Topic: Politics—a deal-breaker in dating?
motowndowntown's photo
Wed 10/26/22 09:16 AM

We're apolitical in this house.

Though, it can be fun sneaking down
to the political forum, and tipping
over that outhouse.



Hope ya bring a crane. It's a pretty big outhouse. And all the holes are usually full.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 10/26/22 09:58 AM





Exactly, that's pretty much how it is for me as well.

However, like Crystal, I believe if we truly click and resonate with each other, that our politic views aren't going to be so far apart that it would be an issue.




Hi River! I agree. I would consider myself a moderate, and could probably date someone pretty firmly ensconced in either direction. However, I am very put off by extreme views or zealotry of any kind.


Hi Bonnie! I would most likely be considered a moderate, as well. It might sound horrible to some people, but I have absolutely no interest in politics.

So, giving it more thought, I think for me it wouldn't be so much having different views that would be the deal breaker... the deal breaker would be how involved he is in politics. If he is a die hard political person, then we most likely wouldn't resonate with each other, thus being a deal breaker.

It would be difficult to be with someone who was focused primarily on politics, when I am primarily focused on evolving spiritually.

Which I like / hope to believe leads back to, "if we are a match, have a good click & resonance, we aren't going to be too far apart."
I highly doubt I'd have a click & connection with someone who's very mental and in their head as opposed to more spiritually oriented and in their heartspace like me. There'd be too big of a vibrational gap.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 10/26/22 10:09 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Wed 10/26/22 10:10 AM
I myself couldn't place myself in the so called left or right political arena.
These days you're considered 'right wing' when your views deviate from the ones in power that are after keeping us all in check so we're easily controlled & manipulated.
I'm completely not in agreement with the ones in power so I guess these days I'm a right wing.

But to me 'right wing' is leaning toward fascism, white supremacy and that kind of stuff. That's absolutely not me. That's more the ones in power who claim to be liberal, for the people, etc. but in truth aren't at all.

The terms right & left wing have become vague and in my view quite meaningless.
I mean, if the ones pretending to be left wing are actually right wing and accuse the real left ones (the loving kind) of being right wing... then what's all the BS about?

I don't follow politics much. Too much aggression and stress. Whenever I see parts of a debate then all that's happening is the group in agreement teaming up against the one with different views, ridiculing him, knocking him, interrupting, and making derogatory comments. On top of that they rip whatever he says out of context.
It's like a bunch of 4 year olds in suits. And that's the ones we got to trust with being in power and governing our country...
Quite terrifying to be honest.


Larsi666 😽's photo
Wed 10/26/22 11:29 AM


I was married to somebody, with a completely different agenda, it didn't work. It was a clash between a biased conservative (also staunch Catholic) family versus a liberal (in all senses) family.

I am very active in politics, so for me there has to be some common ground. Not 100% agreement, but at least some common ground. Which is not possible, as soon as issues like bias and xenophobia kick in.


Do you feel like the differences in politics and ideologies was a primary divide in your relationship? Or did it play only a small role?


It was one of two primary divides. That family could only accept one of their own.

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Wed 10/26/22 08:26 PM
It's not one of the things I take into consideration, unless every conversation leads to something political. I find that most people who I converse with, who have strong political views, do not care to hear my opinion, unless I'm agreeing with them, of course. So it wouldn't take me more than a minute to decide that it's not a relationship that's worth forming.

On the dating site that I'm on, I was at first surprised by how many men state on their profile, "If you voted for Biden...." and ended with something derogatory, were online. Now I'm so used to seeing it, it seems like the profile is incomplete without it.

I'm very thankful that it's so prevalent on their profile though, because it saves me from even wondering if we'd be a match...I can just ignore them, and keep looking for someone who isn't soooo close-minded. I have no desire to date anyone who is a control freak. And yes, that's exactly what I think you are if you can't allow anyone else to have an opinion that is different from yours, without you trying to brow-beat and belittle them.

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Wed 10/26/22 11:30 PM

It's not one of the things I take into consideration, unless every conversation leads to something political. I find that most people who I converse with, who have strong political views, do not care to hear my opinion, unless I'm agreeing with them, of course. So it wouldn't take me more than a minute to decide that it's not a relationship that's worth forming.

