When you have met the right person, and both of you decide to marry or maybe live together, would you want to live at your place, their place, somewhere new starting afresh? Where do you think is the best place to start living together? Does it really matter where you live, what are your thoughts?

Will keep it on halt, after getting married will answer it, who knows if in future my wife reads it, then will shall debating or maybe I maybe staying outside the home...

People have a lot of baggage.
That becomes pertinent.

I got lucky.

He moved from Abilene, Texas (born, raised) to
Oregon and he still cannot get over the delicious
weather after 15 years here ;-)

Hi Duttoneer, Good day to you

it really matters to me that we both should live together surrounded with each other's presence.. we would decide to settle down in his place mostly at priority but he wouldn't say No if he had to stay with my family at my place for few months, if required too.. but for me, most important is, after marriage, not letting him to stay alone without me anywhere anymore that matters most to me 🥰

Paris or Rome is always nice...

Now there is a romantic ;-)

Thanks for all your responses. I would prefer we live at my place, but personal circumstances influence decisions at the time, and as mentioned already the amount of 'baggage' one of you has accumulated over the years where you live. I agree, what is most important is that you are together.
South of France would be nice as well in the summer time.

As long as it's not a big town or somewhere that gets really cold, I could live in many places in the USA. I don't know why it would be bad to live in the town that I already live in. It's a great small town.

with my elderly parents

Honestly that would all depend on where each live.. If they lived in an apartment then it would be my house...

If they had their own house and we lived within the same area. I would have no problem them keeping their place and me keeping mine and go back and forth.. Until we were absolutely sure. Actually dated a man for 11 years and we had our own places.

It would depend on who had the better place to live...as far as moving and where their place was..

Even if it was his place I would rent mine out.. For I have no intentions of not having a place to live if things did not go as it should.. I will never be left without a place to live again. Been there done that and bought my own place 32 years ago.. and not willing to give it up.

Living apart together, by each staying in your own place at least to begin with is an idea. If you do actually own your own home, I agree you need to make sure you keep it by renting it out if necessary, and make a prenup/preliving together agreement, to ensure what is yours stays yours if the relationship fails, so you will always have a place to live.

First I do not live with any Man unless I am married.
I have a home, so if he does not have a home but apt he would have to get a home. I do not want to live in an apt. If he lives out of State it would have to be a State where I would want to move. Not just because he is there. I am older and have 2 marriage proposals where I live. I knew them Well. But
Declined. Because I would have to Be inLove with the Old guys. I WASN'T.


No Online men.

Baggage and personal space are very much deciding factors ... it's reason enough for me to settle for a a LATitude ... dating while gray is plenty of work as is , no need to do the work at home to !!!

Well said Kristi .... it's kinda what I would do ..... at my age I can't take chances of being homeless ha ha !
Living Together Apart is what I shoot for .... hopefully she has the LATitude to !!!

Like Kristie I'm also way more careful now to give up my home, a rental, but still my home.
It is incredibly hard these days to get another rental, waiting for years has become quite normal, and I do not want to end up in a situation where I'm suffering because the relationship went awry.
Been there, done that.
That time it was his house so he could have thrown me out whenever he had wanted to. Then I'd have been in the street with my two kids.
NEVER again!

Thing is, men seem to always assume that the woman will move house for love. Few state they're willing to do so.

It'd get easier if he lives in an apartment, and many do. No freaking way will I move into an apartment, yuk.

And if I were to move in with a man again, I want mutual protection in case one makes their transition.
Otherwise you can still end up in the streets when the other passes away and his kids want their inheritance.

I used to always think of moving in with a man, probably as they seem to think and project that's normal.
Nowadays I'm thinking of him moving in with me.
I've got a house in a rural area, big garden, driveway etc.

I guess become more confident and clear on what I want and what not is a factor.