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Just looking for validation ok. You SEEM valid to me... Likewise |
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Who cares? is a question I don't care is an opinion. And what is a person seeking in response to a thread that states their disinterest in something? the format is just expected to be one where people RESPOND And CONTRIBUTE,,,simple enough  It's a question. I am asking why people need validation so much. Or when someone gives an opinion, some will act like it's a wrong fact. Simple enough... ok, that wasn't clear. Assuming one is asking a question for validation(many are not), I think its a natural human instinct to seek like minds, or to 'belong' to something. Validation is one form of verifying where one may/may not 'belong' as far as opinions, an opinion can be offensive rather it is meant as fact or not,, and when people are offended, they often defend or offend in return. |
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Who cares? is a question I don't care is an opinion. And what is a person seeking in response to a thread that states their disinterest in something? the format is just expected to be one where people RESPOND And CONTRIBUTE,,,simple enough It's a question. I am asking why people need validation so much. Or when someone gives an opinion, some will act like it's a wrong fact. Simple enough... ok, that wasn't clear. Assuming one is asking a question for validation(many are not), I think its a natural human instinct to seek like minds, or to 'belong' to something. Validation is one form of verifying where one may/may not 'belong' as far as opinions, an opinion can be offensive rather it is meant as fact or not,, and when people are offended, they often defend or offend in return. Thank you! |
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I believe people ask strangers to get different perceptions from their own. I also believe people ask strangers as a more direct way to connect with those who are like minded or with similar values. This is a good answer |
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ya I know it's too bad we cannot just sticky some of these topics to top of dating thread 1. younger man looking for older woman 2. me so horny want sex and then each one could go on for pages saying things like hai or hi as far as why they post about inter-racial? I suspect they are hoping for a list of the ones open to it so they can message them Yay....that was more of an example I used :) |
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I am asking why people need validation so much. I believe MsHarmony was spot on. I am adding: Validation: Why is it needed. People that seek validation usually have a low opinion of themselves and their opinions. This comes from someone in their lives that belittle them or make them feel insignificant. Children of alcoholics tend to need validation but that is not the only thing that causes that. People that are strong willed usually do not require validation. People that do not learn from their mistakes often do. Low self esteem and lack of wisdom can make validation a vital part of some people's decision making process. They need to be validated so they can function or decide. I'm not going to say it is wrong or right to need validation. It is a personal thing that develops because of individual experiences and attitudes. I ask why it is so difficult to just give someone validation when they need it. How can that hurt you? |
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I am asking why people need validation so much. I believe MsHarmony was spot on. I am adding: Validation: Why is it needed. People that seek validation usually have a low opinion of themselves and their opinions. This comes from someone in their lives that belittle them or make them feel insignificant. Children of alcoholics tend to need validation but that is not the only thing that causes that. People that are strong willed usually do not require validation. People that do not learn from their mistakes often do. Low self esteem and lack of wisdom can make validation a vital part of some people's decision making process. They need to be validated so they can function or decide. I'm not going to say it is wrong or right to need validation. It is a personal thing that develops because of individual experiences and attitudes. I ask why it is so difficult to just give someone validation when they need it. How can that hurt you? Thank you for that perspective. Some things I didn't think about. It doesn't hurt me to give it. I do think we all need it at some point. It was just something I was curious about |
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Edited by
Tom4Uhere
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Tue 03/14/17 07:42 PM
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I do think we all need it at some point. Agreed See, I give you validation by agreeing. Sometimes you can give validation by disagreeing. Validation is a form of acknowledgement and sometimes people that are alone seek any kind of acknowledgement so they feel like they are part of it all. Dating sites are filled with people that are very much alone. They just need to feel acknowledged by someone, anyone to make them feel like they matter. Edit to include additional topic assessment: By participating in someones thread you are giving them validation. It often doesn't matter if you agree or disagree, your participation shows that you acknowledge them. Therefore they get a form of validation. |
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I've initiated about 30 topics in this community since I started frequenting this site. Of the 30 only a few have had participation. I hardly feel my interests are validated but I am not looking for validation because I validate myself. Still, it would be nice to discuss some things that I am interested in.
I reply to many topics on a wide range of subjects. While most everything I comment on is of interest to me (games?) I understand that most people will not agree with me and some may not even understand what I write. It is not for validation in so much than to just give a view. Something to consider. I find that the majority of people never say or think what is most obvious. That is why to some I comment the mundane. But if one person gets something they need from something I have written on a subject it is a form of validation to me. Even if that validation is never related back to me. |
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All of these topics about interracial dating, age, whatever. Why ask complete strangers? Do you boo. I know what I like and anyone with an opinion on it....that is their problem |
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I don't know.
I don't care. I don't have on underwear. Author unknown And I don't care. |
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All of these topics about interracial dating, age, whatever. Why ask complete strangers? Do you boo. I know what I like and anyone with an opinion on it....that is their problem Opinions of others is none of your business... Until those opinions become the norm and you are left out in the cold. It was opinions that elected Trump as president. That IS your business, isn't it? While not being interested in other's opinions is easy (I have been that way) in practice, over time, it can affect how well you socialize. Opinions are important to society because society is swayed by opinions. Society is not always the masses. It can be as small as a family or a group of friends. In these forums most every comment that has any merit is opinion. You can learn a lot about people by acknowledging opinions. You may not comment on them but it may be wise to at least consider them. You can gauge any group by considering the validity of the opinions in that group. If you wish to participate in that group, opinions are very much your business. |
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Edited by
no1phD
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Tue 03/14/17 11:12 PM
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All of these topics about interracial dating, age, whatever. Why ask complete strangers? Do you boo. I know what I like and anyone with an opinion on it....that is their problem I don't really have an opinion on..this..lol |
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People reply to posts whatever it may be coz they care to reply and for fun of it too or just read and smile at comments; that should make your day....that is all there is....it's not too complicated...
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