First up I do NOT want pity, I am fine with who I am, and find pity regarding my disability kind of like an insult.

I want to know if it's worth me trying to date.

I was stupid and became disabled 8 or so years ago. Since then I have been single, I've tried numerous dating sites and only get messages from scammers, minus two times.

Now my question is, being disabled and unable to ever work again, should I bother trying to date via online dating? Is it even fair to the other person?

I honestly want to know, even if the answer isn't what most would want to hear.

And please no pity, I am okay with my body and who I am. All pity does is make me feel like I'm less of a person.

Self Learning..

Good Luck

Why wouldn't it be possible? Granted, it will make it more difficult but much depends on how you carry yourself and how you present yourself, and of course what the disability is.

If you cannot be bothered to make an effort though, you won't find anyone.
There are no guarantees that online dating will work, not for the abled or disabled. All you can do is be positive and give it a go.

Good luck.

It's totally possible, if you believe it to be.

In my opinion, that belief has to come from deep down in your heart, kind of like a core belief, without reservations. It's only then that you're able to experience the magic of manifestation in all things, including love. At least a love, or whatever you desire, that is sustainable, lasting.

Take me, for example... I'm a good person, not bad looking, a heart of gold, decent sense of humor, positive attitude, and I'm pretty darn good at manifesting great things in my life. Except a love that is everlasting with a man, a partner whose love is true, as mine is for him.

Why? Because somewhere deep inside, I don't believe it's possible. With as much work I have done as far as self growth, there's still a part of me that doesn't believe I'll meet a man who won't eventually abandon me, or will love me for who I truly am.

And then there's the "What does being in a relationship mean to me" element. And right now, it still means a loss of freedom, a loss of self. So I push away as soon as we start getting close. So my relationships, thus far, haven't been sustainable, everlasting.

If I truly want to find the kind of love I desire, I would need to change that element, start seeing relationships as being liberating, something that adds to my life, rather than something that takes life away from me. I'm working on that aspect, but it's still very much a work in progress, lol.

So my point is that it doesn't matter so much what's on the outside, whether you're rich or poor, whether you have a disability or you don't, whether you live in a beautiful home or a shack... what matters is what's inside, what you truly believe and whether or not you can see yourself having what it is that you truly desire.

Best wishes to you.

^^^

Beautifully and eloquently expressed.

Thank you

There is someone for everyone in my opinion, and every reason you could find someone online on a dating site. Join many dating sites so lots more people read your profile, you are very honest about yourself so your contacts will know about you from the beginning. It's the numbers game for us all, the more people you come into contact with the better your chances of finding the right person for you. So, yes you have every chance of finding and dating someone from online dating sites. Good Luck in your search.

Personally I’d date someone with a disability since I have a learning one myself since I was young. It’s what’s on the inside that counts .

I think that if you want to date, and put yourself out there, you will find someone to date.

Maybe in your profile state more what you are looking for and more about yourself.

Also you don't state what type of disability you have so I can only make some suggestions. Contact different organizations for disabled persons and events and see whom you meet through those. Like someone said the more people you meet your chances increase.

I would never say never but I don't know your physical situation or your talents but I am guessing there might be something maybe out side the norm that you are able to do for employment. Maybe start volunteering for some organization using your computer skills and go from there.

There has to be some dating sites for someone is disabled. Try to build some friendships around events and go from there.

I am a believer there is someone for everyone.

I am dating and I'm disability as well I have no problem with it so I say go for it

I've been disabled a lil over 14 years now.
I found someone using mingle2 a few years ago and its good.

Not only do you need to be honest and realistic you need to make a wise choice.
I've had dates found online which turned out to be poor choices.

Try to remember the wisdom is still needed after the relationship as started.
Finding someone who can tolerate my restrictions honestly was difficult in today's world. I needed to assess her tolerance before I could actually feel we had a relationship worth keeping. I've been fooled before.
You gotta pay attention to their reactions and responses and 'read' the underlying personality.
You have to 'teach' them what is and isn't possible with your disability.

Not here at least. Someone will find you and accept you for whoever you are wholeheartedly. You will meet that someone sooner or later. But dont try it here. We may get to know the person but you’d never know if it’s real unless you meet.