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Edited by
Riverspirit1111
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Wed 07/18/18 04:15 AM
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when it comes to any stage of dating .. communication is important .. if you tell a man in the "screening" stage you wish to take your time getting to know him and do not want to jump into a relationship .. one of two things will happen .. he will want to continue and date you .. or he will move onto someone else . If he dates you and respects you, there should be no pressure . So.. perhaps do some quality control on your screening process before accepting dates :-) I hear what you're saying Blondey, agree and like it. I just want to know when they are going to start lining up so they can be screened?  I believe that's probably why some don't take the steps to screen. For some of us it's been a year, two years, or even longer since dating someone or having anyone show any interest. So when they do show interest there's tendency to put the "cart before the bull" and jump for it without taking the time to screen the date or find out if you are compatible. As for screening and lining men up .. I do not believe men are not interested in you river ... That is rubbish .. online dating would not be my choice for meeting men .. if it was i would definitely look locally  The old fashion kind of courtship that lasts a year or longer does seem to be rare these days. My son and his wife had one of those, they dated for one year, were engaged for one year, and have been married for three years... They are still learning to live together. It take does the sharing the day-to-day life to see if you are compatible... I feel the same way about that. And yes, it's rubbish. It's not really them that's not interested, I guess it's me! I've spent so long attracting the wrong man for me, I'm a little gun shy to get back out there and begin working on attracting the right ones. |
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when it comes to any stage of dating .. communication is important .. if you tell a man in the "screening" stage you wish to take your time getting to know him and do not want to jump into a relationship .. one of two things will happen .. he will want to continue and date you .. or he will move onto someone else . If he dates you and respects you, there should be no pressure . So.. perhaps do some quality control on your screening process before accepting dates :-) I hear what you're saying Blondey, agree and like it. I just want to know when they are going to start lining up so they can be screened? I believe that's probably why some don't take the steps to screen. For some of us it's been a year, two years, or even longer since dating someone or having anyone show any interest. So when they do show interest there's tendency to put the "cart before the bull" and jump for it without taking the time to screen the date or find out if you are compatible. As for screening and lining men up .. I do not believe men are not interested in you river ... That is rubbish .. online dating would not be my choice for meeting men .. if it was i would definitely look locally The old fashion kind of courtship that lasts a year or longer does seem to be rare these days. My son and his wife had one of those, they dated for one year, were engaged for one year, and have been married for three years... They are still learning to live together. It does the sharing the day-to-day life to see if you are compatible... I feel the same way about that. And yes, it's rubbish. It's not really them that's not interested, I guess it's me! I've spent so long attracting the wrong man for me, I'm a little gun shy to get back out there and begin working on attracting the right ones.  No more twats or I am going to hook you up with my brother 
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No more twats or I am going to hook you up with my brother  I'll be on the first flight in November Thanks Blondey... I will wait until I leave this job, but when I get to my next destination I'll definitely start putting myself out there. (Northern Michigan is way to cold to settle down... in case I end up falling in love ) I'm thinking when I'm ready to do that, one of those parties that some cultures do when the girl is "of age" to date would be fun, lol. I can start a thread and get tips and clues on how to relax and just have fun while attracting dates 
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No more twats or I am going to hook you up with my brother I'll be on the first flight in November Thanks Blondey... I will wait until I leave this job, but when I get to my next destination I'll definitely start putting myself out there. (Northern Michigan is way to cold to settle down... in case I end up falling in love ) I'm thinking when I'm ready to do that, one of those parties that some cultures do when the girl is "of age" to date would be fun, lol. I can start a thread and get tips and clues on how to relax and just have fun while attracting dates I am sure you will have lots of fun with your holiday . Tell the airline to sit you next to only single handsome eligible men lol. Sometimes you have to be a little cheeky :-) Hawaii sounds warm 
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Edited by
Riverspirit1111
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Wed 07/18/18 04:59 AM
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Oooo good idea, lol. Yes, I decided since my main reason for going to Europe is no longer a reason, doesn't make sense going some place cold, go where it's warm and tropical... beaches and hunks with a tan |
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I like what you wrote...so true
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You are absolutely right ... I think they only see the appearance and interest of the physical opposite sex, so they desire to make love, so they are too quick to establish relationships with the opposite sex ... While trying to interact and bring personalities closer will make a relationship will be comfortable when both partners have committed each other
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Totally Agree with you,, what ever happened to just old fashion dating.. Now day's men seem to think that dating means a sexual hook up for some reason... I miss the days of just dating spending time with someone and getting to know them before intimacy ever happens ... I'm Not Just The Only Man Who Like That, On the contrary It's Like That .. In It Looks Clear How a personality personality portion of a person is measurable .. Because If someone likes their opposite sex instead of Bust for making love .. He will try to dive into the opposing personality the type ... |
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Glad I’m not the only one who notices the change in the single guys their behavior. I understand what you mean when you say “ a few dates of him just being charming “ . I don’t want to bind myself to someone so quickly either. I prefer keeping my options open. I know myself : once the novelty of the dating partner wears off, I start to look around again. I always have this problem. I can’t count my blesses when staying with one person. After a few days I miss the adventure that comes with being single. Guys these days - don’t know if it’s also that way with guys your age - want to know who is texting you, why you are taking so long to answer, why you are not looking happy when you are on a date with them, why you were talking to the guy from the table next to you in the restaurant, they start immediately wanting sex, ask your taste in furniture ( really happened ) as if we are going to live together or something. One guy even told me that he didn’t like that I would still be studying for 4 more years. As if I was going to change my life choices for a person I barely knew 3 weeks. I hate all the presumptions that come with dating. All the expectations. I wish there was something like cuddle buddies or so. Like friends with benefits but without the sex. Sex is too exhausting after a while. Cuddling gives you energy. But guys always want sex. Not All Men prioritize Sex in a Relationship, but all depends on one's personal capacity, because every character who makes a person grow is different. Sometimes men also need a woman who accompanies and fills the time in his life |
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I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life.  ️️
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we live in a fast food world of make beliefs from hollywood and harliquen
If one meets someone and there isnt instant "chemistry" they are kicked to the curb. Some men ( and women) treat dating as a online buffett, willing to sample everything Some folks are just too desperate for a relationship and they want it right away, you meet them for a meet and greet and if they get along they are planning for a date, and after date one if thinks go well its planning for date two, then three and assuming sex happened by date three, because you have to test out the merchandise before you commit long term right? What was that saying why buy the milk when you get the cow for free? The days of courting and getting to know a person for long term has gone way of the do do bird. Very few people respect that, and even today dating is politicized, I see the average liberal woman will say hey whatever you don't live for ever, where the average conservative woman will wait, and want to get to know you actually planning to get into a committed relationship, its not to say Liberal women dont but they have a more open view when it comes to sex vs the average conservative woman. |
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