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One of my close friends tried fixing me up with one of her co-workers a few weeks ago. We went on a couple fun dates but nothing serious. Seemed like a nice girl.
Fast forward to last Friday night. I had been waiting for a certain DJ to come to town for months which my friend knew about. After an insane week at work, I finally arrive at the club looking to relax and get into the music. Things are going great. I was'nt there to meet people, but I ran into a girl that I went to school with and small talk etc. My friend shows up with the girl I dated and then I get nagged at by both of them for talking to my old classmate. :Sigh: I WAS trying to go alone. jealousy sucks |
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Yes it does M. So do expectations, too bad we put ours on others. I might call and apologize if she was offended and explain it was an old friend. But only if you want to see her again. If not, leave her with her own expectations.
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So does immaturity. Oh well, just shows you don't want to date the girl anymore.
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I don't like people setting me up
1. they don't know what I would like or not 2. if it doesn't work out, then it could be awkward with the friends |
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One of my close friends tried fixing me up with one of her co-workers a few weeks ago. We went on a couple fun dates but nothing serious. Seemed like a nice girl. Fast forward to last Friday night. I had been waiting for a certain DJ to come to town for months which my friend knew about. After an insane week at work, I finally arrive at the club looking to relax and get into the music. Things are going great. I was'nt there to meet people, but I ran into a girl that I went to school with and small talk etc. My friend shows up with the girl I dated and then I get nagged at by both of them for talking to my old classmate. :Sigh: I WAS trying to go alone. jealousy sucks so you weren't on a date that night and they just showed up without you knowing? Sorry but if they got made at me, then I'd have a problem with that. You didn't invite her, they did. You had no obligations that night and you weren't in an exclusive relationship. So even IF you were there to pick up girls or on another date, that is your right. |
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I did explain to them who she was, but only after they made it known that she was staring at me (I'm sure that did'nt help). Still it did'nt go over well and maybe made me look unfavorable to them, but hey no more setting me up I think
 The music was fantastic though 
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I did explain to them who she was, but only after they made it known that she was staring at me (I'm sure that did'nt help). Still it did'nt go over well and maybe made me look unfavorable to them, but hey no more setting me up I think The music was fantastic though I don't really see that an explanation was needed. What if you were on a date. How would your date have felt if they brought another woman there for you and then the friends and the other woman got made about it? |
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When will people learn that jealousy always looks UGLY??
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Edited by
Monier
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Sat 02/20/10 11:03 AM
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I did explain to them who she was, but only after they made it known that she was staring at me (I'm sure that did'nt help). Still it did'nt go over well and maybe made me look unfavorable to them, but hey no more setting me up I think The music was fantastic though I don't really see that an explanation was needed. What if you were on a date. How would your date have felt if they brought another woman there for you and then the friends and the other woman got made about it? That would have been a disaster |
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for what it is worth...you did nothing wrong. If you wanted to give an explanation, then that was just being nice. You didn't owe them one. They actually (IMO) owed you one and an apology
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"Friends fixing you up. A good idea?"
I believe in this very strongly, since it's the only way I ever meet anybody! 
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Seems to me if you had wanted to go with the other girl you would have asked her since you did not and it has only been a few dates then nothing is wrote in stone as far as a relationship.
Therefore you have the right to do as you please.......  But as far as friends fixing you up well have had a few lately trying but well no go they don't have the same taste as I do.... 
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My parents met on a blind date. That's been lasting for awhile - 51 years. lol
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It might work. It might not. However, very often friends don't see what you want in someone, they just see a common link. So, while the odds are better than saying hi to a stranger, they still aren't great.
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It might work. It might not. However, very often friends don't see what you want in someone, they just see a common link. So, while the odds are better than saying hi to a stranger, they still aren't great. This is true, my friends thought my taste in men was horrible, and vice versa. No way in hell would I trust them to find me a guy I'd actually like.
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It might work. It might not. However, very often friends don't see what you want in someone, they just see a common link. So, while the odds are better than saying hi to a stranger, they still aren't great. This is true, my friends thought my taste in men was horrible, and vice versa. No way in hell would I trust them to find me a guy I'd actually like. I thought you could just send them to get a cabana boy. Or was that just you being silly? (Not you, not ever... come on!) 
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Friends fixing me up? No thanks, I'd get stuck with hyper-active 20-some year olds who are into the goth/emo thing, and don't have a brain in their head. Enjoy my friends, in small doses, but not enough to date someone they know.
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It might work. It might not. However, very often friends don't see what you want in someone, they just see a common link. So, while the odds are better than saying hi to a stranger, they still aren't great. This is true, my friends thought my taste in men was horrible, and vice versa. No way in hell would I trust them to find me a guy I'd actually like. I thought you could just send them to get a cabana boy. Or was that just you being silly? (Not you, not ever... come on!) Eh, they'd do it wrong. I had a friend once who described the kind of guy I "should have" and I damned near threw up. She was basically describing someone just like her bf, and ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww he was gross. |
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It might work. It might not. However, very often friends don't see what you want in someone, they just see a common link. So, while the odds are better than saying hi to a stranger, they still aren't great. This is true, my friends thought my taste in men was horrible, and vice versa. No way in hell would I trust them to find me a guy I'd actually like. I thought you could just send them to get a cabana boy. Or was that just you being silly? (Not you, not ever... come on!) Eh, they'd do it wrong. I had a friend once who described the kind of guy I "should have" and I damned near threw up. She was basically describing someone just like her bf, and ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww he was gross. Maybe then you should have told her that 'Friends don't let friends date gross... speaking of which...' 
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Edited by
heartSoul
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Sat 02/20/10 03:44 PM
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If these people really are my friends, they would know it's not in their best interest to fix me up with anyone!
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