Topic: Affairs and those who love them
rob's photo
Fri 07/17/20 10:28 PM
Are you one of those people who get off on the secrecy of an affair?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sat 07/18/20 03:08 AM
Nope, I value a relationship and the trust, love, and honesty between me and my partner.
If you need the thrill of an affair you aren't ready for a committed relationship and as such shouldn't get involved and hurt someone who loves you.

TxsGal3333's photo
Sat 07/18/20 05:05 AM
Humm guess all is good till your wife/husband finds out..

Secrets catch up with ones sooner or later and it is never a good outcome..

Affairs do nothing but destroy lives..

Dodo_David's photo
Sat 07/18/20 05:50 AM

Are you one of those people who get off on committing adultery?


I corrected it for you. :tongue:

ivegotthegirth's photo
Sat 07/18/20 06:10 AM
NO!!!

SECRETS ARE BAD, honesty all the way is the way to do it.

no photo
Sat 07/18/20 07:31 AM
What would Jerry Springer say?noway

Rock's photo
Sat 07/18/20 08:25 AM

Are you one of those people who get off on the secrecy of an affair?


OMG!
Your hand cheated on you.


motowndowntown's photo
Sat 07/18/20 08:39 AM
Sure, it's all fun till somebody gets "Bobbitized".

no photo
Sat 07/18/20 09:14 AM
Are you one of those people who get off on the secrecy of an affair?

Sort of.
I always enjoyed like role play.
Especially when it's not all that planned.
I'd meet my partner, or someone I've been dating for a while so knew me and it wasn't that weird, for dinner or something and introduce myself as someone completely different, pretend it's like a first date with someone entirely new, or hit on them and pick them up while they're waiting for "me" who doesn't show up.

Some people I've dated or have been in relationships with would go along with it, and introduce themselves as someone new, use their imagination to create a backstory, we'd treat it as kind of a one night stand, like a little skit or play that lasted all night.
We'd create little adventures, talk about them the next day. Have fun with it.
Like one time the adventure was the millionaire patent holder for the sound of small car horns meeting the person who discovered how to communicate with basil.

Other women had absolutely no imagination whatsoever and it just wasn't much fun so it wasn't something we really did.

Sometimes it was like an affair, sometimes we'd end up creating imaginary partners we're cheating on. Other times it was tongue in cheek pretending the other person wasn't really the partner.

But that's mostly enjoying the power of imagination, excitement, and bonding. The only reason I see to enjoy the actual "secrecy of an affair" is if you're in a bad relationship.
Like a teenager that enjoys hiding from mommy and daddy that they got a tattoo.
They're trying to pretend like they're an adult, they want to do something they know their parents are going to have a negative emotional reaction to, and ultimately they just want to get out of there and be on their own, have authority over themselves without any consideration for others.
So to me "enjoying the secrecy of an affair" is simply a symptom of "it's time to move on, get out of there, and go out on your own."
I don't really enjoy that.



Tanvi p's photo
Sun 07/19/20 04:30 AM
ya

Duttoneer's photo
Mon 07/20/20 01:38 AM

Are you one of those people who get off on the secrecy of an affair?



Those secret affairs usually end in the divorce courts.

“Oh, what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive!” (Sir Walter Scott, 1808).

feelyoungagain's photo
Fri 07/31/20 11:39 PM

Are you one of those people who get off on the secrecy of an affair?


I don't get off from affairs, but I am not opposed to having a relationship with a married man. I don't seek married men despite the temptations that have presented themselves. But if a married man approaches me, that changes things. Why? Because he's the one looking, not me. I did not take the man from his wife. He's already decided to cheat on his wife and risk his marriage. I did not approach him and offer the opportunity. I did not plant the seed in his head. Am I the other woman? Yes, but I'm not the one who stole your husband or has intentions of breaking up a marriage or a family. No. That I will not do. If at any point I suspect this man may be developing feelings for me or mentions leaving his wife, I throw him out immediately. I want nothing to do with that. So then why do I spend time with married men then you may ask? It's not a complicated relationship and we both have our own lives. I like things simple and on a superficial emotional level. I definitely prefer single men, but I am answering the question honestly from my point of view. Some will judge me; others won't. Besides... no one knows the whole story and at the end of the day, I'm the one living with the choices I make.