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I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life. Do you honestly believe what you're saying? Do you really wanna buy the farm alone? I suppose that is your right if you so desire but the prevailing philosophy of people your age seems to indicate the opposite. Actially, I own a small farm and my name is the only one on the deed. I didn't set out to be alone but reality is most people get divorced. From what I've seen there is usually one person pulling the weight. A relationship wouldn't be bad after I get to know someone. But reality is most guys I date don't make it that far. |
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Oh you mean your first stage is hours on the phone , walls of text on the phone , and then date? Gotcha  Actually, I would avoid answering the phone with the last guy I went out with because I can't handle 2 hours on the phone every night. But yes I talk and text before I ever go out with a guy. It's to determine if I want to go out on a date with him. You seem to only care about the woman's pics. I think that is the problem with the guys I'm dating. They think I'm doable so nothing else matters. But on my side I'm getting to know them and want to wait. |
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I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life. Do you honestly believe what you're saying? Do you really wanna buy the farm alone? I suppose that is your right if you so desire but the prevailing philosophy of people your age seems to indicate the opposite. Actially, I own a small farm and my name is the only one on the deed. I didn't set out to be alone but reality is most people get divorced. From what I've seen there is usually one person pulling the weight. A relationship wouldn't be bad after I get to know someone. But reality is most guys I date don't make it that far. *bought the farm* , *pushing up daisies *, *6 feet under* , * kick the bucket * .... all refers to a person dying .... so when I say you wanna buy a farm alone, I'm saying do you wanna die alone ..... But hey your choices are your choices. |
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It's true that men seem to take a lot more than they give. Keyword is SEEM. Women who seem to be afraid of sex, seem to think all men only want sex. Seem is a conclusion based on a one-sided view. The moment any two people begin interacting a relationship is formed. If a guy wants to date you he is seeking to build a closer relationship with you. If he didn't want to be in a relationship with you he would not be interested at all. The goal of a romantic date is to be in an intimate relationship. An intimate relationship often includes a sexual relationship caused by that intimacy. Platonic relationships have different goals than intimacy. A platonic date has no sexual posturing or personal intimacy. One must be honest to themselves for their reason for dating anyone. If you think he's cute, handsome or gorgeous its intimate. |
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I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life. Do you honestly believe what you're saying? Do you really wanna buy the farm alone? I suppose that is your right if you so desire but the prevailing philosophy of people your age seems to indicate the opposite. Actially, I own a small farm and my name is the only one on the deed. I didn't set out to be alone but reality is most people get divorced. From what I've seen there is usually one person pulling the weight. A relationship wouldn't be bad after I get to know someone. But reality is most guys I date don't make it that far. *bought the farm* , *pushing up daisies *, *6 feet under* , * kick the bucket * .... all refers to a person dying .... so when I say you wanna buy a farm alone, I'm saying do you wanna die alone ..... But hey your choices are your choices. In reality most women die alone because we live longer. My mom outlived my dad by 23 years and my step dad by 5. |
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right? Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. I am not single because I feel relationships are boring. I'm single because the ones I was in didn't work out. And that had nothing to do with them being boring or not so great. Guys like to eat, so do I. I also want a clean house. Which mean both do these things. Sometimes one will cook, sometimes the other, sometimes together, which is great fun! I don't like cooking, but cooking with a partner is great! The boredom of cooking and cleaning and so on... you got that when you're single too. I make that fun. I often dance and sing whilst doing it. Matter of mindset. You can enjoy life, even the chores, or you can feel the glass is half empty... 
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I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life. Boredom of a relationship? What the heck kind of relationships have you been in? I don't find a relationship boring at all. But that's within your own control. If you change from a happy and playful woman into a Susie Homemaker I guess the fun dies down real fast, especially if the guy does the same thing. I actually feel it only gets better and better when in a relationship, provided of course you are with the right person. You get to know each other better, the bond deepens, and if you both are happy individuals and quite empowered you keep things alive, still keep doing your own things in life and so on. You inspire one another and grow and learn and both have fun and more serious stuff. If you're with the right person, you both thrive. Doffs cap Believe it or not, I had to Google that, lol. Thank you, Joe! 
