I met my Filipina girlfriend online through a dating site called loveme. We got along really quickly and we’ve been communicating for about a year and a half now. After all the time we spent together via video calls and chat, we figured it was time to see each other. I decided to visit her in the Philippines.

My problem is that her family are quite traditional in all forms –including romance. They don’t really approve of our online relationship since we live thousands of miles away from each other. I’ve deeply fallen in love with this woman and I’m confident that she feels the same way. Another problem with her family that they’ve mentioned is our age gap. I’m too old for her and they are concerned about how things would turn out in our relationship.

I want to prove that I am worthy as a partner and can genuinely love her and her family. I initially planned to take them out and show them how I truly am when I visit my girlfriend and her family. I’m so nervous about the whole situation since I’ve already been thinking about future marriage plans.

If things do go well, I plan on proposing to her. How can I prove to her family that I’m fit to be their daughter’s lover? How can I approach them and how can I handle the situation when I finally get to see my girlfriend? Guys, I’m desperate for help!

You want us, to tell you, how to finesse the parents.
There is only one real way.
Spend time, over time, with them all.
One's true character usually exhibits over time.

A rush job might not get you the results you want.

Hummm so you want a quick fix??

Ain't gonna happen~~~~

It takes time to win parents over I know I'm a parent...

Online dating is one thing meeting in person and seeing someone for who they really are 24/7 is a totally different story~~~

Funny how you can meet someone online and everything is hunky dory but live with them for a few months and see the true person..

Never jump into something you think is right without being around them for more then video chatting and e-mails...

It's your move no one can tell you the quick fix... and sign a pre-nup if they refuse leave them be~~

Good luck, but they are right. My last ex wife's mom didn't approve of our online meeting, and since she wasn't but 350 miles away I was able to visit fairly often. Her mom and I became close quickly after we met and talked a few times. We had 12 good years and a had one son. She already had a 4 year old when we met and I adopted him. We are still best friends and I consider her and her new husband my family.

They don't approve of your online relationship...
Wait till they find out what you've been doing on Skype together...

Ohhh...Lucy))) someone's in trouble)))
Lol

Based on a bunch of mail order bride movies I've seen, books I've read, testimonials and forums on other sites I've perused, you give them lots of money and promise to always support the family especially financially, after you show you respect their culture, beliefs, values, and group hierarchy structure.


Beats me. I've never met them.

You say you met her on another dating website.
Possibly one that is focused on hooking up older men with Filipino women.
They might have a help section.
Based on the number of movies regarding mail order brides a lot of sites have testimonials and support where you can ask people that have done exactly what you have done.

There's also the possibility, since you love your lady, you are secure in knowing she loves you, and you have been talking to each other for over a year, that you can ask your "girlfriend."


There's potentially hundreds to thousands of situations you're going to have to deal with.
You can never prepare for every single eventuality.

Other than that, why do you have to handle the situation? Is your "girlfriend" not going to help you? Are you not kind of a team at this point?

everything worth having and keeping takes time and effort. our culture is really traditional up to a point that parents are and will always be right, but as in every country it is not a hard and fast rule. a filipina is loving and loyal to her family as well or more to her own family too which is a trait that we can be proud of. imo, you have to show your sincerity and love to the whole family and they will appreciate you in time. trying to understand traditions and the effort of conforming to it is one example. learning the language is another thing too. if you are truly serious with this girl you have to accept her family too and this is not just a filipino thing, we met people , we fall in love, we should want to know and handle all the baggage that comes with the person, as it is what made the person what he is when we met them.,what made us fall for them in the first place Patience is truly a virtue and time is a gift . i truly believe in that. good luck to you sir

i would like to add that regardless of culture , it takes two people to work things out too. your filipina girlfriend should put some effort too in the relationship. if its just you then the possibilities will be impossible . then again give her time and reason to help you. analyze where and how she can help you with the situation in a realistically right way too. hope this helps

there are way too many toos there lol should have used 2 instead i am redundantly sorry.

Shhh... I don't think the grammar police noticed....

Experienced this three ways:

As a teenager with a girlfriend - did not turn out good.

As a friend of a friend with a girlfriend - did not turn out good.

As a father to a teenage girl - did not turn out good for the boy.

Essentially, speaking as a father that has a daughter, if you hurt my daughter you may not survive.

Its something I couldn't understand fully until I became a father of a daughter.

I had all boys. Yes, someone's father came looking once.. they had a long talk.

My daughter has three big brothers.
Her poor boyfriends had to first get thru them before he got my attention. If he was no-good, my sons took care of the light work.
Suffice it to say, my baby girl was pretty safe.

yes

thanks stu ... glad im not getting a ticket

Wait a second.......that's it! 15 lashes for you young lady.

Stu, dude, your pic looks like you had stitches on
your wing-wang before the mind works out it's a steering wheel.

Cool

i wonder how this story is unfolding....