About to date a woman who has three Exs.
She does keep in touch with each one of them. Claims they are good friends and there is absolutely nothing between them .
Can I trust this statement OR is that a red Flag..


Note : One she was married and divorced from, One was a called of engagement and the otherwise was just a regular boyfriend for two years ... so she say>

Depends. Not necessarily a red flag.
At a certain age most everyone has had more than 1 relationship and many stay in touch with exes.
I do believe in many cases it's meaningless, but then again it begs the question, if it's meaningless then why is that more important than a potential new partner?

But all in all I think it comes down to your own boundaries. What is okay for you?
I've been lenient with it in the past, also with men having female "just friends".
Since the last one I have now made it a boundary. No guy with female friends anymore and no guy who wants to stay in touch with exes.
UNLESS it's occasional for shared kids.

Again, figure out what your own boundaries are in this.

Come to think of it... also what 'staying in touch'
entails.
Is this the occasional coffee, and if so, where? Her place or his or a restaurant?
Or is it dinner or entire afternoons/evenings spent together?
So where, how much time, and how often do they spend time together? That also matters.
But still, most important factor is, how do you feel about it? Are you okay with it?

Thats the way I am leaning....no Exs in the background... thinking that kinda relationship only exists cause one is still in love and the other is ugly ...

Before many come in and say it is a BIG RED FLAG~~~~~

I'll state my case...

Been married once divorced 34 years ago, my ex lives 10 blocks from me.. Do we still talk hell yea we have 2 kids and 6 grand kids together.. He has married twice since we divorced.. Heck he calls/drops by once in a while to talk about kids/grand kids or just to make sure everything is going okay.. We get along fine now.. Would I ever go back with him ohhh hell no..

We go to the grand kids sports games, and we all sit together... We talk/laugh about stuff grand kids have done etc...

I dated a guy for 12 years after my divorce. He is with someone else. And he actually calls me about every 2-4 months to see how I'm doing. Just to check up on me, to see if all is going okay.. If he does not call me I will call him to see how he is doing.. This has gone on for the last 15 years.

For me the past is the past. Once I'm done with a Relationship it's over.. Am I buddy buddy with the exes no.. When we talk it is just to check on how the other is doing..

Life is what it is.. so it is up to you if you can trust her or not... Women can have male friends and not want a relationship with them... jmo

TxsGal3333, that's kind of what I meant by how often and what etc.
What you say is not really very often and can be just phone calls.
With the father of your kids I can totally understand as well.
I too was in touch with my ex, father of my kids, for quite some time after the divorce.
NOT because there was still love there. Over is over for me. As in 100% over.
But it had to do with the kids.
Every other weekend the kids were with him and sometimes he picked them up at my new home that I shared with my new partner. Sometimes his new partner came with.
Then we drank a cup of coffee, chit-chatted and after that he was on his way home again with our kids.

Having spent a long time with each other and having kids together can mean you still get along after divorce without any desire for getting involved again.

For me personally that's where contact with exes ends. And I wouldn't like a new men to still check in on an ex either. I should be his new responsibility as a man, not an ex.
But that's my personal view & feelings.
This stuff will be different for everyone.