Topic: How do handle neighbors that’s manipulating harassing?
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Sun 02/27/22 05:34 PM
Edited by Unknow on Sun 02/27/22 05:36 PM
For example,
They would try to copy you move, talk, and etc..
I don’t know how this forum work lol.

I’m willing to make new friends all age. I’ll take friends who is virtual talking only. I’m the victim and I’ve talked to my parents about police but they told me not to. I’m suffering severe anxiety and depression. It’s driving me to the edge.

motowndowntown's photo
Sun 02/27/22 06:21 PM
You need to clarify your post, if you want an answer to that.

jaish's photo
Mon 02/28/22 07:44 AM
Edited by jaish on Mon 02/28/22 07:45 AM

'Manipulating -> Copy move, talk'

Seems you've not in any physical danger, i.e., your neighbors are not a group of young men, etc.




I’ve talked to my parents about police but they told me not to.


All mothers are worried about matters getting escalated. Also, police need evidence else it's your word against your neighbors. First step is SIMPLY writing down what you would like to tell the Police starting with latest incident / date. Note: Not in a position to advice whether you should rush to the police.



I’m suffering severe anxiety and depression. It’s driving me to the edge.


Even men, surrounded by extreme neighbors get depressed; over time, into 'maniac depression'.

As Motown said you need to describe a couple of incidents to start us in right direction. :smile:

Mr Good Guy's photo
Mon 02/28/22 08:40 AM

For example,
They would try to copy you move, talk, and etc..
I don’t know how this forum work lol.

I’m willing to make new friends all age. I’ll take friends who is virtual talking only. I’m the victim and I’ve talked to my parents about police but they told me not to. I’m suffering severe anxiety and depression. It’s driving me to the edge.

I'm not sure what the exact problem is but maybe install a few camera's around your yard/home/entrance?

jaish's photo
Wed 03/02/22 02:21 AM
Edited by jaish on Wed 03/02/22 02:22 AM
Seems we have been off-base.

Let's say there's a friend you admire, you are a fan off.

Why don't you invite her over so that your neighbors can copy her talk / move, etc. Somebody with a portfolio like in:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=038MfAPYvfg

Sounds goofy.
Sometimes Goofy stops crazy.


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Sat 03/12/22 08:30 PM
It’s verbal and happened I’m alone.

 Ꮢ Ꭷ Ᏸ ɨ Ꮑ's photo
Sat 03/12/22 10:18 PM
For example,
They would try to copy you move, talk, and etc..
I don’t know how this forum work lol.

I’m willing to make new friends all age. I’ll take friends who is virtual talking only. I’m the victim and I’ve talked to my parents about police but they told me not to. I’m suffering severe anxiety and depression. It’s driving me to the edge.

You need to be with proper medially/counselling
But most important is, try to divert your mind an focus on positive living. it's hard in start,but once you go on you itself will be conquering the depression. plus keep yourself busy in some working activities an do early morning Yoga of breathing relaxation in peace.
You can fight from it easily.

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Sun 03/13/22 07:49 AM

It’s verbal and happened I’m alone.


Hello ReVe,
From the very few words you've written seems you have young, horny, underemployed men as your neighbors and so shying from telling what's going on. Here's a checklist.

Attitude: If you continue living in hope, things won't get better. If it is more than 'harassing' then below post ( slightly extreme) may help you change your attitude. This is first step.

https://mingle2.com/topic/569049


Record: If you record harassments in a journal - police are forced to take it seriously. Moreover, any friend who wants to help will know in what he's dealing with. To deal with a pit of snakes is different from that for a pack of dogs.

Camera: GG has already mentioned 'camera'. if feasible, $200 will also cover door relay, electrical wiring etc. Camera installed inside house with view of doorway - so nobody can smash it. Don't worry if it sets your neighbors boiling. They will learn to think harder. They too have a network outside.

Ask: As Robin said, you need help. A good place to start is your workplace. Select a friend, your Boss or from HR. Most women don't ask, and men assume everything is ok. This is the real problem. Friendship with a co-worker is on solid foundation and naturally grows.

Any other concerns, continue to ask here.

A reason I've written is because I have a daughter who lives by herself - fortunately in good neighborhood.




Zeeshan Khalil's photo
Sat 03/19/22 08:38 PM
be relaxed and try to stay calm I'm also suffering from anxiety so go outside in jungle for fishing it will help you

Diva59's photo
Sat 03/19/22 11:39 PM
Hi, I dont know if this will help you but try getting professional help like a psychologist or someone you have confidence with about your situation. Talking to someone else about how you feel might help you, dont keep things that are affecting you inside.

Blah's photo
Sun 03/20/22 01:51 AM
Last time I had bad neighbors,
I didn't renew their rental.

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Sun 03/20/22 05:49 PM
I like all my neighbors, so I'm good.

ivegotthegirth's photo
Sun 03/20/22 11:06 PM
Kill 'em...............just kill them

lonely guy's photo
Tue 07/12/22 07:02 AM
lol, I spoke to my neighbor 1 time in 28 years, week I moved here, he was in full military ear wearing his gun trying to intimidate me, raising cane about vintage car I brought home saying it would leak oil or contaminate his pond, however what wasnt expected was meeting a full fledged old school biker with his gun outside, that told him I would blow my spring as i didnt care, I would call it a nuissance, and I could have tried to stop, I was taught how as a teenager, seriously, doesnt always work, but then he would have a hole in the ground where his pond once was, we both had hand on guns but holstered, he basically left with his tail between his legs, he learned not to confront a biker, & it has been 28 peaceful years, also I cant see his home from my home, I have to hike through woods a few min, as I am very rural. but I hear him mowing or normal handyman noises, but not 1 more word.

dont be afraid to confront someone, dont let anyone take advantage of you, & I do have another neighbor, seen a few times, as UPS has left stuff there instead of my home & vice versa, we dont talk nothing in common,

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Tue 07/12/22 08:08 AM
They would try to copy you move, talk, and etc..

"Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery"

Perhaps you have way too much time on your hands.
Find something to do besides focusing on your neighbors.

Work on your self-esteem. Put your ego in check.

Consider the possibility your neighbors are not actually copying you. You may just be associating their behavior with your own. Stop "watching them" so much.

Consider making friends with your neighbors.

If you think they are dangerous, then consider police involvement but be ready for backlash, especially if your accusations are unfounded.

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Thu 11/17/22 11:31 AM
Put up a fence

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Thu 11/17/22 10:06 PM
It's a four month old post.

The dude has probably moved to the happy farm by now.