Do you mean the forums as such? Or the 30s-40s part of the forums?

So you're looking for more than 50 women?

One not enough for you?

Up until recently I was one of those who didn’t reply to messages (here) but have responded to some lately.

I think if people take the time to message you and I mean write something of substance and not just ‘hi’, it’s only courteous to write back and thank them even if it’s just to say no thank you. I have now changed my mind and it’s because the guys in question don’t take rejection well (no matter how politely I respond). They think they can make me change my mind about them when all it does is verify that I made the right choice in rejecting them. More often than not they are disrespectful of my preferences and culminates them getting blocked. Very few thank me for my response and wish me well. I’m not here to justify myself or argue with guys so I’ve once again decided to no longer reply to any messages I receive. Sometimes, it seems, being polite is not worth the hassle.

Replying to job applicants is a different story. When people sent me their CVs on spec I always took the time to respond. Even if there were no current positions available I always replied. That’s just good manners or maybe I’m just old school

Are women more loyal than men? What does loyalty mean to you? Is it the same as boundaries?

It's the old template of living which has been rammed down our throats for hundreds of years, probably much longer. Church has had a lot to do with that.
Basically woman is already made inferior in the bible with the story of Adam and Eve. She was not his first wife, that was Lilith. He wanted her to be subservient to him, she refused as they were made from the same material so they were equal.
In the end she left as he kept insisting she'd be submissive etc.

Personally I think this story was invented to subconsciously tell men they are superior, and to tell women that if they don't obey man they get cast out. That's what happened to Lilith as she has been scorned for ages, called evil etc etc.

Not to make this religious but to illustrate how far this nonsense goes back and thus how deeply it is embedded in people's system.

How badly this belief is still active DOES depend on where one lives. Some countries -or areas in countries- are still rather conservative, and again I see this is often related to people still being quite religious.
It's still a patriarchal society -pretty much everywhere- and has been for a few thousand years.

My ex wife was convinced, after getting married, the husband must provide for the family, and that the wife can stay at home. I think, it depends, on how you are brought up by your parents, and not where you live.

Depends on where you live. In most western countries that type of thinking is old-fashioned. It's much more common nowadays for both partners to work and to share the chores at home.

It's not, to everyone.
Depends a lot on a situation.

I mean there are huge differences between:
- I don't tell people I'm dating that I am still married and/or have kids for at least 6 months. If they find out and whine how I lied, it's their problem. I am not a liar, they never asked, and I only bring it up when I'm comfortable with it.

- I put on my profile I'm looking for a long term relationship. I met a hot chick online whose profile also said they're looking for a long term. I've been banging her and treating her like a FWB. She keeps asking where it's going, and how I feel. I ignore those texts and conversations. I don't say anything. I don't want a long term relationship with her, I don't even really like her. But the sex is great. I'm not lying or leading her on though. Since I'm not saying anything at all about it, I'm not really lying to her.

- When a random stranger on the bus asks me how I'm doin', I just nod and don't say anything. Just because I'm not ejaculating how I'm really feeling or doing then I'm not lying. They shouldn't think I'm lying to them about how I'm doing because I don't want to have a conversation with a stranger.



It can be.
Speaking a lie is manipulating/creating a false perception.
Silence can be used to perpetuate/create/manipulate a false perception.
Just as has been said countless times regarding online dating "no response is a response."
Even silence communicates something.

Communication is not just what comes out of your mouth.
You can lie without ever saying a word.
You ever see women on instagram?


By that logic you could put someone else's picture up on your profile and when people meet you in person and are like "who are you?" you can feel justified in telling them "hey! I never actually said that picture was of me so it's not a lie!"
And maybe it can go so far as "well, you typed in your email that was your picture," and respond "typing isn't actually speaking! It didn't come out of my mouth! I never lied!"


No. We should absolutely be drawn to contexts.
If we weren't, the human race would probably be dead within moments.
Do you not understand what "context" actually is?

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