I just recently got divorced. It was final on January 17th of this year, so a little over a month. I've met a few women that said it was too early for them to be anything more than friends with me. I know it only been a month, but I have been without affection and companionship for way over a year! How long till I can find love again?

if you keep looking, you'll never find it.
good things come to those who wait.

Are you looking for love or lust??

Lust you can have right away...

Love takes time...so what is wrong with being friends for awhile?

why wait? start looking now.

Have to see what your therapist recomends....

i waited 11 years .. i had some dates but nothing serious .. just dont wait 11 years like i did i feel like a monk.

Amen! Thanks Wonderbread!

Just Do IT

my x got married 6 weeks after our divorce...

Nothing wrong with that. It just struck me funny that they would tell me it was too soon.

well you have to give yourself some time to grieve and heal .. but there is no set time frame when this will happen .. I personally don't date men that are Recently divorced , too much baggage and who wants to be the trasition person..

I just got divorced,it took a year due to us arguing and fighting about everything down to the dishes.. We where seperated for 7yrs, he had a girlfriend for the last 12. I went on with my life last December and have dated on and off.I'm now getting into a serious relationship with a fellow soldier and plan to marry next year of all goes well.....

They just don't want to be the rebound girl....and there will be the rebound girl....

30 minutes....just like eating/swimming

Right on! Congrads! Hope everything works out for you two!

all these different experinces and each with a different outcome....doen not logic tell us that to look at the cause and effect will always give a illogical answer....the true answer must apply across the board to all evenly.....each one is on their own unique path and each desires takes them there.....how can one look to the left or right and find peace within? It has to be each is his own guide, and each being led by themselves from the other side, down the highway of potholes and curves and yes, even a few crashes.....if we wish to have peace/happiness now we have to see both cause and effect togther and then ask ourselves for the third picture of total purpose of both....cause and effect keep one looking at the next pothole instead of down the road to bliss, so if one does not see how to get to the city/bliss, how will one be able to drive themself there? For every question there has to be a true answer that give happiness, not just the same old mind view of action-reaction we see.

So, what is the rebound girl?

took me two years to start looking, and I have made all kinds of mistakes. I find myself being a bit pushy, especially with how my emotions have been of late. Hopefully I have learned a bit, and I plan to just back off of it. I am a business man, and used to having control over a situation, and have not been in the dating game for a number of years (over 10!) so it is a whole new learning curve for me. So, if there are any on here I have offended, please don't hold a grudge. I am just saying look at it more as finding a good friend, build it up, and watch how fast you try to push it.

Oh the rebound girl is the girl you fall in love with, who is totally wrong for you and either A.) Will break your hear...or B.) you will break hers.... but the heartbreak you feel is much less than the one you feel after a divorce, and you learn exactly what you do and do not want in a relationship....

No one can avoid the rebound... it's eminent....

Its been a year since you have had any contact.......you signed the papers in january.....big difference. Go for it!!!