Could be wrong but I get the impression that many to most (really) active in the Forums are not here for that. It seems a theoretical exercise in how we see ourselves to read later for a micro-clue of how deluded we are. So here I go.

*Sub Note - Thinking, as seen on this very board, sweeping generalizations especially of an entire gender could be a deterrent.*

Anyway, everyone is thinking about sex all of the time, women are fickle and men are stupid. That followed by all the boring answers with words like "situation, person, every, different, depends, etc.

I think everyone knows how intoxicating it can be. Blondey I'm sure you could clinically explain all the endorphin/receptor (if even correct systems and terms) stuff. From experience I would warn (even when *obviously* mutual) beware of being swept in the mad hyper passionate *within a week* torrid "love? affair." THINGS ARE AMPLIFIED IN HERE!!!! It may be dynamite but you don't want to burn out the wick before the bang. I'm also self aware enough to realize that a constant propensity for innuendo can confuse things.

Driving our virtual cars, the anonymity window tint can turn to airborne toxic steroid causing a false sense of overconfidence or worse entitlement to speak without any impulse control. I'm pretty sure (again many to most) guys have had that " pretty girl smiles, 10 min later shagging, porn timeline" fantasy. Guys who believe it anything but fantasy are stupid. They will see a woman as fickle if she responds politely but not completely. The scary psycopath, a "tease."

I digress. Blondey, you were asking about the "easy, down boy" thing, correct? I would like to think most half sane (people) might have a minor temporary ego slap at worst if kindly told "I like you but not comfortable going this speed." If any possibility down the road guys (in particular) might pant a lot, trip over their water dish, and be like, "OK ok, but when huh when. When can I throw YOU the bone. I like chasing the toy but want to throw the bone!!!"

"I want to be friends" stings a little more, but you get over it.
Honest, Direct, Kind. I suppose I could have just said "that" instead freegin tryin to top Tolstoy. *eye roll*

I think all you're inquiring about, is degrees of flirtation.
Everyone has their own lines of what is and isn't acceptable as well as where those lines are.

You never know where those lines are until you toss the dice.

lol I am surprised rock . I was sure you would have an impressive comeback

What's not impressive about the
pure simplicity of it?

My tried and true method of deterrent is send them a photo of me flashing them.

So you strike up a conversation online and very quickly the messages start becoming more passionate .,

Other than the obvious ...What motivates a man (or woman) during general chitchat with a stranger to slip in such a come on ?? So early in the conversations ...If you tell someone you find them attractive or pay them a compliment ... does this signal some kind of sexual willingness online ???

I am sure many can relate to this experience . How do you handle it when mid conversation .. the messages start to drift southwards lol ... personally , I am very good at deflecting and redirecting the conversation

It does make me wonder ... if Impulse control is an issue .. or perhaps simply pressing all those keys somehow redirects the male brain to other thoughts

I rarely answer my messages

I recently removed all my mail filter restrictions.
I scan my messages and only read the ones from the forums.
Most of the time I scan, select all and delete.

I also scan who viewed me, select all and delete.
I delete all kisses and hugs.

I keep my trackers empty in case it matters to the server size.

Since removing my filters I've noticed a huge increase in scammer activity.
(How dumb/desperate do they think I am?)
Just seeing the photos and the age I can tell who is real and who is not.
I'd have to be incredibly stupid to start chatting with most of them.

Sex is not the only topic which can turn a chat southward.
When I was looking, a stranger being too familiar was also a chat-breaker.
Certain words and phrases (non-sexual) would end the chat.
There's a specific point in the chat stream where a stranger is no longer a stranger. Till that point is reached (its different with everyone) assuming we're close friends when we're not violates the stranger cushion and is grounds for ending the correspondence.

Some of you might be able to get intimate and personal with any stranger but I can't. I'm not that stupid.
Its amazing what someone with the right knowledge and tools can find out from very innocent details you give them.
My privacy is mine till I decide to share it.

I get it Tom. Why engage with anyone on here? 99.9% are after one thing, so I keep to the forums. I don't reply to messages because it is futile and a waste of my energy. Seems silly to have expectations of decency in messages. We are on Mingle not Holychat.

I didn't think Blondey was aiming for Mingle2 conversations, but online conversation.
Most of the ones active here are here for the forums-only so why people tend to think dating questions concern M2?

LOL, Holychat...

I've had conversations with strangers on scientific boards and chats where sticking to the topic at hand is the imperative of the intent of the conversations.
Even there, some individuals tend to violate the chat intent with off-subject diversions.
Its because people are not very disciplined when chatting.
Some people have little emotional control.
Some people are just devious.

I can tell you when there is a good chat with a stranger that stranger quickly becomes a friend.
Once actual friendship occurs, chats get more personal and more intimate.
Its a normal progression of friendships.
Jumping the gun usually kills the potential for a good friendship.

I didn't think Blondey was aiming for Mingle2 conversations, but online conversation.