Yes, I can relate.
I do read profiles and do make assumptions based on the profiles and the responses they give.
I think most of us that are 'looking for' someone in particular do the same.
In person, we get a 'vibe' that tells us to just move on but online, that 'vibe' is missing and unless that person actually responds to us with a "no, move on, I'm not interested" we tend to think we just need to try harder.
That is where the 'No Reply Is A Reply' rule of thumb comes in.

Online, people seem to have a problem letting go.
Those same people might read in person indifference perfectly but online they lose that ability.

Your expectations are understandable. However, the internet can be a weird place. It's not impolite to ignore or not reply online. It's to be understood that no reply is a reply. This is especially true on dating sites.

Also there may be other factors involved such as them not getting your messages, not be able to access the site, etc.

I think the MOST important thing to consider online is to realize this is 'merely a tool' and to remember to use the tool so it is most effective.

To use this tool effectively, you respond to those that respond back to you and ignore all the rest.

Lets say you send out a hello message to 100 people.
If you get one potential match responding back, the tool was effective.
If you get zero responses from 100 possible matches, you should rethink your messages and have another look at your profile, something is not right. If it were, you would get responses.

I was on here around two years before I found a match.
Not a perfect match but a match. Making it perfect is our job, together, not the tool's.
I sent out more than 500 messages but as far as I'm concerned, the tool (this site) was 100% effective.
That's because I did find a match and it did grow into a relationship.
It did exactly what I wanted it to do.
My goal was to find 'one' and I found 'one'.
My goal wasn't to find every possible match.
It takes patience and perseverance.

Blah, Blah, Blah What a Whiney site this is. You could be talking about other things like the best dancing places to go to to meet and keep in shape. Coffee houses and Bars that you find exciting. The Burger joint that plays nothing but 50's music. I'm trying to get the girls that work there to sing some 50's stuff like Shawna Na. They are all in their 20's. I keep telling them it will be fun. Do any of you catch the bus just to have a new experience. You get a Senior pass at Central and ride free on weekends. They have special buses in San Antonio that go to the 5 Missions in San Antonio, Tx.

I concur soufie!! life was simpler back in the 'day'.. when Just say HI was more user friendly.. meaning there were fewer if no scammers.. so responding was easier.. I'd always reply to an email.. even one containing a simple "hi.." just cuz, IMO.. no one should be ignored.. or they were just shy, not knowing what to say..

today however.. online dating site users are more scammer driven, sadly, which makes it difficult to know who is real and who isn't.. therefore, less people are inclined to respond to random emails..

all boils down to belief's and character!

A VERY old and common Online Dating complaint/demand.

As always, the OP is 100% in the wrong, as is anyone who supports his demands.

This has nothing to do with "courtesy," it has EVERYTHING to do with manipulation and one-sided plays for control/power.

I don't care who you are, you do NOT have any right EVER, to demand as you have, that YOU are the only one who decides whether or not a conversation takes place.

It is people who make DEMANDS like this, who do the most to DESTROY everyone else's ability to BE courteous. They make it DANGEROUS to be courteous.

on those if they cant be bothered to fill it out then i can't be bothered to reply to them. I even say in my profile for guys to fill it out if they want a response from me.

Ive been trying to reply to everyone whether im interested or not-unfortunately some dont like hearing no so i end up blocking and or reporting them.

If they are obscene or appear to be scammers then no reply of course and i block them.

I think that can be a HUGE issue, it is for me. The profiles are also a tool. I do not think someone's appearance alone will ever tell you WHO they are or what you might have in common to build a relationship upon. I do not understand, although they have every right to, people who waste their time with hellos or his without even reading a profile to see if that person they are addressing is REALLY even someone that interests them. Yes, you could ask questions and wait for replies, but WHY? Many of those answers could be right there in the profile up front.

I dont get that personally. If I am going to take time to address someone, I use the tool that is there to make sure they are someone that I have common interest with before I spend my time waiting for a response from someone that doesnt interest me to begin with.

There are just FAR more options online than wandering around in real life, where everyone is on their way to do something or hypnotized by their gadgets. Here, people are EXCLUSIVELY making themselves available and looking for who else is available. Its a different ball of wax.

But I do think alot of people would save alot of time by reading profiles FIRST.

I'll often ask questions that are already answered in profiles simply to see if the information is accurate. If for example their profile says they live in my city, but they say they live in another country, that's a red flag.

Well said.

I just told a man, I wasn't the right match for him! He said ok.
That went very well. He was a great catch for some older lady but he lived In the Country.


: