Do you ever find, being yourself, an absolutely stellar human being with flaws, of course, but you know you are good and worthy of love...yet it eludes you and you spend your days and nights wondering if you will ever meet your soul mate? I do.

Welcome to mingle.
I think many of us find ourselves in that state of being sometimes.
As for me, i have decided if i can't matter to somebody, i can do what matters.
I wish you all the best.

As i trudge the road to happy destiny.. I must enjoy the scenery.. For love awaits just ahead.. With open arms

Thank you dreamerana and NOBootyHunter...i appreciate the wisdom, your well wishes and your time.

They say there's someone for everyone. Maybe sometimes expectations have to be lowered.

No, I don't loose sleep! No man is perfect.
I have met in person several men I couldn't live with.

However, I am still hopeful.

I've always been a giver in past relationship. I know I'm worthy of equal treatment. So, I'm taking my time and being picky. I don't mind being alone till I find someone special.

This looks like a job for . . .

I've always been to open-hearted and too much of a giver. And because of it I have been used and abused too many times. So now, I don't think about it anymore. I've reached a point in my life where I feel like I'm sorta straddling the fence. Part of me cares. Part of me doesn't.

Part of me wouldn't mind meeting a good woman that I could be with the rest of my life. Part of me doesn't care anymore. Being alone isn't that bad. My home is paid for. I've got plenty of land around me and I come and go as I please. Yes, there are times I get kinda lonesome. But not lonesome enough.

That need that I think we all have every now and then too have a warm body next to us at night, that isn't that hard to get either. So, for me, I don't lose any sleep over it.

Yes i do but not losing my head over it. Reality always sinks in but it doesn’t mean i cannot dream there’s proof with others , the lucky ones that sometimes the dream that you wish comes true. Good luck and welcome to the forums

I think for most the problem is that they have way too many walls & shields up because
- they've been hurt before
- don't truly love themselves
- don't feel they are really worthy
- don't have healthy boundaries (hence the protective walls)
- have difficulty receiving (women) and tend to give/please
- try too hard to accommodate the other as opposed to being themselves because of all of the above.
- Judge a new potential partner based on past experiences as opposed to being open and giving them a chance

Many say they feel worthy of love, but when you start working with them like I do with courses on this subject ALL of the above comes up in most everyone of them. So when it comes to the crunch they don't feel all that worthy at all, usually the opposite.

To quote a very good friend of mine ... I don't expect anything

Don't let it haunt you, but I know what you're saying. Hang in there, the one will come.

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Kristi

Thank you Kristi.

In my experience it happens when you are not really searching and it doesn't happen on a web site.

It happens in real life places, the food store, work, running errands around town, the kids after school sports fields, ect, ect... places like that.

Maybe if you put less pressure on yourself and just lead your life.. you will " run into him"... It does happen.

JMO

I agree greeneyes148. Thank you.