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I think a lot of guys assume that chemistry translates into all round compatibility so once that immediate connection/attraction is established, there is no need to dig any deeper to guage further suitability. They consider sex or a relationship to be the only logical next step
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"what happened to dating?"
The retarded kid from DH ate it all. ....... No clue why fools rush into anything. It's akin to buying a new car. Only a fool invests in a car, without a very thorough test drive. |
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I think a lot of guys assume that chemistry translates into all round compatibility so once that immediate connection/attraction is established, there is no need to dig any deeper to guage further suitability. They consider sex or a relationship to be the only logical next step That's not true at all . Not even close. 4 or 5 pages does not constitute a book. Assuming you're intrigued by the opening pages you might find yourself going thru the first chapter. And as everyone knows chapter 2 comes next. In the dating world or my world to be exact , that's checking under the hood. |
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I think a lot of guys assume that chemistry translates into all round compatibility so once that immediate connection/attraction is established, there is no need to dig any deeper to guage further suitability. They consider sex or a relationship to be the only logical next step That's not true at all . Not even close. 4 or 5 pages does not constitute a book. Assuming you're intrigued by the opening pages you might find yourself going thru the first chapter. And as everyone knows chapter 2 comes next. In the dating world or my world to be exact , that's checking under the hood. Notice I didn't say ALL GUYS. I said alot :) |
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rush into the boredom of a relationship Boredom? Its sad that anyone would think their relationship is boring. I was married to the same woman for 25 years and while it was good sometimes and bad sometimes it was Never Boring. |
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I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life. Boredom of a relationship? What the heck kind of relationships have you been in? I don't find a relationship boring at all. But that's within your own control. If you change from a happy and playful woman into a Susie Homemaker I guess the fun dies down real fast, especially if the guy does the same thing. I actually feel it only gets better and better when in a relationship, provided of course you are with the right person. You get to know each other better, the bond deepens, and if you both are happy individuals and quite empowered you keep things alive, still keep doing your own things in life and so on. You inspire one another and grow and learn and both have fun and more serious stuff. If you're with the right person, you both thrive. |
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I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life. Boredom of a relationship? What the heck kind of relationships have you been in? I don't find a relationship boring at all. But that's within your own control. If you change from a happy and playful woman into a Susie Homemaker I guess the fun dies down real fast, especially if the guy does the same thing. I actually feel it only gets better and better when in a relationship, provided of course you are with the right person. You get to know each other better, the bond deepens, and if you both are happy individuals and quite empowered you keep things alive, still keep doing your own things in life and so on. You inspire one another and grow and learn and both have fun and more serious stuff. If you're with the right person, you both thrive. Doffs cap |
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Edited by
Up2youandme
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Tue 07/17/18 12:20 PM
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I think a lot of guys assume that chemistry translates into all round compatibility so once that immediate connection/attraction is established, there is no need to dig any deeper to guage further suitability. They consider sex or a relationship to be the only logical next step Well in your opinion then what's the next logical step? And trust me it ain't a relationship.  IMHO
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right?
Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. |
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right? Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. That's what I thought you meant verbatim. Mommy this mommy that like crisis rock said who did they think was at the coal mine for 12 hours to pay the heating bill? It sure ain't mommy !!! |
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right? Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. Ahh.. Nothing beats a good Lasagna.. not even sex |
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I worked with my ex so I can tell you he didn't work very hard. He dang sure didnt volunteer for ot like I did. Women might be willing to jump quickly into a relationship if they got something out of it. But as it is, we pay our own mortgage and get a guy with needs. Not much in return, if anything.
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I worked with my ex so I can tell you he didn't work very hard. He dang sure didnt volunteer for ot like I did. Women might be willing to jump quickly into a relationship if they got something out of it. But as it is, we pay our own mortgage and get a guy with needs. Not much in return, if anything. So you want a guy who you can throw the odd bone too |
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Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. What you are describing is a job or slavery not an intimate relationship. I'm quite capable of taking care of myself. We all have life chores that must be done. It's much more fun to do them with someone together. I don't want to or need to 'own' a woman. I don't want or need a woman to 'own' me. If I want someone to cook, clean and take care of me, I'll hire a maid or a nurse. My girlfriend is not meant to be my mother. She's meant to be my best friend. |
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Guys want their sexual needs met too soon. I've gone out with guys anywhere from once to 4 times who insisted on a relationship. I wasn't ready because I wasn't sure we were compatible enough for a relationship. I noticed 1 guy had real relationship as his user name. He had some negatives he needed to fix but was focused on a relationship to meet his sexual needs. I tried to get him to agree to be friends so I could get to know him without him trying to get my alone in his apt. He declined.
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I worked with my ex so I can tell you he didn't work very hard. He dang sure didnt volunteer for ot like I did. Women might be willing to jump quickly into a relationship if they got something out of it. But as it is, we pay our own mortgage and get a guy with needs. Not much in return, if anything. Just a tad bitter. Its all over then for all us men. I guess we will be called Beta's or Incel's next. We are not worthy. |
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I think a lot of guys assume that chemistry translates into all round compatibility so once that immediate connection/attraction is established, there is no need to dig any deeper to guage further suitability. They consider sex or a relationship to be the only logical next step Well in your opinion then what's the next logical step? And trust me it ain't a relationship. IMHO Dating ofcourse! :) |
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Edited by
Easttowest72
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Tue 07/17/18 01:23 PM
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I worked with my ex so I can tell you he didn't work very hard. He dang sure didnt volunteer for ot like I did. Women might be willing to jump quickly into a relationship if they got something out of it. But as it is, we pay our own mortgage and get a guy with needs. Not much in return, if anything. Just a tad bitter. Its all over then for all us men. I guess we will be called Beta's or Incel's next. We are not worthy. I'm not bitter. I just don't want to skip to the end. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone I don't have feelings for. I can't have feels for someone until I get to know them at least a little bit. It's true that men seem to take a lot more than they give. |
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Oh you mean your first stage is hours on the phone , walls of text on the phone , and then date? Gotcha
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right? Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. I asked one about the bike she had in her pics LOL Got about the same response. 
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