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Topic: Do imperfections matter to you ?
Coldersky's photo
Sun 10/03/21 03:15 PM
I admit I have my share,or maybe some of them are HABITS, I'm not set in my ways I have ALOT of spontaneity imperfections to me mean different things to different people, :sunrise_over_mountains::city_sunset:

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Sun 10/03/21 03:20 PM
Edited by Unknow on Sun 10/03/21 03:24 PM
waving It depends what imperfections they are? I could not tolerate a drug user or an alcoholic, or a man who likes to dress as a woman.
Yet, I smoke cigarettes and plenty of people will not tolerate that either....



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Mark's photo
Sun 10/03/21 04:14 PM
I've yet to meet a "perfect" person, I'm definitely not, it's a matter of being with someone that also knows they're not, but at least wants to improve.


Kevin's photo
Sun 10/03/21 08:32 PM
Yes.
My imperfections. (Though I don't have OCD)
-sometimes I am happy with my imperfections, sometimes I am amused, sometimes I try do better, sometimes I feel sorry that I can't do better; and I move on! :smile:

Mike6615's photo
Sun 10/03/21 09:14 PM
On a segment of the old Dick Van Dyke show, Rob once said to Laura, "You know if you keep picking away at my faults, first thing you know, I'm perfect! And who wants to live with a perfect person?"

Dramatic Muffin's photo
Sun 10/03/21 09:17 PM
It would depend on the imperfection. Most things I can live with. Most imperfections in other people don't bother me. Imperfections in myself sometimes do.

Laska Paul 's photo
Mon 10/04/21 08:47 AM

I'm totally Perfect in my Imperfections. Happy in MY Pain. Strong in my Weakness and beautiful in my own way. Becoz I am Just Me.

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Mon 10/04/21 10:57 AM
no

Beachfarmer's photo
Mon 10/04/21 11:49 AM
Like Marilyn's mole, or Lips in the Tyler Family?

I'm reminded of one of the Robin Williams' monologues in Good Will Hunting,
"That's The Good Stuff"

Unless it's birth defect or injury related, the majority of the time I prefer the before picture.

Behaviorally opinionated is ok depending. Overly judgmental or negative is a bummer.....ie....Racism and most "isms" SUCK.......I love educated sarcasm but find cynics to be lazy and lacking imagination

If someone nose whistles through the night though, no deal breaker.

soufiehere's photo
Mon 10/04/21 12:41 PM
'Nose whistles' hahahahahahahahah.

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Wed 10/06/21 11:02 AM
Lived with just pups too long -i think i went feral
nobody to impress for decades, so I usually don't look impressive
forgot my manners
hate shaving, so don't often
i could do this all day

Larsi666 😽's photo
Wed 10/06/21 11:49 AM

Lived with just pups too long -i think i went feral
nobody to impress for decades, so I usually don't look impressive
forgot my manners
hate shaving, so don't often
i could do this all day



I am living with cats. I always impersonate them :cat:

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 10/08/21 10:00 AM
Simple imperfections, if you can call them that... you know, the ones that come with age like reading glasses, sagged skin (I'm talking about men, hihi), hairs in places they shouldn't grow and so on...
I find these easier when you were already with that person when these imperfections came to be than when getting involved with a new person that already has them.

Like when my ex got reading glasses at 41-42. I felt he was so cute and adorable with them even though he hated them. And he didn't like me liking it.
And when the skin on your man's chest and moobs starts to get dry, become wrinkled, and sags... you still love the man!
Yet when meeting a new guy and see him without his shirt looking like that for the first time... it IS different.

Meaning that when you're with someone already, love them, invested in them, you accept things easier. It's like a natural adjustment.

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 10/08/21 10:14 AM
IDK, if she had a big ole melanoma-looking mole in the middle of her forehead, I might be a little apprehensive.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 10/08/21 10:46 AM

IDK, if she had a big ole melanoma-looking mole in the middle of her forehead, I might be a little apprehensive.

My ex had something like that in the middle of his forehead. It is distracting and not pleasant to look at. I never mentioned it as I felt it was his decision to decide to have it removed, but if someone new had something like that I think I would mention it in a gentle fashion.