On the dating site that I'm on, I was at first surprised by how many men state on their profile, "If you voted for Biden...." and ended with something derogatory, were online. Now I'm so used to seeing it, it seems like the profile is incomplete without it.

I'm very thankful that it's so prevalent on their profile though, because it saves me from even wondering if we'd be a match...I can just ignore them, and keep looking for someone who isn't soooo close-minded. I have no desire to date anyone who is a control freak. And yes, that's exactly what I think you are if you can't allow anyone else to have an opinion that is different from yours, without you trying to brow-beat and belittle them.


Hi TechFairy! waving Wow, that's interesting that people actually have that written in their profile. Totally agree, that does sound very controlling. It's interesting how strongly some people can feel about politics in dating, when it's the day-to-day stuff that you'd think would matter more.

Dramatic Muffin's photo
Wed 10/26/22 11:30 PM

It's not one of the things I take into consideration, unless every conversation leads to something political. I find that most people who I converse with, who have strong political views, do not care to hear my opinion, unless I'm agreeing with them, of course. So it wouldn't take me more than a minute to decide that it's not a relationship that's worth forming.

On the dating site that I'm on, I was at first surprised by how many men state on their profile, "If you voted for Biden...." and ended with something derogatory, were online. Now I'm so used to seeing it, it seems like the profile is incomplete without it.

I'm very thankful that it's so prevalent on their profile though, because it saves me from even wondering if we'd be a match...I can just ignore them, and keep looking for someone who isn't soooo close-minded. I have no desire to date anyone who is a control freak. And yes, that's exactly what I think you are if you can't allow anyone else to have an opinion that is different from yours, without you trying to brow-beat and belittle them.


Hi TechFairy! waving Wow, that's interesting that people actually have that written in their profile. Totally agree, that does sound very controlling. It's interesting how strongly some people can feel about politics in dating, when it's the day-to-day stuff that you'd think would matter more.

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Thu 10/27/22 02:48 AM
I vote. I'm adamant about my position on key issues. The way I vote and my position on issues are indicative of my world-view. If the same is true of someone I'm considering dating, and the scenery in my world-view distorts when superimposed with theirs... we're probably incompatible.

Mike6615's photo
Thu 10/27/22 06:39 AM
An old joke about political opposites in a relationship is that they cancel out each other's vote.

Mr Good Guy's photo
Thu 10/27/22 08:03 AM
Edited by Mr Good Guy on Thu 10/27/22 08:04 AM


It's not one of the things I take into consideration, unless every conversation leads to something political. I find that most people who I converse with, who have strong political views, do not care to hear my opinion, unless I'm agreeing with them, of course. So it wouldn't take me more than a minute to decide that it's not a relationship that's worth forming.

On the dating site that I'm on, I was at first surprised by how many men state on their profile, "If you voted for Biden...." and ended with something derogatory, were online. Now I'm so used to seeing it, it seems like the profile is incomplete without it.

I'm very thankful that it's so prevalent on their profile though, because it saves me from even wondering if we'd be a match...I can just ignore them, and keep looking for someone who isn't soooo close-minded. I have no desire to date anyone who is a control freak. And yes, that's exactly what I think you are if you can't allow anyone else to have an opinion that is different from yours, without you trying to brow-beat and belittle them.


Hi TechFairy! waving Wow, that's interesting that people actually have that written in their profile. Totally agree, that does sound very controlling. It's interesting how strongly some people can feel about politics in dating, when it's the day-to-day stuff that you'd think would matter more.
ALOT of women, during the Trump years, also had the "if you voted for Trump, DO NOT message me" thing. Very adamant in fact.

CM9999's photo
Thu 10/27/22 09:21 AM
I would say that a person's "political" viewpoint very much reflects their viewpoint towards life and other members of the human race. To a certain extent their religious viewpoint may also be a factor; for example, I have heard people say that their "god" would be more important than their partner. I would never consider dating such a person.

