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I'm mainly talking from experience from other dating sites, this one seems pretty good so far. Honestly, though, a lot of the "no response" thing can probably be attributed to fake profiles. Not all of them, but probably a lot of them. One thing I noticed about your previous post that I found odd, and probably just needs some clarification. I personalize each one (as well as I can, considering most profiles don't have much information on them). I send messages to women with no picture in their profile, if the profile itself has something to say. What had you writing to them if they had 'not much' in their profile? Was it their pictures? Conversely... Addressing those with no pictures? You were addressing their writing? Let me explain... If I offered the first communication..which I did very rarely.. Maybe 6 times within the first month of being on the site.. I wrote to someone that had something to say, both in the profile and in the threads, who I found to be physically attractive. I'm pretty sure that I was able to fashion something out of that which expressed a genuine interest on a few levels As it turns out.. That is exactly what had me falling. A woman wrote to me.. that read my posts, read my profile, and liked my pictures. She expressed a genuine interest based on what she knew from those things.. and seemed as if she wanted to know more, with no expectations. She got more then she bargained for, as I did too. She didn't settle. She does not have to. Lilith can have her choice of men here. I'd be fooling myself if I said any different. I did not settle either. A pretty face alone would not have done it for me.. Some well crafted words, probably wouldn't have either. The two things together though.. As it turns out... Can shake up my world pretty well. don't normally disagree with you jist, but I think physical attractiveness is overrated. By that logic, only pretty people could find love. Would lilith be any less than what she is if she were not as beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside? Ugly people deserve love, too.   so true, but so unrealistic Maybe I should start a dating site for "Uglo Americans" as Rush calls us. I know, right? When one of the least shallow guys on here , who has helped to restore my faith in men, admits that physical attractiveness is a crucial factor..well, I am doomed. |
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Edited by
padams9098
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Thu 03/13/08 10:16 AM
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Don't say "ugly people need love too", it's more accurate to say "everyone's beautiful to someone"
Sorry if it sounds like someone BS'ing, but it's really true. If it weren't my whole faith in humanity will die.
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Padams you are sweet, but, you didn't e mail this fat chick!
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Padams you are sweet, but, you didn't e mail this fat chick! Yes I did, you never emailed me back. 
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what annoyed me was how the guy put us all in the same bag so to speak...i dont treat guys like that and he was wrong to assume so...plus he kept repeating himself
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don't normally disagree with you jist, but I think physical attractiveness is overrated. By that logic, only pretty people could find love. Would lilith be any less than what she is if she were not as beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside? Ugly people deserve love, too. Actually, Jist and I started talking when he could not see me really well because I had crappy quality pics on the site. He could tell I was Caucasian and had shorter reddish brown hair... that's about it. When I changed my photos he never really said anything, nor when I saw him on the cam. When we met in person he commented that I looked different from my pictures, in that the shape of my face is different, I'm taller than he imagined, etc. I always viewed Jistme's physicality as what I called a "vanilla buttercream frosting" bonus, and not at all what I care about. I think that's pretty reciprocal. |
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Padams you are sweet, but, you didn't e mail this fat chick! Yes I did, you never emailed me back. I already fell for that line in this thread, & was embarrassed when the reply was, no I didn't I was just teasing you. As an experienced Fat chick, I should have known. Not falling for it again, my e mail is working. Right Hiker? |
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I stopped looking for the bad boys a while ago but even the ones that seem to be the good guys can fool you |
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don't normally disagree with you jist, but I think physical attractiveness is overrated. By that logic, only pretty people could find love. Would lilith be any less than what she is if she were not as beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside? Ugly people deserve love, too. Actually, Jist and I started talking when he could not see me really well because I had crappy quality pics on the site. He could tell I was Caucasian and had shorter reddish brown hair... that's about it. When I changed my photos he never really said anything, nor when I saw him on the cam. When we met in person he commented that I looked different from my pictures, in that the shape of my face is different, I'm taller than he imagined, etc. I always viewed Jistme's physicality as what I called a "vanilla buttercream frosting" bonus, and not at all what I care about. I think that's pretty reciprocal. that's why I was kind of surprised by what he said to Padams. No worry. Maybe I misunderstood. I am hypersensitive on that topic. (can you tell???) |
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Padams you are sweet, but, you didn't e mail this fat chick! Yes I did, you never emailed me back. I already fell for that line in this thread, & was embarrassed when the reply was, no I didn't I was just teasing you. As an experienced Fat chick, I should have known. Not falling for it again, my e mail is working. Right Hiker? It's in my sent mail if you want me to resend it. 
