How quickly do you come out with how you feel about somebody you just met while dating....them..
You know that moment!! when you feel like you really really like the person... and if you feel this way early on do you keep from expressing yourself just so you don't...hmmm... scare them off or overwhelm them...

Nobody wants to come off as.... the person that falls in love too quickly..

Or does it matter to you..
Do you just tell this new person whatever you're feeling whenever you're feeling it..?..

Or do you wait for them to express to you how they're feeling.?..hmmmm.

Not sure about the nobody wants to come off as the person who falls in love to quickly.

I wear my heart on my sleeve, sometimes it's the best thing to do, sometimes it's the worst thing to do.

I'm like joe, I wear my heart on my sleeve. And yes, sometimes it's good and sometimes not so good. I've had times where I told someone I liked them and it seemed to scare them away. I don't know if that's because I am a woman and they were uncomfortable with me speaking up first, or if it was because I said it too soon, in their eyes.

just tell them....

When I feel is right to do so, I am not the type that hang next to the "what if".

I like to feel it out before speaking on it just in case it's just a temporary infatuation that happens when you sometimes get when you start talking with someone interesting.

Like joe and pisces, I also wear my heart on my sleeve. But I don't say I Like You. I'm a very passionate person, so I go for the throat right away and say "I Love You" ... and stare at them to see their reaction. The guy who said "thank you" mysteriously disappeared.

Why play games?
What's to quickly when falling in love?
What if you're waiting for th other person to tell you what they are feeling snd they are waiting for you?
And you both waste time feeling the same but waiting for the other to be more courageous?

Not very quickly.


Not really.


People are complex.
They do complex things in the name of self interest.
They will engender in themselves feelings in response to other feelings based on other emotions due to different feelings and emotions.
Every human being does this.

e.g. you don't really want to continue a relationship, you keep looking for reasons to justify the relationship, you keep pushing someone away, they start pulling away, the change in the nature of the relationship scares you, their reaction follows expectations, you don't want to be the bad guy, you fear the relationship or bond isn't secure, you "confess" something of your past, sometimes saying "I never told anyone that before," to make it seem special.

Or ask any woman that said "I just dropped by because I was worried!" or any mother "I wasn't snooping, I was worried about you!"
At the time, they actually did feel "worried" and most likely have absolutely no idea the mental and emotional gymnastics they went through to get there.

I keep myself from expressing emotions until I know why I want to express them and I know what is actually motivating them, so what I'm expressing can be taken wholly at face value.
Figure out if they're real, or a manipulation tactic, of myself and others.

IME most people that "wear their hearts on their sleeves," or just confess every emotion and feel they're being honest and absolute and true tend to be horrible in learning to communicate in relationships, because they don't really know what about their own emotions are real or not, or what's "really" motivating them.
They may say "I love you" because they actually love you.
They can say "I love you" because they had a bad day and need the validation just as easily as they can say "I love you" because they're feeling insecure in the relationship and need to know where they stand, and in each instance believe they are really feeling love, from purest intentions, and they've quickly rationalized and deluded themselves it's what they're really feeling.

I prefer to learn to communicate a bit in a relationship before expressing feelings rather than use feelings and emotions as a tactic to try and break their code of communication for my own purposes which, IME, highly/quick emotional people do.


No one wants to come off as disingenuous or that their emotions/feelings shouldn't be taken seriously because they're shallow and easily triggered.


Sometimes.
Some feelings are just easy.
"No. I hate Twilight. I'm not watching that crap."
"Yuck. I don't like vietnamese food. Mint as lettuce on a roast beef sandwich and maggot looking spring roll? That's retarded. I'm not eating that."
"That's awesome, I love your sense of humor."


I wait until I'm comfortable. That comfort might be when they start feeling comfortable expressing how they're feeling.
Depends on the relationship and person.

Id agree with this .

Oooooh this is a tough one

I try to be so honest with my reactions to someone. How I feel about them.

But telling them that feeling I often know very early in I am VERY tight lipped. I figure my actions speak louder than words.


And because I have seen a lot more guys get tore up by someone saying "I love you" prematurely and then get cold feet I don't want to be the one who causes that kind of pain.


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Oh boy.
That was me, for many years.

I also wear my heart upon my sleeve, but you still gotta take the other's feelings into consideration. You also wouldn't say "Dang you look ugly today!"
Saying "I love you" isn't a whole lot different. It is your feeling, and yours alone.
Saying "I wear my heart upon my sleeve" is the same as saying "I do or say whatever I want because it feels good to me. Put up with it." Quite selfish to be honest... A little self-control and consideration goes a long way.

When to say it? When it feels right Which means as much as:
when you feel it so intensely that you don't even need them to reciprocate, it would still feel good to say it. And when you know they can receive such a heavy statement.
Until you're that far, I think it's best not to say it, but to show your feelings.

"When you feel it so intensely that you don't even need them to reciprocate, it would still feel good to say it.'

Like CrystalFairy said right there. Now granted it wouldn't be "I love you" right away. But I wouldn't be afraid to say "I really like you".

Then again, I'm not afraid to communicate feelings toward my date/partner.

I made the critical part of the question bold.

My answer involves being careful, and specific, not snappy or romantic. The reason why the "somebody you just met" part is critical, is that for ALL responses and communications we make to ANYONE, there is, or is not, a lot of history involved. Someone who we just met, MUST be communicated with differently than someone who we have known well for a long time.

Most important, is that before opening my mouth, I need to know exactly what it is I DO feel. As opposed to what I wish, what I hope (a different thing than wishing), what I want, and so on. Careless people often blurt out whatever intense emotional urge they have, with the mistaken idea that by refusing to think things through, that they are being more open and honest, even more romantic. That's simply false. They are simply being lazy and sloppy, and relying on everyone and everything else around them, to decide how things will go.

All that anyone CAN know, from a first meeting, or even a first date or two, is that they are not yet repulsed or otherwise unhappy with the person so far. I can and do (especially when asked) certainly say exactly what I do know, what I can appreciate about the other person from the contact we have had up to that point, but I will always be specific and carefully accurate. Perhaps that I like the way they dress, or the way they move, or how they behave when they are talking to me. Whatever specifics I can identify.

I will say what I do feel, but I am always careful to correctly identify exactly what that feeling consists of. I can't imagine ever declaring within such a short time, that I am convinced that I love someone, and want to pursue a lifetime with them. Or even that I want to pursue them as far as the nearest Holiday Inn, for that matter. Only what I actually DO feel.

Quite often I have women that confess their love for me within two dates.
For me, that is a big red flag.

If I'm out with someone and I want to see them again I will say. "I would like to see you again".
If they ask why? I respond, usually, with "So we can get to know each other better".

Likewise, If I detect lies or personality that conflicts with me, I tell them right away that we won't work out. Just the other day I had this happen. It was evident we were not a match and I told her. I still respected her and spent time with her talking but I did not pursue questions or avenues of continuation. When we parted, I wished her luck and told her I had an enjoyable afternoon with her (because I did enjoy it). I left no impression there would be further contact.

Understanding yourself and taking time to understand the other stops those 'games' that everyone refers to. As adults we don't need games. We need honesty in ourselves and from those we seek to start a relationship with.

If you don't know how you feel, take time to understand yourself because nobody else is going to. Also understand that there is a time and place for everything. Not only must you be ready and able to share your feelings, the other must be ready and able to understand them.

I tell the man right anyway, if I am interested in him! I am upfront ! No time to play games on or off line!!! Works for me!