how do you tell your gal or guy that they should try to loose weight for health concerns? first you tell them you love them then you tell them that if you didnt care about them you wouldnt step up to the plate to express the fact. it is a team effort in a relationship and it is not too late to start now. the truth may hurt but health can lesson the chance of being sexually active and stricken the motivation. Act out follow up on the issue and do somthing

Just come up front and be honest

Join a dating site. And maybe they will get the hint. OH

seriously why don't you join a gym. go out for salad. Try helping instead of cutting her down.

WOW.....That's all I'm sayin'....

That's the best thing. Make it fun and something to do together, and you're all set.

This thread is just plain cold.

Telling someone to lose weight...it usually is cold...as ice

I'm taking a guess of what the OP is saying.


If your in a relationship and you care about the person your with and their health. I'm sure if you sate down with them or come up with a clever way to communicate with them. I wouldn't see it being a problem If your doing it and they know your doing it out of love. Now if your just doing this because your worried about the sex drive. Good luck with that OP

Explain how trying to PREVENT a loved one from suffering from:

Heart disease

Stroke

Diabetes

Cancer

Gallbladder disease and gallstones

High blood pressure

Osteoarthritis

Gout

Liver disease

Kidney cancer

etc. is cold....? Inquiring minds want to know.

Caring about a loved ones health is not cold.

Not caring and letting them suffer is.

Why? We coddle people far to much, and we have an obesity epidemic. The doctors won't tell it like it is, and the majority of people won't tell it like it is. Someone needs to, and so much the better if you do it as a team.

the OP mentioned weight loss for health concerns. Would it not be colder to not say something if you care? Same goes for under weight people.

Let somebody qualified like a doctor ask him or her those kind of questions and focus on addressing the less shallow issues in your relationship.

i am sure every semi-intelligent person knows that too much weight is unhealthy. do you think she doesn't know that already?

it could be possible. I see women with very healthy self esteems (or unhealthy self awareness) wearing things that are way too small or unflattering due to weight and they 'act' like they look good in them. They may think they look cute but I get embarrassed for them. I gained some weight at one point in my life and didn't realize how much until I saw a picture of myself. It creeps up on people. If someone came to me with love and said 'I'm worried about you because of your diet and problems such as - down the road' would be more helpful then 'You getting fat, we're gonna exercise'. A gym may be a lttle extreme, start with something thats not so easy to fail or compare yourself to others with...daily 20 minute quick walks...weight comes off real easy with a little monitoring of intake. You're a good friend for them to care.

Chances are she knows already. However, try something such as suggesting you both exercise together. Perhaps join a gym together or start walking together.

How much weight are you talking about? 10-20 pounds or more? My ex would tell me the I gained weight since we first met and that I was getting fat and he really hated fat people. When we met I weighed around 125lb, when he was telling me this I had gained about 35 lbs. His contant "nagging" did nothing but make me eat more. Funny thing is, since we broke up I lost the weight and have been keeping it off. I know now that I was eating because I was living with an alcoholic and was trying to escape from all the issues. Try making sure you both eat healthy foods, get more active and even both of you go to a health center or hospital and see if they have meetings on how to live a healthy lifestyle, which usually includes a weight management program. Doing this alone is hard, but if someone els is doing it with you, it makes it easire to follow the program.

That need to be her decision and NOT yours!