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Wow just wow
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It's true that men seem to take a lot more than they give. Keyword is SEEM. Women who seem to be afraid of sex, seem to think all men only want sex. Seem is a conclusion based on a one-sided view. The moment any two people begin interacting a relationship is formed. If a guy wants to date you he is seeking to build a closer relationship with you. If he didn't want to be in a relationship with you he would not be interested at all. The goal of a romantic date is to be in an intimate relationship. An intimate relationship often includes a sexual relationship caused by that intimacy. Platonic relationships have different goals than intimacy. A platonic date has no sexual posturing or personal intimacy. One must be honest to themselves for their reason for dating anyone. If you think he's cute, handsome or gorgeous its intimate. Lots of guys only want sex. That's a fact. Being attracted doesn't mean you should jump in bed. At my age guys aren't as good looking as they use to be. They need to have more personality. If the personality is showing flaws it causes a woman to take more time before she agrees to a relationship. |
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Sign of the times.
Instant gratification. No patience. Those who have been alone for a considerable time are probably wanting to get someone locked in for steady supply of sex. After that thrill wears off I doubt the relationship lasts much longer. It's my opinion that there is the highest percentage of selfish, "out for themselves" types out there than ever before. The number of dating and hookup sites/apps leads people into feeling that there is an endless supply of potential out there which translates into each of us being that much more disposable. |
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right? Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. I am not single because I feel relationships are boring. I'm single because the ones I was in didn't work out. And that had nothing to do with them being boring or not so great. Guys like to eat, so do I. I also want a clean house. Which mean both do these things. Sometimes one will cook, sometimes the other, sometimes together, which is great fun! I don't like cooking, but cooking with a partner is great! The boredom of cooking and cleaning and so on... you got that when you're single too. I make that fun. I often dance and sing whilst doing it. Matter of mindset. You can enjoy life, even the chores, or you can feel the glass is half empty... I just ate a garden salad. No meat at all. What man can survive on that? I was married for over 20 years and I can tell you the woman does most if not all of the house work. I've listened to guys complaining they did all the cooking while trying to figure out how to turn on the oven lol. If relationships are so great, what happened to your spouse? Why haven't you found a new relationship? |
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right? Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. I am not single because I feel relationships are boring. I'm single because the ones I was in didn't work out. And that had nothing to do with them being boring or not so great. Guys like to eat, so do I. I also want a clean house. Which mean both do these things. Sometimes one will cook, sometimes the other, sometimes together, which is great fun! I don't like cooking, but cooking with a partner is great! The boredom of cooking and cleaning and so on... you got that when you're single too. I make that fun. I often dance and sing whilst doing it. Matter of mindset. You can enjoy life, even the chores, or you can feel the glass is half empty... I just ate a garden salad. No meat at all. What man can survive on that? I was married for over 20 years and I can tell you the woman does most if not all of the house work. I've listened to guys complaining they did all the cooking while trying to figure out how to turn on the oven lol. If relationships are so great, what happened to your spouse? Why haven't you found a new relationship? So what's the problem? You eat your salad, a man can eat meat. If a man wants meat does that mean you have to eat it too and cannot have your salad? My husband of 10 years helped in and around the house, with the kids, and often cooked too. Friday after dinner we went through the entire house together to do a big cleaning. He did most of the heavier stuff like the floors. Took us 1-2 hrs, then we started the weekend with a nice, clean house. Shopping together, he carried all the stuff. My second partner of 10 years didn't do much around the house, we had different views regarding 'clean' and 'hygiene' (he wasn't Dutch, which had a lot to do with it) but he did take out the garbage, and also cooked quite regularly, fill/empty the dishwasher and helped with the laundry. We did shopping together and he carried it all as I have back problems. My third partner and I didn't live together, we didn't get to that point. But he helped out when we were together and often he cooked, he loved cooking and was good at it too, and he liked cooking for me/us. Made me feel  Sometimes we cooked together and had great fun doing so. We did shopping together as well. Why I am single or haven't found a partner again has nothing to do with relationships being boring or not great, nor with your OP. |
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So now it's competition as opposed to discussion.
