maturity are revealed a bit more through that communication,, the phone numbers can be exchanged, email addresses, etc,,,etc,,,etc,,


mingle is good enough for me, but yet to be contacted by anyone who feels the same,,,,

I agree totally. And not to mention the information you can find out just by typing in a phone number and agreeing to a 25 dollar charge in certain web sites. I can find out a persons name, location, etc.

I feel the same way. People are addicted to instant gratification anymore. The phone addiction has surpassed the love letter days. I'm not going anywhere with anyone on any kind of date till we at least get to know one another a bit. It starts with the message system and grows from there.

Granted it is a bit more difficult to type a message that has some significance. I understand the younger generation that is weened on short quips like twitter and texting. For my age range tho, we grew up writing letters and having conversations. Typing a message is not that hard.

Having a message conversation is pretty simple really. After a bit, if there is a real connection the next logical step is a phone conversation or skype. Skype or a similar real-time video chat can show many things that can't be shown in a message and one, is honesty. I, personally, can wait till I know someone better before we exchange phone numbers, skype handles or email addresses. When we do, it will be a mutual thing.

Harmony,
Love your posts. Well, we are in cyberspace. A chat is always fun. What ya got? Fukashima? The earth's 23 degree tilt? 1500 Pediphile arrests in American that the media won't cover? I got a ton of 'em!

OK, I understand you. Thought I did. I have women to do me the same way. They will talk to me once or twice, Some give me their number and tell me to call them. Others, they want me to give them my number and let them call me. I know that they are not scammers. That's something I'm good at, spotting scammers.

Most of them are regular people. The thing is, they are in to much of a hurry to suit me. They want to rush things along. Some, they either don't have the time or just can't stand to type for a little while. I know this to be true because I've had some to tell me that they type all day on their jobs and by the time they get home they don't want to type anymore. While others I believe can't spell very well. So, they don't want to type.

If you can't talk to me on site for a little while, you ain't getting my number. Just me, but sometimes I can't help but think that the women that push to quickly for my number are either scammers or they are looking for Dick Longshaft.

I agree Charles. The Scammers are all wham bam thank you, SCAM! I'm getting pretty crass with them..
No profile.
1 pic.
They want you off site.

I invite them to the forums, then they act like they are reading a script....
They start over.

It's weird, but it's kinda fun, catfishing scammers!!!

I know exactly what you mean msharmony. Sometimes I get a first message on here that says, give me your phone number so we can can text. It's a demand.

yep or they just give you their phone number when you have not asked for it

Wouldn't all that be nice

No one on the internet.

Anyone that has studied, or put 10 minutes of thought into, life cycles of chat rooms and the nature of social interaction via the internet should realize this.

When social interaction serves no real world purpose then it's purely for emotional and mental masturbation.

Usually emotional masturbation, disguised through delusion as mental masturbation, rationalized as conversation.


People don't consume social media for healthy social contact.

Only pseudo social competition. Forming "safe" social groups and "safely" vying for social dominance, determining pecking order.

Or IOW what you're asking is somewhat analogous to going to Hooters and asking the regular customers "who wants to discuss nutrition?"


All you'll find is a false sense of compatible communication.
People express themselves differently online than off.
People's thought processes are different online and off.
Huge difference sitting in a quiet room, feeling bored, focused solely on a computer or phone screen, and being in a dynamic environment where your mood is fluctuating, or happy, or engaged.

Not to mention, most communication is not what comes out of your mouth. And that is all you really get when "communicating" online.

Unless 90% of communication in any future relationship is done via the internet, sitting online establishing an idea of compatibility in communication is just building a false idea of how someone communicates.

People that say they need to sit online and converse, or chat, or "get to know" someone, are simply lying to themselves if they think it's actually helping them with anything.

msharmony doesn't own a cell phone?

Disagree

I agree with most everything you wrote except that.

When meeting someone in person that you originally found online you must learn something about them online first. Believe me, not doing so is terrible. I understand that people often do lie online but to not even check is dangerous. Just recently I didn't converse long enough and it was bad, bad, bad. Had we chatted a bit longer I might have realized she was plumb freaking crazy and wasn't too bright.

Meh, I just got mine at Christmas 2016.

You already got your free therapy I guess...What else would give you more benefits from the so-called "mature conversation."

I can handle :P

At last somebody responded....there you go...get her email right away....Enjoy cyberspace....