my husband had left me when I was pregnant and said that our long distance relationship could not work because he had found someone else. was a divorce a sin? he said marriage is just a paper then i think he no longer loves me and kids .nothing is right or wrong, he deserves live better and get more perfect, I can not fight anything because of the distance nor to defend myself I am not able , he gives me a choice that I have to accept and raise up my children alone .we can not meet again or communicate again.. I forgive him . Anyone agree divorce is not a mistakes but just not my luck

Marriage means different things to different people. Certainly it SHOULD be more than a paper, more like a permanent bond, but stuff happens.
Depends where you and he live at the moment whether you can get child support , assets etc.
Advice: get a good lawyer, and concentrate on your kids and give them all the love you have. Good luck

I do not understand the distance part of your post.

Why the distance?
Are you speaking geographically or spiritually, or both?

Luck is a figment that doesn't exist.

Kids are goats and children are humans.

@ thanks serchin for your advice. I’m giving birth in my home country and he is in NZ . I can’t find a lawyer and I won’t get any assets because I’m not citizens yet . So I give up and what I can do give my kids all the love I have .

@Blake , we are in different country at this moment

im in nz and have been through a divorce, maybe i can help you with some guidance. better yet, track this ex down and slap some sence into him

Well aleena I don't understand your post at all ...

Your profile says you are in Auckland .. that is in nz!!!

Have you been living together ???
Were you legally married ??? I what country ???Citizenship would not be so difficult for you if that were the case .
You say you have children .. is he the father of those children too ??

@trudds. Thanks . Pls give me your guidance how go this through . I won’t able to slap him too expensive for airfare just one slap .

Hi Blondey, yes we have been living together , legally married in nz but when I was pregnant Return to my home country and giving birth which is 2 months ago.

I think the most important thing you can do is find healthy self-esteem and inner peace. It will help you with life and raising your children in a healthy environment.

Its not about your X anymore.
You can only live behind your own eyes.
Its about you and your children.

You should break all contact with him and move to a new location.
Stop allowing him to abuse you and your children.
Take away his power over you.
Take back your power.
Find your tranquility.
Create your own stable home for your children.
Put your 'focus' where it needs to be.

My opinion based on what little info you shared.
I'm not a counselor, just a man.

@ Tom, thanks for your advice . Yeah I’m already in different country not just new location, still trying to get settle down and heals

not sure what influenced your decision to return home but legally had your child been born in nz your rights and entitlement would have been much stronger . If you have access to free legal advice...I would recommend you seek legal help . Congratulatons on the birth of your baby . I hope you are both safe and well

I don't know.. something is just not adding up here. Reverts back to money.. as in.. send me money.

Sounds like the op needs an attorney. If she is already divorced she should have a child support order. Here we have child support recovery

Thanks Blondey , yeah we are safe. Visa issues make me can’t stay in nz although I got legally married so that I have to return to my home country to give birth , and we have to be apart for a while was our plan waiting for baby born but never know something turn up before born and we have to be apart forever

hi

corinthians 7

12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances;

There is Biblical scripture that makes concession in cases of abandonment by a spouse.

I hope this helps.