I'm mainly talking from experience from other dating sites, this one seems pretty good so far. Honestly, though, a lot of the "no response" thing can probably be attributed to fake profiles. Not all of them, but probably a lot of them.

I personalize each one (as well as I can, considering most profiles don't have much information on them). I send messages to women with no picture in their profile, if the profile itself has something to say.

Ask and ye shall recieve. (And I shall not )

whatever, i proved your point wrong by replying :D

for Lilith & Jistme!

Post note-- I went back & really checked out niceguy's profile. He says he is looking for a "nice girl" but most of his "friends" have hooker names & one of them is married. (at least she was honest about it) hmmmmmmm so it seems like he is the one that is confused about what he wants.

lilred... no offense, but I didn't need to check his profile to figure that one out....

lilred... no offense, but I didn't need to check his profile to figure that one out....

No thanks, I could not compete with his "freinds" & would not want to.

I went there too. If you want a guy who has no free time and you are attractive, nice, and enjoy his hobbies (racing, suond production and photography).. "hit" him up.

Jistme, what I meant was that I don't limit myself to people who just have nice pictures, and I don't limit myself to people who just have a nice profile. There always has to be something that makes me decide to write a person, and physical attraction is one of those things undeniably. But, conversely, personality is extremely important too. You never know when someone with a nice picture but no real information will reveal more of themselves in a more intimate conversation, and you never know when someone who doesn't post pictures could give you that spark when you talk one on one with them.

blah for bad boys.....been there done that.......dont wanna go there anymore........

Thats not to say that I want a wimp either. Just someone who thinks Im a goddess and yet doesnt let me take advantage of him......

naw i got tired of the *****ing and got divoreced LOL

One thing I noticed about your previous post that I found odd, and probably just needs some clarification.


What had you writing to them if they had 'not much' in their profile? Was it their pictures?
Conversely... Addressing those with no pictures? You were addressing their writing?

Let me explain...
If I offered the first communication..which I did very rarely.. Maybe 6 times within the first month of being on the site.. I wrote to someone that had something to say, both in the profile and in the threads, who I found to be physically attractive. I'm pretty sure that I was able to fashion something out of that which expressed a genuine interest on a few levels

As it turns out.. That is exactly what had me falling. A woman wrote to me.. that read my posts, read my profile, and liked my pictures. She expressed a genuine interest based on what she knew from those things.. and seemed as if she wanted to know more, with no expectations.
She got more then she bargained for, as I did too.
She didn't settle. She does not have to. Lilith can have her choice of men here. I'd be fooling myself if I said any different. I did not settle either.

A pretty face alone would not have done it for me.. Some well crafted words, probably wouldn't have either. The two things together though.. As it turns out... Can shake up my world pretty well.

don't normally disagree with you jist, but I think physical attractiveness is overrated. By that logic, only pretty people could find love. Would lilith be any less than what she is if she were not as beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside? Ugly people deserve love, too.