Okay you're in a new relationship everything is going great.. but!
.. but the person you're interested in has one little personal flaw.. or physical flaw
Let's say ...he are she has a muffin top..
Or maybe their teeth are not quite as white as they could be... yellowish..

Now how do you bring this discomfort that you're feeling up to your new partner ?..without totally pissing them off..lol...
I mean you like the whole person it's just this one thing that just drives you a little crazy..
So how do you get the person with the yellow teeth to the dentist for a deep cleaning without hurting there feelings...?
Because I've tried bring up a person's little flaw..lol.. and it didn't go over very well.

So any suggestions..
Because I'm pretty sure we have all been here and done this before

When I was dating I did not bring it up. If it was a deal breaking flaw then I moved on. However, you're not perfect, I'm not perfect, and neither is anyone else on the planet. Either deal with the imperfections or not.

It is quite likely they are at least as aware of their imperfections as you are of yours. Good luck trying to change/fix it.

Focus on their good points. If there aren't enough good points to make the bad point seem trivial, withhold sex.

OMG! You did NOT just say that....lol

.. that's kind of the thing when I was younger and dating the slightest flaw would send me running in the opposite direction.. but as I have matured and realized none of us are perfect... I seem to want to help or at least offer to help them with that slight imperfection.. because in most cases it bothers them just as much as me... it's just bringing up. Are tabling it for a discussion.. without coming off overly insensitive... women are hard to . Get them to admit there physical flaws..lol.. you bring up that Muffin Top at the wrong time..ohhh. brother look out Fido im sleeping in the dog house..lol..wink

AS a woman,, lol

I can say that I usually get to a point where I feel close enough to a person that I will start commenting on things I am insecure about.

Maybe wait until the point where there is a clue that she feels open enough, and let her bring it up herself.

It's quicker to just withhold sex

smh

.. that's kind of the thing when I was younger and dating the slightest flaw would send me running in the opposite direction.. but as I have matured and realized none of us are perfect... I seem to want to help or at least offer to help them with that slight imperfection.. because in most cases it bothers them just as much as me... it's just bringing up. Are tabling it for a discussion.. without coming off overly insensitive... women are hard to . Get them to admit there physical flaws..lol.. you bring up that Muffin Top at the wrong time..ohhh. brother look out Fido im sleeping in the dog house..lol..wink



I don't see how bringing it up is beneficial. Maybe it is that one flaw that keeps an ego in check. Maybe it is that one flaw that somehow brought her to your side instead of another lucky guy.

Either be happy with what you've got or plant your flag someplace else. Chances are if she knows about the flaw eventually she will ask you, "what do you think about _______?" This has happened to me on more than one occasion.

No when I was dating if it was something tnat was a dealbreaker I moved on no biggie. I am sure that some men did that to me as well.

Personally I think that would be horribly rude to do to anyone.

..ok.. but dumping them all together because of one little flaw is okay..hmmm.. and again you know I like you so I'm not making this about you..but.. a lot of people have said the same thing okay maybe not a lot..
But. I don't know if it's just a throw-away society we live in or what the problem is.. and I guess that's what this topic is about really it seems easier to walk away from somebody then bring up the issue with them..
And see if we can work on the solution together..hmmm. maybe it's just me

It is better to say nothing dump them. Tell someone there's something you don't like about them and then expect sex???? Dude that's practically rape. Yes, they might allow the act but they're not in a good place

..well. first off I never expect sex..hmmmm... it's usually just freely offered up to me... this really has nothing to do with intimacy at all..
You do understand that right?..

Hahahahaha brilliant...
Would P me O all right, lol

Nobody's perfect... we all have our flows. When we truly love a person, we don't see the flows or we choose to ignore them because we love the person as a whole, flows and all.

Now speaking of yellow teeth... I was dating this guy and I noticed his yellow teeth. I asked if he was former smoker because he did not smoke then. He said he was... end of story. However, next time we met, he showed me a big smile full of white pearlies and he asked me how I liked his white teeth. I said I loved them and I asked if he had them whitened. He said no... those were his new set of false teeth but they hurt so he liked wearing the yellowed one.

It was too early in a relationship to see teeth in a glass... deal breaker.

So the moral of the story is, if we don't want to know the answer, we don't ask... not even imply.

I'm thinking maybe someone who feels that way about a tiny flaw would be better off getting therapy.
Too much focus on perfection and projecting that onto a partner. I think that reveals a deep sense of insecurity and low self-esteem.
I couldn't live with a partner like that, would drive me up the wall and would make me insecure as well.

How I deal with his flaws... If I can't accept them, I shouldn't be with him -or get therapy if I have this problem with each partner/date.
I got flaws as well, everyone does. Oftentimes I find I love the flaws in the other. It makes him 'him'. Unique. And if I find it irritates the crap out of me, then I shouldn't be with him.
Love is accepting the other as is.

I think you know what I meant but are choosing to pick at hairs, no one the right sex. Intimacy takes many forms but which branch does telling someone their teeth need fixing fall under? Sounds like some weird kind of foreplay to me.

NEWS FLASH!!

If someone has such a flaw, they already know it.

YOU bringing it up in any way, shape or fashion
indicates you no longer wish to stay in the
relationship and now have a good way out.

IMO to choose to continue the relationship with someone you consider to have a flaw is a form of abuse. As it means they've allowed you to class yourself as superior to them.