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Topic: when to tell him
mo22682's photo
Fri 03/12/10 09:49 PM
how long after dating a guy do you tell him you cant have any more kids?

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 03/12/10 09:55 PM
If I knew from the beginning that he wanted children, then I would have told him then. Other than that whenever it comes up

IndnPrncs's photo
Fri 03/12/10 10:00 PM
Edited by IndnPrncs on Fri 03/12/10 10:01 PM
Things like that I get out in the open right away.... Why waste weeks or months dating if that may be a deal breaker for him..

Another way to look at is it to put yourself in the other person's shoes... How soon would "you" want to know that or other things that might be deal breakers for you?

writer_gurl's photo
Fri 03/12/10 10:30 PM

When the subject of kids come up

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Fri 03/12/10 11:47 PM
I tell all of that stuff right up front- I'm never having kids, whether I can or not. So if he wants children, it's best for him to leave before we even get started.

Tell him the next time you see him, so if he wants out, it's best for him to know now before either of you gets too attached.

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Sat 03/13/10 06:39 AM

how long after dating a guy do you tell him you cant have any more kids?


As soon as you know it's important to him to have kids of his own ... once that opportunity is passed without full disclosure, it becomes concealment of the truth to the other party ...

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Sat 03/13/10 08:15 AM
Edited by msharmony on Sat 03/13/10 08:18 AM
I do it before 'dating'.

I like to communicate a while before actually going out so noone feels their time was wasted. I use initial communication to ask about or share anything significant to me and allow the other person to do the same.

Dating sites make it a little easier, because I can see if a man wants children and I can bring that issue up right away. Because I have children , it is important to me that the man not be wanting to have anymore 'natural' children but that he is ok with a blended family already in progress. For this reason, I generally skip those with no children, because I dont want to impede anyones future chance at natural parenthood.

greeneyedlady42's photo
Sat 03/13/10 08:33 AM
I agree with Msharmony- I like to establish communication on a friendship level before getting together on a "date" - that way all of the small talk is out of the way.
That is a pretty important subject, whether you want kids or not...
Im going to be 46 and my kids are grown...most of the time men arent really looking to have kids at this stage of life, but if they are Id like to know early so I can RUN!!! LOL

Totage's photo
Sat 03/13/10 09:59 AM

how long after dating a guy do you tell him you cant have any more kids?


That's something I would like to know in the begining. I want to eventually have kids of my own some day. I would still date someone if she couldn't or didn't want to have kids, but we would both know that eventually it would have to end.

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Sat 03/13/10 10:08 AM

how long after dating a guy do you tell him you cant have any more kids?


Right after he says, "Oh No!, the condom broke!", or when he asks, "You're on the pill right?"

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Sat 03/13/10 10:17 AM


how long after dating a guy do you tell him you cant have any more kids?

Right after he says, "Oh No!, the condom broke!", or when he asks, "You're on the pill right?"
:banana: hahahahahahahaha :banana:

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Sat 03/13/10 02:06 PM

I tell all of that stuff right up front- I'm never having kids, whether I can or not. So if he wants children, it's best for him to leave before we even get started.

Tell him the next time you see him, so if he wants out, it's best for him to know now before either of you gets too attached.


Me too...I am not planning on having any either so if the guy wants an incubator her should look elsewhere

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Sat 03/13/10 02:08 PM


I tell all of that stuff right up front- I'm never having kids, whether I can or not. So if he wants children, it's best for him to leave before we even get started.

Tell him the next time you see him, so if he wants out, it's best for him to know now before either of you gets too attached.


Me too...I am not planning on having any either so if the guy wants an incubator her should look elsewhere


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Sat 03/13/10 02:11 PM
Since I'm 53--I think its a givenbigsmile

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Sat 03/13/10 02:12 PM
I think u should tell him u kant have kids up front dnt lie or not tell that would make it wores

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Sat 03/13/10 02:18 PM
I always tell that information right up front. There have been sad instances where I couldn't pursue a relationship with someone because they wanted to have children and I can't physically have any more by choice. But it is what it is. It's best to put it out there in the beginning. JMO. flowerforyou

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Sat 03/13/10 02:21 PM
I always tell that information right up front. There have been sad instances where I couldn't pursue a relationship with someone because they wanted to have children and I can't physically have any more by choice. But it is what it is. It's best to put it out there in the beginning. JMO. flowerforyou
jmo? ?
what

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Sat 03/13/10 02:22 PM

I always tell that information right up front. There have been sad instances where I couldn't pursue a relationship with someone because they wanted to have children and I can't physically have any more by choice. But it is what it is. It's best to put it out there in the beginning. JMO. flowerforyou
jmo? ?
what
JMO__just my opinion

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Sat 03/13/10 02:27 PM

I always tell that information right up front. There have been sad instances where I couldn't pursue a relationship with someone because they wanted to have children and I can't physically have any more by choice. But it is what it is. It's best to put it out there in the beginning. JMO. flowerforyou
jmo? ?
what


Sorry Dustin. Those abbreviations are killer sometimes. flowerforyou

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Sat 03/13/10 02:29 PM
Ooooohhhhhh okay hahaha i got it now lol wow

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