People have tendency to remember good memories after breaking up, he was an *** but i cant help but lure myself that he was a great man . Damn

there's one i still remember after 35 years amy.

So, don't try to forget.
That's a negative suggestion
Like saying, don't look down
Instead you say, look straight ahead
Make some new memories

That is the science of manipulation, deflection, and be-littlement. Those are the tools Azzholios use to brainwashing you into thinking that they are more significant than others....wake-up bell says to them, that they are made of deception, and are not great.


They are thieves of other's valuable time.

Having the same problem. 15 years together and she cheated. Been seperated for a year and just got the divorce papers. Everytime I see her its hard

It always is, learn form the situation. I still remember my first wife and we divorced in 1988. Put your energy into something that is positive for you.
Self improvement makes you a better person.

only the sufferer knows this pain better .

Meh... I barely recall my ex's name.

If you choose to move on with your life, this will change. It's as simple as that. Then you get your focus off of it, plus you are motivated, feel you are worthy of happiness, and then you're also willing to work through any remaining issues and pains.
It's important to see why it went wrong, what you had to learn from it.
If you love yourself you choose to move on. The rest -the things I said above- will follow.

I forgot my ex when she said "get out". Unfortunately I remembered her when she asked "where's my alimony?"

A difficult concept to grasp during fresh heartbreak is the fact that wisdom is gained by 'both' good and bad experiences.
Consider if no wisdom is gained, you are doomed to repeat the heartbreak until the wisdom is realized.

Consider a few facts:

* Your heart was broken, trust failed, love lost
* That person who hurt you did not always hurt you because love did exist.
* One thing always constant is the fact that things always change.
* Nobody on this planet sees thru your eyes.
* The fact someone has loved you means you are a person worthy to be loved.
* The fact you have loved another proves you have the capacity to love.
* There are many reasons why we make poor choices and all of them are our own fault.
* No matter how hard you might try, you can NEVER MAKE someone else love you.
* Just because one person was a poor choice doesn't mean all are.
* Even wise choices first require a choice to be made.
* Wisdom is required to make a wise choice.
* It takes two to make a relationship but it also takes two to break one.

Everything you are at this moment is the result of everything you have learned and didn't learn from your lifetime experiences.
If you are not the person you want to be, it is nobody's fault but yours.
Likewise, those things which make you better at being you are also your own doing.
If you think you are who you are today because of someone else's doing, you are not you, you are their version of you and that is a hard way to be.

Own your successes and failures. Learn from them.
Gain wisdom so you can make wise choices in the future.

No matter how much you might want, you can NEVER change the past.
You live in a perpetual "now", embrace the "now".
Use wisdom now to create a future you want.
Try not to forget why you created that future when the future becomes the "now".

Take charge of your life, Its Yours!

Being with that person in that time of life is apart of us. Hopefully it's good memories and not the ones where your smacking your own face saying "what the hell was I thinking" I'll take the good and bad. I like my women bat **** crazy anyway 🤪

hai

Yes, you do keep the happy memories when there were many good times together, but it's better to move on with your life in my opinion, because they are an Ex for a reason.

so sad to hear about that, but at least life goes on you just need to move on with your life and look for a better man, though its not an easy task to meet a true,honest,caring man ...note prayer helps....i like you and i will like us to talk more better

would like us to chat if you dont mind

hai

breakups are emotional and letting go of deep attachment can be difficult . We hold onto what we value . There is nothing wrong with reflecting on good memories as long as they do not prevent you moving on .

hi

ex or any if you feel it in heart you can't forget it in mind