I just read a BBC article about how politics is increasingly a deal-breaker on the U.S. dating scene. https://apple.news/AzU0rNxXDRvSD2FjrAhu7BQ

Is this the case for you? To what degree (if any) does a person’s political views influence your decision on whether to date them?

Not really their position as such, but their relationship to it. If all they have on their mind, and all they can talk about is, "blah blah blah politics this, and blah blah blah political that", then I'm outta there.

We're apolitical in this house.

Though, it can be fun sneaking down
to the political forum, and tipping
over that outhouse.

As for me, yes! Though I wouldn't use the term - "deal breaker", but I don't foresee a relationship with someone diametrically opposite in the political spectrum.

I can definitely understand that, Motown. There are so many other things to talk about!

Ha! People definitely do get riled over there!

That's fair. Some people are pretty emphatic about their political views, and this might cause a lot of debates (or arguments) if partners differ enough in ideology.

I see men ask about this regularly in the quizzes I've spoken of before on that particular dating site.
I always skip such quizzes and men.
I don't like it when a man isn't open and interested to get to know me, but is judgemental, has such fixed ideas that he'd immediately reject a person.

I do agree that when political opinions and ideologies lie far apart it's not going to work, but then I do think when you really click you won't be that far apart politically.

For me, it depends, If they are open-minded like I am, and we can have a civil conversation about it in the rare circumstance it comes up, then no it is not a dealbreaker... However if they are close minded and just want to argue then it's a major dealbreaker...

Exactly, that's pretty much how it is for me as well.

However, like Crystal, I believe if we truly click and resonate with each other, that our politic views aren't going to be so far apart that it would be an issue.

Hi Crystal! You make an interesting point in that if you really click you likely wouldn't be that far apart politically.

Yep, I think that's a big key as well--whether the both of you are willing to keep an open mind and really listen to opposing views

Hi River! I agree. I would consider myself a moderate, and could probably date someone pretty firmly ensconced in either direction. However, I am very put off by extreme views or zealotry of any kind.

Hi Bonnie! I would most likely be considered a moderate, as well. It might sound horrible to some people, but I have absolutely no interest in politics.

So, giving it more thought, I think for me it wouldn't be so much having different views that would be the deal breaker... the deal breaker would be how involved he is in politics. If he is a die hard political person, then we most likely wouldn't resonate with each other, thus being a deal breaker.

It would be difficult to be with someone who was focused primarily on politics, when I am primarily focused on evolving spiritually.

I was married to somebody, with a completely different agenda, it didn't work. It was a clash between a biased conservative (also staunch Catholic) family versus a liberal (in all senses) family.

I am very active in politics, so for me there has to be some common ground. Not 100% agreement, but at least some common ground. Which is not possible, as soon as issues like bias and xenophobia kick in.

Most people I know go back and forth left and right. Depending on issue. That's fine. But I dont like and cant deal with anyone absorbed with politics. Or all the way right or left. Also anyone with politics on profile pic was instant ignore. Not dealing with it. But most people i can get along with, and agree to disagree.

Do you feel like the differences in politics and ideologies was a primary divide in your relationship? Or did it play only a small role?

Aye, in some cases, the "agree to disagree" - approach works. I have people in my circle of friends, who oppose my political views. We talk about football, cats, whatsoever. Just not about politics.

But a partner, who lives with yoü 24/7 ? That's a different ball game, imo

Yeah, probably if someone has a prominent display of politics in their profile, I can understand why you might want to avoid them.

Yeah, probably if someone has a prominent display of politics in their profile, I can understand why you might want to avoid them.