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Topic: Cheated on after dating for3year
Gadis Joined Fri 02/12/21 Posts: 1	Fri 02/12/21 10:03 PM
Is it appropriate to forgive a man who cheats?

ImDavid Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 1400	Fri 02/12/21 10:41 PM
I don't there is a ever a good reason to forgive someone who cheats.

artykay Joined Sat 11/18/17 Posts: 170	Fri 02/12/21 10:56 PM
More than likely, he was always a cheater. The sad truth is that it took you 3 years to find out. Never blame yourself. He will most likely try to come back into your life. Revenge can be sweet!

Unknow Joined Tue 04/28/20 Posts: 2930	Fri 02/12/21 11:23 PM
You can choose to, but you will never trust him again. A relationship without trust is demeaning to your self worth. I would walk away...

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21249	Sat 02/13/21 12:20 AM
It's appropriate to forgive. It isn't appropriate to stay around long enough, to let them do it again. Ya see, if a cheat gets away with it the first time, they'll do it again. And, again. And, again. Etc...

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45325	Sat 02/13/21 12:24 AM
Is it appropriate to forgive a man who cheats? Dump the cheat. Then forgive him. So you do not carry that burden the rest of your life.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4669	Sat 02/13/21 01:28 AM
Is it appropriate to forgive a man who cheats? People are human, maybe they made an impetuous and very wrong decision, you need to discover why it happened, don't throw away 3 years of happiness with them without finding out the truth first, if they are your age you are both very young and maybe they made a big one time mistake.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33251	Sat 02/13/21 01:49 AM
Difficult to say without any further context. But you say "Who cheats", not past tense. So it is still going on or happened more than once? In that case, end it!

Acquired Taste Joined Thu 01/02/20 Posts: 421	Sat 02/13/21 10:23 AM
speaking from a strictly experiential point of view...i did forgive the person and want her back, who is married...makes me think i am a sapio sexual which to me means it takes a while for me to give my heart. also when given it takes a while for me to walk away... so while i would say forgive the person and move on....in actuality i do something different....life is usually different than a formula or whatever and reality can change things immensely...and restraining orders are cheaply bought, 88$ and only last a year....

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Sat 02/13/21 11:25 AM
Appropriate? Maybe. A good idea? Hell no.

Mr Good Guy Joined Tue 11/10/20 Posts: 1162	Sat 02/13/21 02:35 PM
Answer: Yes

Mr Good Guy Joined Tue 11/10/20 Posts: 1162	Sat 02/13/21 02:37 PM
Next question?

raja ali Joined Thu 02/11/21 Posts: 1	Sat 02/13/21 03:26 PM
Is it appropriate to forgive a man who cheats?

cleve Joined Fri 11/06/20 Posts: 813	Sat 02/13/21 03:43 PM Edited by cleve on Sat 02/13/21 04:13 PM
Is it appropriate to forgive a man who cheats? think about this....... his value system allowed him to do it............. the others value system is something we should always pay attention to because its part of how we teach people how to treat us.....1- what we allow,,2- what do not allow,,,3- what we reinforce.....this is so important ''we teach people how to treat us'',,,,,,,that's our half of the relationship...we always have part....so the question is will you ALLOW IT,NOT ALLOW IT, OR REINFORCE IT ?? men also teach women how to treat them also....its part of our life script that we follow.......