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There is a misconception that men don't cook or do laundry.. or help around the house. Many do.
While I admit, I may not cook as good as the ladies, I can and do.. cook. |
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If relationships are so great, we would all be in one; right? Turning into Suzie homemaker comes with the territory. Guys like to eat and live in a clean house. I have some ask about my cooking skills before they ever meet me. Sex is great but it's nice for a guy to just be charming without expectations. Like I said before. I wants some time before the boredom of cooking everyday, laundry, cleaning, and his needs start. I am not single because I feel relationships are boring. I'm single because the ones I was in didn't work out. And that had nothing to do with them being boring or not so great. Guys like to eat, so do I. I also want a clean house. Which mean both do these things. Sometimes one will cook, sometimes the other, sometimes together, which is great fun! I don't like cooking, but cooking with a partner is great! The boredom of cooking and cleaning and so on... you got that when you're single too. I make that fun. I often dance and sing whilst doing it. Matter of mindset. You can enjoy life, even the chores, or you can feel the glass is half empty... I just ate a garden salad. No meat at all. What man can survive on that? I was married for over 20 years and I can tell you the woman does most if not all of the house work. I've listened to guys complaining they did all the cooking while trying to figure out how to turn on the oven lol. If relationships are so great, what happened to your spouse? Why haven't you found a new relationship? So what's the problem? You eat your salad, a man can eat meat. If a man wants meat does that mean you have to eat it too and cannot have your salad? My husband of 10 years helped in and around the house, with the kids, and often cooked too. Friday after dinner we went through the entire house together to do a big cleaning. He did most of the heavier stuff like the floors. Took us 1-2 hrs, then we started the weekend with a nice, clean house. Shopping together, he carried all the stuff. My second partner of 10 years didn't do much around the house, we had different views regarding 'clean' and 'hygiene' (he wasn't Dutch, which had a lot to do with it) but he did take out the garbage, and also cooked quite regularly, fill/empty the dishwasher and helped with the laundry. We did shopping together and he carried it all as I have back problems. My third partner and I didn't live together, we didn't get to that point. But he helped out when we were together and often he cooked, he loved cooking and was good at it too, and he liked cooking for me/us. Made me feel Sometimes we cooked together and had great fun doing so. We did shopping together as well. Why I am single or haven't found a partner again has nothing to do with relationships being boring or not great, nor with your OP. That's avoiding the question. If men weren't looking for benefits, they wouldn't be trying to jump into a relationship so quickly. What's wrong with taking time to date instead of mixing chores and bodily fluids. Like I saud, people who are all for it should be in a relationship. |
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People, they can screw up a wet dream.
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OP, you have things somewhat
bass ackward. If the "benefits" aren't any good, a relationship isn't worth having, or even pursuing. |
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OP, you have things somewhat bass ackward. If the "benefits" aren't any good, a relationship isn't worth having, or even pursuing. Women can get sex anytime we want. In fact I just got an offer to come drink wine in the tub with a guy I use to date. The problem is he isn't relationship material so I passed. I get the guy is looking for what benefits him. But women are looking for what benefits us. So I want to date and see if the guy is quality. I want smart, dependable, fun to be around, good morals. You don't know that about someone in a week. That's what dating is for. |
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Otay
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OP, you have things somewhat bass ackward. If the "benefits" aren't any good, a relationship isn't worth having, or even pursuing. Women can get sex anytime we want. In fact I just got an offer to come drink wine in the tub with a guy I use to date. The problem is he isn't relationship material so I passed. I get the guy is looking for what benefits him. But women are looking for what benefits us. So I want to date and see if the guy is quality. I want smart, dependable, fun to be around, good morals. You don't know that about someone in a week. That's what dating is for. Haha what do you say to that Rock? Reminds of a fart in a hurricane don't it?
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