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Topic: Seriously? A mid life crisis? My story........... .. Yours?
artykay's photo
Fri 01/15/21 02:19 PM
Is there such a thing?
Some time ago, I was accused of 'suffering' (?) from this so called syndrome. It was from an Ex-friend, work colleague, footy mate,who openly stated, that my allure with the opposite sex, was simply and directly related to the CARS I happen to own.
I have two Porsche's. Since a teenager, I was always a car enthusiast. However, it was only when I could actually afford to buy and own them, that I did so.
Young dreams turned into reality.
After a long and hard working career, I was finally able to afford what I dreamed of all those years ago.
I love cars and driving mine.
Mid life crisis? Me thinks not.
You?

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Fri 01/15/21 02:50 PM
Well... happy you got the cars you want.
But there is this things, yes.
Example...
I knew this older dude, fat, in his 60s, and not particularly attractive with his huge belly and underchins.
Then he suddenly had a gf, some 20 yrs younger. Oh, glory halleluja! Love of each other's life and more blabla. But okay, if he was happy, why should I care. He did put himself on a diet, I guess he was suddenly self-conscious of his huge protruding belly.
Then a while later he posts photos of himself having bought a cabriolet for his birthday, because, hey, he'd always dreamt of that!
And I knew right away she'd broken up with him.
I checked it, and yup.
Compensation to get the car. Somehow the car is compensation for not being able to get/keep a woman I guess.

When younger, it's often losers who drive the expensive cars. They have no life, no girl, and money to spend so they get an expensive car that young guys with a life cannot afford.
Not making this up, I've seen it too many times.
Somehow a car is a man's way of compensating. It's related to his ego.
And sure, almost all men may dream of an expensive 'p*ssy mobile' as this dude in "True Lies" called it.
But I know few who have a full life who actually own such a car...
And when an old geezer is driving it... well, do I have to say it...

no photo
Fri 01/15/21 03:07 PM
Doesn’t sound like a midlife crisis to me . But the old cliche around this event was men wearing hairpieces , dressing younger , driving flashy sports cars and trying to attract very young women .

We now call it a transition rather than a crisis as everyone has a different experience . For some the experience stems from coming to terms with the ageing process especially following a major event such as loss of a loved one . . Or divorce later in life .,, loss , grief, depression , anxiety, coming to terms with one’s own mortality , unmet dreams , loss of libido, declining health etc ., can be the catalyst for wanting to change personal identity and how others perceive us .

Even as we age ., the desire to feel attractive and sexual remains strong in many people . How that manifests as we age depends on satisfaction with life and confidence in self .

At times I do think about life , ageing and the future but I have yet to feel the urge to make any crazy changes . Ask me when I am 60 lolwaving biggrin

no photo
Fri 01/15/21 04:15 PM
There is such a thing, but your realizing a childhood dream doesn't sound like it's a midlife crisis. However, even if it is, eff that ex-friend. He's probably jealous.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Fri 01/15/21 04:31 PM

There is such a thing, but your realizing a childhood dream doesn't sound like it's a midlife crisis. However, even if it is, eff that ex-friend. He's probably jealous.

I agree with that.
And not every midlife-crisis is an actual crisis. Depends and varies from person to person.
Not every man gets hit by the andropause the same way.


bobtail76's photo
Fri 01/15/21 05:13 PM
Edited by bobtail76 on Fri 01/15/21 05:14 PM
A lot of times men get cars or bikes - is because their ol ladies wouldn't let em while they were married.
If it nets them a younger babe, kudos to them!

cityblues21's photo
Fri 01/15/21 05:36 PM
Affordability .. at differnt stages of ones life surely has an impact.. things one may wanted as younger but could never afford.. after a 1/2 a life of saving, or working hard, it is not unfair to want to enjoy some of the fruits.. Now if they go out and bankrupt themselves to do so.. well that would be considered an irrational gesture. But again they are living that life.. who are others to judge.

Mike6615's photo
Fri 01/15/21 07:30 PM
Wondering if women have a mid-life crisis as well...

