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Topic: Keeps getting harder these days
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Fri 09/29/17 11:55 AM
I believe it is getting harder to meet that special woman...seems like people these days aren't interested in committed relationships or serious about them, seems like sex is the only interest which is really annoying : / Also to note, are woman really not into romantic type of guys such as myself? I love cuddling and holding hands, but that really seems to be turn off! Ugh

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Fri 09/29/17 12:23 PM
I do believe what you are looking for is out there. You are probably not in the right place... or in the right age group... But don't give or become
cynical or else you will end up being like those cold-hearted nonromantic persons. Some women say they don't want to cuddle or hold hands. But when you are really into your special someone... you desire it and your spouse will desire to please you

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Fri 09/29/17 12:24 PM
Put up a pic... you might get more response....

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Fri 09/29/17 12:25 PM
Wow...well said.

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Fri 09/29/17 01:02 PM
Keeps getting harder each day..

Looks down at his lap..yup.. can't deny that..lmao.. it's like shooting fish in a barrel..lol

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Fri 09/29/17 01:23 PM
for me personally, kissing & holding hands fine but cuddling? no way it's long gone with my teddy bear lol i wouldnt expect my new partner to throw herself at me after hearing this cuddling thing. it takes some time but u'll b there at the end smile2

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Fri 09/29/17 02:05 PM
i think most of why it keeps getting harder is limits and walls we put up ourself

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Fri 09/29/17 02:11 PM
It would help if people were genuine and also not up their own backside.

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Fri 09/29/17 03:40 PM
I love a romantic, and good conversation, also a man who knows chivalry is not dead!

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Sun 10/01/17 03:41 AM

i think most of why it keeps getting harder is limits and walls we put up ourself

Well said! Fist reason should be found inside ourselves. Do not blame the world around yourself, look inside - all reasons are there. Change yourself and the world starts changing with you.

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Sun 10/01/17 09:21 AM

I believe it is getting harder to meet that special woman...seems like people these days aren't interested in committed relationships or serious about them, seems like sex is the only interest which is really annoying : / Also to note, are woman really not into romantic type of guys such as myself? I love cuddling and holding hands, but that really seems to be turn off! Ugh

So, I checked out your profile.. very nice.
You are 29 and have a young son.. I think you have lots of time to find that special woman and should focus on your son and education. A young father, out with his son - maybe thats a great way to meet women? ..
Oh,speaking of education, my math really sucks..so help me out here -
Your profile says you joined in 2009, your 29 as per your profile - would that have made you 8 when you joined Mingle?? yawn

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Sun 10/01/17 10:52 PM
There are a few women out there who still want that simple,romantic yet loving relationship.
I enjoy the cudding,hold hands and tight squeeze from a guy. Simple man must look for the simple woman. Never give up believing in your romantic mate.

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Mon 10/02/17 04:57 AM
Edited by IgorFrankensteen on Mon 10/02/17 04:58 AM
It's not getting any harder from my point of view. It's ALWAYS been hard.

When I was younger, it seemed easier for lots of people, but that was because we were ALL younger, and the reason why more people interacted as they did, was because they hadn't yet worked out how picky they really were.

And being a calm quite romantic who likes hand holding and cuddling has NEVER been a "hot seller." It wasn't when I was a kid back in the 1970's, and it still isn't today.

Watch out for how people have a tendency to talk about love and relationships differently than they actually live them. That's a common habit of all humans, and is a result of the fact that we CAN talk, and DO have stories to tell, but most people don't put in the real work required to make sure that the words they use, actually say what they mean to say.

And watch out too, for the fact that lots of people ARE honest about what they want, but they leave off various "prequalifications." Assumptions, really. The classic scenario for males, is hear or to read of a woman who says she wants a gentle guy who treats her with respect; but she fails to mention that what she actually wants, is a hot looking weight lifter/lounge singer/rodeo rider with wild sexual talents...who treats her with gentle respect in public, after swinging her around the rest of the house all night.

Same thing going the other way with women. The guys say they want a reliable woman who has a stable outlook on life, but they fail to include that she also needs to look like Marilyn Monroe in her prime (not as she does right this moment), likes to do housework in the nude, and lets him watch his favorite sports on a big screen TV that he bought with most of the money they'd sacrificed to save over the years.

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Mon 10/02/17 05:52 PM
well, I feel very lucky.. my hunny holds my hand everywhere we go - in the vehicle and out shopping; as for cuddling? not out of style in my world..

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Tue 10/03/17 09:27 AM
Did not expect so many replies lol. But i dont know...they way it seems the way social network is had changed a lot of how people communicate which is a big turn off to me, and I have tried to cope with it. Like I dont have a facebook, snapchat or what ever (yes thats hard to beleive) but they have changed the way we communicate and to me makes it harder to even start a relationship.

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Tue 10/03/17 09:30 AM
hmm not quite lol, back in 2009 lets see I was attending SIUC crap...so I was 21 or 22 at the time. Ha can't even remember what age I was in 2009 >_<

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Tue 10/03/17 12:38 PM

i think most of why it keeps getting harder is limits and walls we put up ourself

Makes one wonder why Neanderthals went extinct? They seem to have more common sense than the average Homo Modernus, lol.
Btw... you're not neanderthal, Eric. A loving sweet man, that's all, and one with wisdom too.
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Tue 10/03/17 02:04 PM
noooooo please don't make me be a homo modernusscared

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Tue 10/03/17 03:58 PM

noooooo please don't make me be a homo modernusscared

Haha, I guess the caveman days weren't all that bad...


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Tue 10/03/17 11:38 PM
Well put:smile::smile::smile::smile::sweat_smile::sweat_smile:

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