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Don't say "ugly people need love too", it's more accurate to say "everyone's beautiful to someone" Sorry if it sounds like someone BS'ing, but it's really true. If it weren't my whole faith in humanity will die. it is difficult when every day you see dozens of guys saying that they e-mailed women and got no responses. The only e-mails I get are from women, guys who want to be friends and talk about stuff from the forums, and 20 year old guys who want to have phone sex. I have not once gotten an e-mail from a guy in my decade (or thereabouts) who was interested in getting to know me as woman. And I KNOW I am funny; I know I am smart. I know I have so much to offer..and yet....nothing. Maybe my conclusions are wrong, but I really believe that guys run like the wind from heavy women. I have heard this from other heavy women on here. Don't get me wrong. I am not going to post a whine topic about this. It is my problem; my life. I blame no one for the situation. But it is what it is. |
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Ok I understand now, it's a conspiracy. This site must filter all mail going to fat chicks to be sure nothing form a decent guy gets through, unless he is just teasing, or clarifying that he is not interested.
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Don't feel bad, hikerchick, it's the same with short guys. Gotta have faith, there's someone for everyone. Not being stereotypical for what the opposite sex is looking for can be lonely, but it also means that when you finally meet that person it will be something more special and definite because you know they like you for you and not for your exterior.
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Well said Hiker, I get a few "cougar seaches" too. & I do get relpies from stuff I post in the forums. Sometimes I think they Email me because they don't want to be seen replying to me in public, might give people the wrong idea ya know!
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Ok I understand now, it's a conspiracy. This site must filter all mail going to fat chicks to be sure nothing form a decent guy gets through, unless he is just teasing, or clarifying that he is not interested. >whew< is THAT what it is? I thought it was me!! Wow, now, I can't wait until they remove that filter and all those e-mails start pouring in. Yipee! |
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Hiker~
I think I see the part you mean. Where Jist said he sent mails to women he found attractive... I was not one of them. It was weeks before he knew what I really looked like, other than a blurry smile. I pursued him. I sent the first mail, gave out my number, called him, sent messages... I started it all and kept at it. |
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I have never been interested in the "bad boy" type. Yich!!
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Don't feel bad, hikerchick, it's the same with short guys. Gotta have faith, there's someone for everyone. Not being stereotypical for what the opposite sex is looking for can be lonely, but it also means that when you finally meet that person it will be something more special and definite because you know they like you for you and not for your exterior. I have a dear friend who is 5'8" and he told me that some women won't even talk to him because he is too short. He was on a site where you could see if someone deleted your e-mail and he said most of his were deleted without being read. Which is sad, because he is smart and sweet. But they saw only his exterior. I wouldn't mind if I could kiss the top of my sweetie's head. 
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Hiker~ I think I see the part you mean. Where Jist said he sent mails to women he found attractive... I was not one of them. It was weeks before he knew what I really looked like, other than a blurry smile. I pursued him. I sent the first mail, gave out my number, called him, sent messages... I started it all and kept at it. you won the prize!!! And so did he! I love you both. |
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Don't feel bad, hikerchick, it's the same with short guys. Gotta have faith, there's someone for everyone. Not being stereotypical for what the opposite sex is looking for can be lonely, but it also means that when you finally meet that person it will be something more special and definite because you know they like you for you and not for your exterior. I have a dear friend who is 5'8" and he told me that some women won't even talk to him because he is too short. He was on a site where you could see if someone deleted your e-mail and he said most of his were deleted without being read. Which is sad, because he is smart and sweet. But they saw only his exterior. I wouldn't mind if I could kiss the top of my sweetie's head. That's depressing that 5'8 is considered too short, because I'm only 5'5. Oh well, I know I can do anything a tall guy can do. 
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