Someone having some growth on their face is simply off-putting. I feel the same about so called beauty spot on women. I know someone that has a huge one right next to her nose. Just gross to look at and the reason I can't watch her inspirational vids even though her content is good.


Beachfarmer's photo
Fri 10/08/21 12:32 PM
Have always appreciated your view point and honesty Crystal! Without any preface of saying "I am a very visual person" you state your opinion. That type of preface would suggest some kind of guilt about something (imo) we "all" are (visual).

You touched on the semantics of this subject too (mole/beauty mark). As much as I dislike the mundane and trite it really does come back to the cliche' "eye of the beholder" including what we see past because of emotional attachment.

Myself (if we are talking mere physical attraction) without the enhancement (or possibly the deterrent) of knowing one's quality of character; STILL believe in that F. Bacon quote -
"For there is no such great beauty which hath not some strangeness in proportion."

but I hold nothing against you for not wanting to watch the videos. I quite understand. We like what we like. What we don't, we'd rather not look at.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 10/08/21 02:02 PM

Have always appreciated your view point and honesty Crystal! Without any preface of saying "I am a very visual person" you state your opinion. That type of preface would suggest some kind of guilt about something (imo) we "all" are (visual).

You touched on the semantics of this subject too (mole/beauty mark). As much as I dislike the mundane and trite it really does come back to the cliche' "eye of the beholder" including what we see past because of emotional attachment.

Myself (if we are talking mere physical attraction) without the enhancement (or possibly the deterrent) of knowing one's quality of character; STILL believe in that F. Bacon quote -
"For there is no such great beauty which hath not some strangeness in proportion."

but I hold nothing against you for not wanting to watch the videos. I quite understand. We like what we like. What we don't, we'd rather not look at.

Hi Beach! waving
Thank you for the compliment. I think. I guess it's me being Dutch and down to earth, plus I don't like political correctness. See too much of that around everywhere. I don't like in-authenticity.

I can certainly find myself in that quote!
Think Barbra Streisand... Tommy Flanagan... and the biggest example that moves me to tears as it's so sad... Jennifer Grey who was in Dirty Dancing. She had extensive plastic surgery done as she felt horribly ugly and insecure because of it. You wouldn't even recognise her anymore. And even though she's aesthetically pleasing to look at... she totally lost that unique beauty she still had in Dirty Dancing. She was gorgeous in imperfection.

Coldersky's photo
Fri 10/08/21 07:55 PM
Let's do this imperfections, I love play my music loud at home, sometimes in my van my mirrors vibrant the rhythm, blues, Clapton, 85555itolder country the base is definitely fried up and kicking, I love wearing bright colors, neon hot pinks, light limes, oranges, water colored pants, leopard hats, and boots, honey both of my hips are REPLACED,AND my right knee, as for a man in a wheelchair, or one with a GENTLEMAN we can wheelchair dance, race for the van to see who's driving, if your a tattooie louie, I'll give you a run for your moolah lol

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Fri 10/08/21 09:35 PM
lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6aDb6CqEnY&feature=emb_logo

Beachfarmer's photo
Sat 10/09/21 07:11 AM


Hi Beach! waving
Thank you for the compliment. I think. I guess it's me being Dutch and down to earth, plus I don't like political correctness. See too much of that around everywhere. I don't like in-authenticity.

I can certainly find myself in that quote!
Think Barbra Streisand... Tommy Flanagan... and the biggest example that moves me to tears as it's so sad... Jennifer Grey who was in Dirty Dancing. She had extensive plastic surgery done as she felt horribly ugly and insecure because of it. You wouldn't even recognise her anymore. And even though she's aesthetically pleasing to look at... she totally lost that unique beauty she still had in Dirty Dancing. She was gorgeous in imperfection.



waving
Perfect examples, especially Jennifer Grey. So prefer the "before picture"!

Along the same line: The Jacksons losing their relatabilty. Michael and LaToya are obvious. A bit more subtle. although undeniably still pretty, I think Janet was absolutely gorgeous in

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