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 01/15/21 09:57 PM
I have owned sporty cars since I was able to afford to buy my first car, except for a period when I drove motorbikes. So I guess my "mid life crises" has lasted from my teens until now.

artykay's photo
Sat 01/16/21 12:34 AM

There is such a thing, but your realizing a childhood dream doesn't sound like it's a midlife crisis. However, even if it is, eff that ex-friend. He's probably jealous.


That's exactly what it was, a childhood dream (a wishlist if you like).
I'm pretty sure we all have them?
Oh, and yeah, that's why he's an Ex-friend.

artykay's photo
Sat 01/16/21 12:45 AM


There is such a thing, but your realizing a childhood dream doesn't sound like it's a midlife crisis. However, even if it is, eff that ex-friend. He's probably jealous.

I agree with that.
And not every midlife-crisis is an actual crisis. Depends and varies from person to person.
Not every man gets hit by the andropause the same way.




laugh This, ladies and gentlemen, is referred to as 'burning rubber in reverse gear'. slaphead

no photo
Sat 01/16/21 12:48 AM
Yay, Mingle Road trip with Arty!! :grinning:
Not every friend gets it right. Some friends really are not our friends at all.
Who cares what this friend thinks? It is your life. I used to have a single friend berate me for staying in an unhealthy marriage. But I took vows. Then years later she was in a way worse marriage. Some people just need to mind their own business.


artykay's photo
Sat 01/16/21 05:00 AM

Yay, Mingle Road trip with Arty!! :grinning:
Not every friend gets it right. Some friends really are not our friends at all.
Who cares what this friend thinks? It is your life. I used to have a single friend berate me for staying in an unhealthy marriage. But I took vows. Then years later she was in a way worse marriage. Some people just need to mind their own business.




Thanks notlooking. :thumbsup:
If you ever visit downunder, happy for you to jump on board and hit thae road. :surfer: (as long as we're both single and free to mingle, that is.:wink:).
Sad to hear about your marriage situation. Hope you have this sorted.
Going offtopic now I know, but I'll share this with you. My marriage/relationship /partnership, of 30 years, was incredible. I haven't stopped loving my beautiful former wife. She very suddenly left our matrimonial home and instigated divorce proceedings. I was quite shocked. For some time before this, I was convinced there was something not quite right with her, not us. The short story is that, she was undergoing eimedical treatment, without my knowledge. As I discovered much later, she was suffering from signs of premature dimentia. Apparently, she wanted her share of our estate to be distributed according to her wishes. Her closest sister (confidant), has since revealed that my wife new where she will soon be, mentally and physically. She wanted that I move on and not be burdened with her affliction. My wife was older than me (no young floozies for me). Her condition deteriorated quite rapidly. Unknownst to me she chose a Nursing facility near the ocean where we often road tripped, and is there to this day. My adult children tell me she barely remembers them, and most times, not at all.

River Rat's photo
Sat 01/16/21 08:20 AM
Edited by River Rat on Sat 01/16/21 08:22 AM
Well, maybe I'm coming to my mid-life crisis a bit on the late side. I thoroughly love my little Jeep Wrangler and have a bunch of fun during North Dakota winters. It's was my second choice of a mid-life crisis vehicle. Of course it's also highly practical in consideration of where I live.

The first Mid-Life vehicle has been desired since I was still in my teens. It's not gonna happen, 'cuz a restored Jaguar XKE convertible is out of my wheel house. It would be a disaster in the snow too.

Maybe you're having that crisis. If so, aren't you enjoying scratching that itch?

bobtail76's photo
Sat 01/16/21 08:57 AM

Yay, Mingle Road trip with Arty!! :grinning:
Not every friend gets it right. Some friends really are not our friends at all.
Who cares what this friend thinks? It is your life. I used to have a single friend berate me for staying in an unhealthy marriage. But I took vows. Then years later she was in a way worse marriage. Some people just need to mind their own business.




Everybody knows what's good for somebody else - just not themselves

artykay's photo
Sat 01/16/21 09:11 AM

Well, maybe I'm coming to my mid-life crisis a bit on the late side. I thoroughly love my little Jeep Wrangler and have a bunch of fun during North Dakota winters. It's was my second choice of a mid-life crisis vehicle. Of course it's also highly practical in consideration of where I live.

