“A flirtationship is that fun and flirty in-between place of being just friends and without claiming that you’re in a relationship,”

I just came across this word today and wanted to share it here in the forums. I am amused that there is such a word and figured this one should b e in the choices of what people here are looking for. I have been here for almost two years and experienced that a lot of people are just bored or trying to pass time. This word would save a lot of serious people from disappointments and heartbreaks. JMO

Perhaps we are too serious .. too busy .. to bored to notice each other. We've become far too material today. Playfulness has gone from our lives. Flirtation seems to be a relict from the past, when the men were gentlemen and women didn't offer free sex.
However, a flirtationship seems to be essential, if you're about to get yourself noticed .. to get attention from that person of whom you are interested romantically.
So in my humble opinion flirtationship still needs to lead somewhere .. towards
a true relationship .. it's like a tool .. you can't stick to flirtationship forever .. otherwise, friendship would be enough, methinks

I read somewhere that once you are in a 'flirtationship', which can lead to sex, then you find yourself to have moved in to a 'situationship', which may or may not become a 'relationship'. I guess that's because it would be a bit awkward if you were already in a relationship with someone else.

Even such a flitationship can give us a good feeling, as long as we don't lose grip to reality. But leaving the fear of heartbreak aside, it can lead to something more, as long as both have genuine feelings and give each other time

it's really working for us

We live in a freaking crazy world!
By flirting generally, with just anyone you open yourself to some dangerous people. There are a lot of batshiat crazy people out there.

Examples:
A man winks and smiles at a woman that he thinks is cute.
This woman then stalks the man and ruins his way of life.
Up to and including kidnapping, assault and death.

A woman goes to a club wearing a provocative outfit and flirts with all the men for attention.
She gets stalked and raped, assaulted or killed.

You see these examples in the NEWS all the time.
There are movies made about it.

Flirtationship as a methodology in general is very dangerous.
Television commercials have taught us the power of flirting.
Sex sells. Flirting is so common, some people see it as a way to know someone wants attention. Any attention.

I know that when I see a flirtatious woman I immediately think needy baby/greedy baby because it is a loud LOOK AT ME thing she is doing. Its different than a personal flirt.

To be honest I'm not to sure there are many "serious" people on here anymore. 5 to 10 years ago most on this site were really looking for relationships, whether it be friendships or love.

Now it is mostly scammers and fakes(probably because it is free)and the "serious" people come here to precipitate in the forums when bored.

As an example, I know when I'm done with this post there will be at least four or five young women in their 20's that are model material viewing/sending kisses etc...How can you take any of that serious.

I'm sure there are a few that are actually seeking real relationships but seem very rare. JMO

I agree.
Before I set my mail preferences I had hundreds of 20 something models from around the world flirting with me and telling me a wide range of things.
I'm here, occassionally for the forums but I like to keep an open mind thinking someone right for me will contact me. I don't expect it but its a chance nonetheless.
I do know, when I find the right one, I won't be on any dating sites anymore.
As for flirting, I consider flirting online as an entertainment and I don't take it seriously. IRL, I consider that she is just a friendly person.
If someone is really interested in ME she will make it evident so I know I am her main target. Flirting is nothing but a game. If she wants me, she will talk to me.

Not sure, if the fact, that it's a free site, is a reason for that high number of con artists. I believe, most of them would pay a small fee anyway, because they know, there is always people who fall for those scams. So a relatively small investment would be met by a relatively big profit for those con artists. JMO

I'm not saying scammers don't use pay sites but it is much harder. For one you need a credit card which means that if you are found out and removed from the site your card can be flagged and not used again for another false profile.
I have been on this site a long time and I see a LOT of women that I recognize over the years changing names, states over and over again. It doesn't really do anything to report them because they are back within hours with a new profile.

Mingle should should use an algorithm that connects fakes to an IP address to cut down on bots and scammers. This is an easy thing to do within the database configuration.

I wasn't aware of that credit card business part, but sure it's a valuable point you made.


But one thing, I noticed, even if I am only here for a couple of months. Some of those profile pics used by con artists, seem to be from the same photographer. Similar settings, for example pictures taken in a car. At least, that's how I noticed, pictures were not taken in Ireland, though the con artist tells you, she is from Dublin, Cork, etc

Mostly people flirt on dating sites, unless you are shy. Doesn't mean the person is looking for any serious relationship with person they first with.

Some people are known flirters.

And there is those who are able to flirt, make compliments, send vitual kisses, etc, but who in 'real life' are shy as a little buttercup, and almost faint, when they hear the voice of the girl, they admire, for the first time on Skype

What a long sentence, sorry about that

Flirting on a dating site does not always seem sincere ., more about boosting egos and popularity

This is true. But at least, for me life had never been a pupularity contest anyway. And if 'ego' can be seen in a positive way, it is boosted already in a very special way by a very special person

I would rather win someone's heart than their ego lars.. but I understand we all have different needs and approach flirting with different agendas

Did you buy your clothes in a sale, in my home they would be 100% off

why are you still dressed

Dunno if it's even possible, to win someone's ego, as the ego sometimes prevents us from many things, as in false pride. But it seems, my heart has been won already