Thank you! I'll have to regroup and find myself. I don't want to hurt anyone, or get hurt myself. Thank you all for your opinions! They all have helped me see different views. I appreciate all your insight!

follow your heart

or a rose

Only you know the answer to this one..

hey she didnt die!!! come here , I want to meet you!!!now

I think you have to heal and when you can honestly say that you don't love her anymore or think about her THEN you know its time to move on. You need to find out who you are and what you really want in your life. I totally agree about not wanting to be a rebound thing..no one really wants to get hurt.
You have to clean up one relationship before you can start a new one. So when you feel that you have really cleaned up the old one..then you know its alright to start a new and fresh relationship.
Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for

I agree when you are out of love with her move on. You are legal now. Calling my lawyer (((again))) today!

as soon as u r ready darling

I waited 6 years after my divorce so I could concentrate on my kids. I wanted to ease into the whole 'single parent' home feeling. I'm glad I did.

But it was weird once I started again 4 years ago.

I think everyone is different. And men seem to need to get back into a relationship more than women do. We are better at being independent (for the most part .. not always of course).

I never believed it when people said it would take at least a year or two post "stamp" to be ready to date seriously again, because I was separated for a long time before the ex and I divorced. I thought all of the feelings had been resolved long before. Boy was I wrong. I was in no frame of mind to establish a long-term, committed relationship in 2002/3, though you never could have told me that at the time. When I think back to how wild and reckless I was during that year or so....

Still, my experience was pretty common, compared to others in my situation.

Everyone is different, and there are many things (not to mention how long you were together) that factor in to the amount of time it takes any individual to process, heal, and move beyond....to get back to themselves again; but, it took me a good 5 or 6 years to be really ready to commit joyfully and freely again.

It was a long process and there were many twists and turns along the way, many upsets, bad feelings, worries among the fun, passion, and adventure. Granted, there were factors in my situation that drew the healing out longer than it should have been, but it all unfolded as it was meant to. I believe that.

Be well.

10 minutes tops..15 if you stop to comb your hair.

if your like me,,NEVER..lol
Good luck with that...

cheers on yur divorce goin through.!! jk move on asap

I would add that ink on a paper is not the right barometer. True, for some that finality allows the torrent of pent up emotion to flow. For most, it is just an anti-climatic moment that codifies your new relationship with your ex.

That's what people fail to realize. Ok, you just got a divorce BUT, the relationship has BEEN OVER!

some feel that you should be by yourself for awhile to find your self again. It's up to you and the way you feel mentally about everything. You have to ask your self,am i ready to move on with my life and have someone new in it,mentally.