Ɔʎɹɐx's photo
Thu 10/27/22 10:23 AM
On the contrary. A person who's aware of politics is generally an intellectual person. And that's exactly what I'm going after

lonely guy's photo
Thu 10/27/22 12:18 PM
Enjoying this debate! Lol. I even went on 1 short date. Lady was too out there. Republican. Total Trump NUT! TV was said always on on o ffg the Trump talk shows, she worked conventions, all kind of Trump stuff in home, she seemed nice, but couldnt stop politics to get to know. Probably wonders why no second date. Lol. I would been same if Democrat all over.

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Thu 10/27/22 03:29 PM
wavingHey Bonnieflowerforyou

@Mr Good Guy - On that site, I can't see the profiles of the ladies; but I've always wondered if the men are seeing as many politically written profiles as the ladies do.

I do think it's smart for individuals to put it on their profile, if they're that adamant about which party their partner should support. It saves people, like me, a bunch of time since we're totally turned off from someone whose every convo leads to something political.

@lonely guy - I had a similar experience...and I also do not care which party you're supporting. Both his radio and television volume was turned up to 100 it felt like. He kept asking "what did you say?" throughout dinner, not thinking that perhaps he should turn down/off one or both. But, my job is not to change anyone...so I didn't ask him to turn them off/down either. So, I'd just smile and say something completely different (because I'm not into repeating myself just for the heck of it), without raising my voice any louder.

Totally could have saved my eardrums had he written on his profile I am a political NUT!!

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Thu 10/27/22 08:40 PM

wavingHey Bonnieflowerforyou

@Mr Good Guy - On that site, I can't see the profiles of the ladies; but I've always wondered if the men are seeing as many politically written profiles as the ladies do.

I do think it's smart for individuals to put it on their profile, if they're that adamant about which party their partner should support. It saves people, like me, a bunch of time since we're totally turned off from someone whose every convo leads to something political.

@lonely guy - I had a similar experience...and I also do not care which party you're supporting. Both his radio and television volume was turned up to 100 it felt like. He kept asking "what did you say?" throughout dinner, not thinking that perhaps he should turn down/off one or both. But, my job is not to change anyone...so I didn't ask him to turn them off/down either. So, I'd just smile and say something completely different (because I'm not into repeating myself just for the heck of it), without raising my voice any louder.

Totally could have saved my eardrums had he written on his profile I am a political NUT!!


her tv in her room, at the other end of house was turned up like that, while we sat on couch & tried to talk, and eat. she asked me to come watch with her, no idea if she had other motives, but was too loud, and no desire to hear much. i may be expecting too much, but cant get a break trying to find a decent Lady. more luck in person than here. but like I only find rejects, or that have major issues

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Sun 10/30/22 10:23 AM
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Sun 10/30/22 10:27 AM
Strong political and religious views are deal breakers for me. waving

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Sun 10/30/22 11:27 AM

wavingHey Bonnieflowerforyou

@Mr Good Guy - On that site, I can't see the profiles of the ladies; but I've always wondered if the men are seeing as many politically written profiles as the ladies do.

I do think it's smart for individuals to put it on their profile, if they're that adamant about which party their partner should support. It saves people, like me, a bunch of time since we're totally turned off from someone whose every convo leads to something political.

@lonely guy - I had a similar experience...and I also do not care which party you're supporting. Both his radio and television volume was turned up to 100 it felt like. He kept asking "what did you say?" throughout dinner, not thinking that perhaps he should turn down/off one or both. But, my job is not to change anyone...so I didn't ask him to turn them off/down either. So, I'd just smile and say something completely different (because I'm not into repeating myself just for the heck of it), without raising my voice any louder.

Totally could have saved my eardrums had he written on his profile I am a political NUT!!
Like you TechFairy, I cannot see the mens profiles. But if I were to guess, I'd think the women see less of the "Don't chat with me if you voted for Biden" statements than men see of the "Don't chat with me if you voted for Trump" stuff for the simple reason that far too many men will hold back just for a bit of attention, a date, or to get a piece so they won't put it out there. Just my guess, but I'd bet its accurate.

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Sun 10/30/22 12:32 PM
Edited by Unknow on Sun 10/30/22 12:41 PM
What are you talking about! Anyone can view anybody's profile, unless one is apprehensive of being thought of as homo!

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Sun 10/30/22 12:54 PM

What are you talking about! Anyone can view anybody's profile, unless one is apprehensive of being thought of as homo!
We were talking about OTHER sites, not this one.