How would you feel if the person you been talking to personally, contracted the Corona virus and has been quarantine for weeks?

Someone who was seeking a serious relationship, after he makes it through it all.




Wouldn't this be a test on your part to know if you really care ?

I would.

I don't see any reason why I'd stop talking to that person.

I'd grab him, he's immune.

Not quite sure what you mean.

I've by now been involved as friend or relation to many people who were injured or ill or otherwise unavailable for long periods, sometimes ending with their death. I've always thought that problems like these were normal.

I suppose you could say, I was lucky enough to be unlucky early, so I never got the idea that life was supposed to be all fun.

Now. If a person I was developing friendship or more with, told me suddenly that they would be unavailable for, say, six months, because they were going on a sabbatical of some kind, I might conclude that it didn't make sense for me to invest in them emotionally, since they would be losing contact by choice.

But the intervention of injury or disease wouldn't affect me that way.

We are talking about the coronavirus.

Yes you're correct Cat.

We don't really know a person can not get it again!

can we meet

And has buckets of antibodies in his plasma.

"Talking to" meaning sitting online emailing and texting back and forth, maybe some phone convo?
I would feel some concern and hope they get better.
Otherwise I wouldn't see how anything would really change.
It would still be email and texting.


IMO no.
IMO "talking to" is ultimately meaningless.
Talk is cheap.
Actions speak louder than words.
Until you meet, until there is indirect communication, reciprocal direct emotional feedback, and shared experience, it doesn't really mean anything.

If people are just "talking to" each other, especially online, the important information that is missing is being supplied by the individual according to their own biases, hopes, insecurities, fears, cognitive abilities, etc.
It's not based on the reality of the other person.

At best you're testing if you justify calling yourself a "caring" person.



Other than that, IME with OLD you can easily fall into the trap of having to defend yourself from false truth.
"Hey, my grandma died, so for the next couple of weeks I can no longer email/text you constantly, daily, hourly, or first meet with you as planned, as I'm busy with family stuff and the funeral."
"Didn't you tell me that you didn't have any grandparents left? Like the last one died 20 years ago and you wish you could have known them better?"
"You're so insensitive, my grandma meant everything to me and you can't respect that. I thought you were better than that. This is not going to work out, don't contact me again."

Or "Hey, sorry I disappeared for two weeks all of a sudden when we were constantly in contact. I, uh, contracted covid 19, yeah, that's it. So I was quarantined and in recovery. So what's up, what you wearing? Pics?"

Ciretom

Your response is very interesting. I disagree that talking isn't really that important online and Until you meet in person it doesn't have value.

I have met several men inperson from other cities and states in the past.

Conversation has to be right Before I set up any meeting. I cover most everything that is important to me. We talk for long periods of time and often on the phone

In return the meetings went very well. But then I'm seeking serious minded men.

If it seems legit, I'd give her time.

I don't see how that is a test to find out if you really care. You haven't met yet.
And if it had felt right, why shouldn't I wait? No one can go anywhere yet anyway so would it even make a difference? Just that he wouldn't be online much as he'd be too ill.
As for being concerned about meeting an 'ex' patient of the virus... do you feel we now should do a Corona check? And if someone's had it they're off-limits?
That'd be marking people for life because they got ill. Kinda weird.

So no, it wouldn't affect what I'd do or feel.

There is no proof, you are immune after recovery.

But why not, if the person is fully recovered and the virus is gone ... but this will take time, I am afraid

The replies are all Very interesting, especially Crystal's.

I'm just concerned he's not really a positive person in conversation but that could be because of the illness.

My focus is meeting positive guys! Too much negativity in the World.


I go by conversations in meeting inperson. I've met several in past. I'm very picky

There is concern a person could get it again! Like the flu.

It's been since March 3, according to him. How can I trust that even!

If you like them enough you will risk it.
If you're gonna die, you're gonna die, if you're number's up.
Every thing is a risk. Might as well enjoy it.

Not sure how you mean that? You mean a man can come across as not positive because he's feeling like chit?

Personally I doubt if someone has the virus they'll be online much at all to talk to a potential date. They'd be too ill, unless they really have a very very very mild case.
A friend of mine got it, she was normally healthy and had worked on her immune system. Then she got it, and she was very ill, and as such barely online. Her husband got it from her some 4 days later, both now ill. On the mend, but still nowhere near being online to have a conversation. She's posted 2-3x to let friends know how they're doing. But everything exhausts you when you got it, even the smallest of things.

Having it for 2 months on end? I guess everything is possible, but I'd get suspicious and cautious when someone told me that.