The first Mid-Life vehicle has been desired since I was still in my teens. It's not gonna happen, 'cuz a restored Jaguar XKE convertible is out of my wheel house. It would be a disaster in the snow too.

Maybe you're having that crisis. If so, aren't you enjoying scratching that itch?


Jeep Wrangler (I'm assuming Chrysler made?) Huuugley popular here in Oz. Sometimes (jokingly) referred to as a**holes. Bloody everywhere! :joy:
WOW! Jaguar XKE! Now we're both dreamin'. Couldn't buy one here for love or money my friend. :cry: Arguably the most iconic sports cars of all time.
Cheers :beers:

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Sat 01/16/21 09:40 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Sat 01/16/21 09:42 AM

Well... happy you got the cars you want.
But there is this things, yes.
Example...
I knew this older dude, fat, in his 60s, and not particularly attractive with his huge belly and underchins.
Then he suddenly had a gf, some 20 yrs younger. Oh, glory halleluja! Love of each other's life and more blabla. But okay, if he was happy, why should I care. He did put himself on a diet, I guess he was suddenly self-conscious of his huge protruding belly.
Then a while later he posts photos of himself having bought a cabriolet for his birthday, because, hey, he'd always dreamt of that!
And I knew right away she'd broken up with him.
I checked it, and yup.
Compensation to get the car. Somehow the car is compensation for not being able to get/keep a woman I guess.

When younger, it's often losers who drive the expensive cars. They have no life, no girl, and money to spend so they get an expensive car that young guys with a life cannot afford.
Not making this up, I've seen it too many times.
Somehow a car is a man's way of compensating. It's related to his ego.
And sure, almost all men may dream of an expensive 'p*ssy mobile' as this dude in "True Lies" called it.
But I know few who have a full life who actually own such a car...
And when an old geezer is driving it... well, do I have to say it...


Yes.
In high school (and later) I purposely avoided the guys with the fancy, expensive cars..for the reason you stated above..
I found they were mostly jerks and ***holes, who had no real interests and personality, and needed the car as a "hook"..
Meanwhile..I am over here dating the fabulous guys with the Dodge Omni, Ford Fiesta, Festiva, and Ranchero...:thumbsup:
This was quite some time back.

River Rat's photo
Sat 01/16/21 10:05 AM
Yes, Jeep is Mopar, not my first choice of vehicles but as 20 year old Jeeps go, it has been very dependable.

As for the XKE, I know it was an adolescent fantasy, but I'd probably still trade my left (oh, never mind). Hell, I'd just like to drive one just once. Nothing wrong with wishful thinking.

bobtail76's photo
Sat 01/16/21 10:25 AM


Well, maybe I'm coming to my mid-life crisis a bit on the late side. I thoroughly love my little Jeep Wrangler and have a bunch of fun during North Dakota winters. It's was my second choice of a mid-life crisis vehicle. Of course it's also highly practical in consideration of where I live.

The first Mid-Life vehicle has been desired since I was still in my teens. It's not gonna happen, 'cuz a restored Jaguar XKE convertible is out of my wheel house. It would be a disaster in the snow too.

Maybe you're having that crisis. If so, aren't you enjoying scratching that itch?


Jeep Wrangler (I'm assuming Chrysler made?) Huuugley popular here in Oz. Sometimes (jokingly) referred to as a**holes. Bloody everywhere! :joy:
WOW! Jaguar XKE! Now we're both dreamin'. Couldn't buy one here for love or money my friend. :cry: Arguably the most iconic sports cars of all time.
Cheers :beers:


I can understand why you call them that there. I actually won't date chicks with jeeps

artykay's photo
Sat 01/16/21 10:32 AM
Can't comment on your neck of the woods, however here, you can hire just about any car you desire from so called 'prestige car hire' places. Usually cost between 1 and 2% of car value per day. Included allowance of 100 kms (60 miles in U.S. speak). + insurance. Cost here would be circa $1500 AUD for one day use. I'm guessing less where you are? :confused: OR and I'm not encouraging this, but they have very basic ignition systems. :wink::wink:
Hope you realize your dream one day.... :beers:

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