A man said, he got married and gates of heaven opened and he got a good wife. Then, after 12 yrs of marriage the gates of hell opened and he got Out.



That's not a nice comment about one you first loved.

things happiend but he should say ( didn't work out )
that is it

It's not appropriate to talk bad about your ex spouse

Some people even date their ex spouse after divorce. I did for a while.

Best to part not enemies. If at all possible.

Hey, people change. Sometimes an angel turns into a harpy right before your eyes.

Do men change or are they just deceitful beforehand?

We are all lying shameless little piglets only interested in one thing.

"LOVE never dies; it only changes color and intensity through time"(jazzinc)

If you split up, just go separate ways, and burn the bridge behind you. Being drenched in bad blood only causes stress. I know what I am talking about

I heard the saying "never burn a bridge behind you". You may have to go back over it again.

Not really sure I understand the comment.

Are the gates a euphemism for legs?


Everyone changes.


Sometimes it's better to burn the bridge because it's too easy to go back over it, and you're right back in the same problems which drove you over the bridge in the first place.

With everyone new you have to build a new bridge.

Sometimes it's better to have incentive to build a new bridge rather than take the easy path back.

Ciretom
No gates are not legs! Just means an opening in time!

Change for the worse is what I meant.

Comment on Bridge burning. Well, I do think that
Sometimes past is better than Poor choices in one s future.

If there is some sort of living hell on the other side, it is better to burn the bridge and never go back.

You are basing your OP on your own personal experiences.
There are people out there that have experienced far worse.

People change over time.
Sometimes they change for the better, sometimes for the worse.

The woman I loved changed for the worse and continues to.
At one time, I loved her with all my being.
Not anymore.
Now I despise what she has become.
Even our children despise what she has become.

I still get angry with her when my children call me and tell me the newest terrible thing she has done to them or their children.
I literally HATE the person she is now.
I know I can't change her back into the person I fell in love with.
All I can do is comfort those I love as we all watch her continue to self-destruct.
Even if she finds her bottom and changes for the better, I could never love her again. That bridge burnt a long time ago.

That is a sad story Tom! I don't hate my Ex but I wouldn't want to date them again or marry them over.

People say that a couple should both take responsibility for their marriage failing.

However, a family counselor told me the breakup is always more of one person in the marriage than the other.

True

For a long time I thought it was my fault she changed that way.
Something I failed to give her.
I beat myself up over it and the depression it caused nearly ended me.
My shrink explained it to me.
It was my delusions (rose-colored glasses) that caused me not to see who she really was. I was too forgiving, made too many justifications for her natural behavior and failed to see her baseline personality till it was too late. Perhaps If I had caught it earlier or seen it from the beginning I would have made different choices. But, that is the past and there is nothing I can do about the past. That past made me who I am today and I like the person I am.
In the present, she continues to be her but I am no longer blinded by my delusions of who I thought she was. I see her as she is.
I ended the marriage, not because of her being her but because I realized she was not what I wanted in my life. The blinders of infatuation came off slowly. It was a very hard thing to do but I am better for it.
The only anger I feel for her is for what she puts our children thru. Their pain causes me anger and pain.
She may not be my wife anymore but she will always be their mother.
It makes me sad. Breaks my heart that my grandchildren don't have a meme and poppa that love each other in their lives.
Certainly NOT what I planned for them.

Personally, I am content with my own life.
Personally, I know I have love in my heart and I am capeable of showing that love to another woman.
As much as I loved her, I hate her now, maybe a bit more.
There is only one person on this planet that I hate, its her.
But...it doesn't rule me.
I forgive her for being herself, I will not forgive her for what she says and does to our children that causes them pain.

My first husband did change, he was a wonderful husband for years. My son's formed their own opinions without any help from me negative.

My second ex was an infatuation and a knight unlil he took armor off after a few months. We dated 3,yrs after our divorce. Then moved on.

Life is too short to let old Relationships tear us down.

Forgiveness helps us to move on and be open to another love in the future.

I've had dates from online and off. So I have moved on!

I'm ashamed right now !!..ashamed that I even started reading this topping.... and upon reading it further I still have no idea what it's about.... Are you ashamed of what somebody said Op.?.

Many topics don't make sence to some people. Shame on the man that made the comment .

Ranting Doc. It's just ranting.

..ohh.. I see now..... for a minute there I couldn't make sense of what the topic was about..but yes.. I get it now..thanks