Topic: How to deter someone online ...,


Hi
I'm Rock.


That's my best deterrent.

It happens many time. I'll just leave , block or delete. Those kind of men shows that their brain is not inside their head but somewhere else.

ya, before you know it, they want to strap you nekkie to a tree AND/OR put you in a dungeon...

There are some really crazy women out there...


I just roll with it and let the imaginary slivers fester in my butt cheeks and then get virtual medical care when needed...





OT: I don't have this problem but then again I mainly stick to the games in the forums. but I suspect many find it easy to be anonymous and think with the little brain...

remind me next time to tie you facing the tree

That's very kind to offer your nursing skills to tend to my wounds...


Will the tree location have a nice view of the coastlines in Kiwiland?

So you strike up a conversation online and very quickly the messages start becoming more passionate .,

Other than the obvious ...What motivates a man (or woman) during general chitchat with a stranger to slip in such a come on ?? So early in the conversations ...If you tell someone you find them attractive or pay them a compliment ... does this signal some kind of sexual willingness online ???

I am sure many can relate to this experience . How do you handle it when mid conversation .. the messages start to drift southwards lol ... personally , I am very good at deflecting and redirecting the conversation

It does make me wonder ... if Impulse control is an issue .. or perhaps simply pressing all those keys somehow redirects the male brain to other thoughts

So you strike up a conversation online and very quickly the messages start becoming more passionate .,

Other than the obvious ...What motivates a man (or woman) during general chitchat with a stranger to slip in such a come on ?? So early in the conversations ...If you tell someone you find them attractive or pay them a compliment ... does this signal some kind of sexual willingness online ???

I am sure many can relate to this experience . How do you handle it when mid conversation .. the messages start to drift southwards lol ... personally , I am very good at deflecting and redirecting the conversation

It does make me wonder ... if Impulse control is an issue .. or perhaps simply pressing all those keys somehow redirects the male brain to other thoughts

What motivates a man (or woman) during general chitchat with a stranger to slip in such a come on ??

.If you tell someone you find them attractive or pay them a compliment ... does this signal some kind of sexual willingness online ???

How do you handle it when mid conversation .. the messages start to drift southwards

It does make me wonder ... if Impulse control is an issue .. or perhaps simply pressing all those keys somehow redirects the male brain to other thoughts

I have had a light experience of that, I just rolled with it and they quickly changed the subject, maybe they were testing the water. It did not go anywhere, maybe I worried them. (I suspected it was a scammer ).

On rare occasions it's happened, from seemingly real people. Don't be daft has been a response of mine and 'I'm not in the habit of getting all dressed up with nowhere to go' another. or ' I'm sure you could find plenty of other chaps that are fantasists.' But not many real women do that sort of thing.

or not to me anyhow.

I suspect the males in question are motivated by these other thoughts period..
And try to convince you that you are the reason for their desires. Hoping that you buy it and feel flattered or something. silly really..

If that happens, how we got there and my mood define how I deal with it.
It also depends if it's playful, suggestive, and thus erotic and fun, or downright blunt and blunt suggestions.
And then there's whether I feel there's potential with this guy or not.
I can be both direct and playful in steering it in another direction. The way the man responds to that will define what happens next.

I'm lucky, or maybe not, lol... I haven't really experienced the need for a deterrent, least not with men online. I imagine if I had conversations with men online it could happen, but I seldom speak with anyone other than those I know from the forums.

I think it would be easier online to deter since there's no face to face interaction. You could simply change the subject and if it persists, block them. Or tell them to stop! Same as in person, if you don't speak up it's basically sending a signal that it's okay and his/her behavior will persist. Being up front and honest will show you right away if he/she respects you and is really interested in you... or is just some creep that needs to be blocked, lol.

Basically, it would depend upon how much they are attracted to you (picture, profile, sentence structure).
Depending upon the application in which the general chat is being held it could be a sign of desperation, a sign of horniness or a knee jerk reaction to a one on one conversation with the opposite sex.
Since everyone is different, it could be something else entirely.

Chatting at a website designed for matchmaking is a bit different than chatting at a website where the focus is music, movies or health professionals.

There's also the personable air one has about them. I find you easy to chat with and very sensible. Call it the 'vibe' and that could set others at ease about saying things they might normally hold back. You are a likeable entity and it makes people want you to like them. They feel a 'connection' with you easier.


Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Sometimes the attraction is not physical. Sometimes a compliment is just a compliment. Sometimes people are sincere with their compliments yet feel no sexual attraction. Sometimes certain people can be sexually attracted to tomato soup. Meaning any connection with the opposite gender will cause a sexual attraction.


I handle it according to how I feel for the person I am in the conversation with.
If I am attracted to them sexually, I encourage it.
If I am not, I either end the conversation or tell them to get back on the subject.
If I am looking for that type of connection I am more likely to respond in kind. I'm told I can be quite steamy in my compositions when the situation calls for it.
However, I do not assume.
I've actually misread and assumed wrong.
I've learned to ask the right questions before I turn on the sex appeal.
I'm not one to beat around the bush or use hidden meanings.
Likewise, I can be pretty dense when it comes to detecting hidden meanings.
I also try not to 'see' hidden meanings where none are present.


Yes
It all depends upon the person you are conversing with.
Like I said, desperation can change one's ability to maintain impulse control.
Pressing certain keys to cause a certain response is common in relationships.
Just as touching certain spots can cause arousal, talking about certain subjects can cause one to focus on sex.
In my younger days, when I had less control of myself, just talking about certain things would cause my brain to switch to sex mode. I was a mechanic, so many things about the mechanic field have similarities to sexual acts.
Stroke, injection, insert and so on. I used to love listening to my X talk about mechanic functions using industry nomenclature. It was sexier when she said it....Male brain!

As people age and become wiser many surpass the sexual imperative in their thinking process. It may still be present but the have better control of themselves. They use more tact and measure the impact of what they say, when they say it.
Likewise, when we age, we tend to focus more on the conversation intent than our physical desires and imperatives.
While some of us are still desperate and some of us still have little self control, many choose to keep it in check.
There's a right time and place for these things.

Attraction is probably one of the hardest things to control when chatting with someone of a preferred gender. The more attraction one feels towards the other, the more likely a general chat has to become sexual in nature.
Plus, that person could just be horny at that time.