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Topic: Divorce papers:o)
mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Mon 11/17/14 05:00 PM
I am going to repeat what I said on page 1 of this thread. There is nothing wrong with a single woman walking away from a man who is still married. I have not claimed that, have I? You most certainly inferred it; I've bolded your own words for your own ease of reference: Hi to all wonderful females out there! Well ok, if males are reading also, we’re pretty awesome also, huh? Now first some history: I'��m a sort of an overdue male of 51 year. I'��ve been through three +4 year long relationships and one marriage of seven years. Not a great deal of points in the "��game" of life, huh? But anyway, now I want to know something from you females. During the years before getting married, there were no questions asked if there were any papers confirming end of relationship. Now when wife and I separated 2010, I"��ve been meeting women who had interest in me until question of marriage and divorce papers to prove the end of relationship occurred. When replying there is no divorce yet, most women walked away. Speaking with my female friends, they have the same opinion. Now most of these were/is highly educated women with scientific education and brilliant minds. Now here'��s my 10 000 EURO question. (I will not pay until satisfactory answer occurs and I'll judge it;o) What is it with the idea of a person that has a paper that says he is married is not trusted when saying relationship is over, when at the same time, there are so many married couples that go over the domestic borders all the time. No matter he, she or it;o) It doesn't make any sense to me as I try to be rational and look at things in a logical way. Of course I can understand the betrayal of a trusted friend and companion turns the other way suddenly, but seriously!! I have been abandoned and betrayed also but have never got any idea of a paper making a difference of trust!!! Please be patient with me and ask if you don'��t understand my ramblings!! Peter Again, you're welcome.

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3510	Mon 11/17/14 05:07 PM Edited by fleta_n_mach on Mon 11/17/14 05:11 PM
There is this reference material that opie might seriously consider.

OnNewJourney Joined Sun 10/26/14 Posts: 711	Mon 11/17/14 05:10 PM Edited by OnNewJourney on Mon 11/17/14 05:20 PM
No, my wife did not cheat me. Yet another thing assumed or misunderstood. I don't care, it's gone too far to sort this up now. Read Zero_Effected's first post, I think quite the same. Add the fact, that many women have been cheated on, or have waited for married men to divorce to no avail. A divorce paper COULD be a false sense of security, that's my point. I wrote also "most" women in my first post, not all! Btw, the Koran allows divorce if husband neglects the wife, that's a fact. Read it, it's a quite interesting book;o) If not the muslim church had misinterpret it….Catholic church is still hesitant with divorce….. My reason why not push thru with divorce is written in my posts. Peter You wrote: "So you think I had these relationships when I was married?? All these mentioned here was in response to "men are not to be trusted" I wrote then that I had been cheated on.These relationships happened in my youth, none of them are connected with my marriage." So, your wife didn't cheat you, but those you were not married to did. Just thinking aloud here ... "A divorce paper is a FALSE SENSE OD SECURITY", says the man who is separated for four years and there is no end of separation in sight, while he uses all kinds of excuses to justify the delay. Yet, he is surprised that his word underlined with an offer of 10 000 Euros for an answer didn't assure most women that he will get separated. I have no further questions for you.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48920	Mon 11/17/14 05:18 PM
Folks, perhaps we are being too harsh on peter. He simply does not understand why it is logical for a single woman to refuse to date a man who is still legally married ... ... even though it is logical for a single woman to refuse to date a man who is still legally married.

OnNewJourney Joined Sun 10/26/14 Posts: 711	Mon 11/17/14 05:20 PM
Now taking bets on how soon this thread gets locked. I expected this thread to be locked by now. It's beyond me why it didn't happen yet... and completely run out of popcorn! Do you have any popcorn left?

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48920	Mon 11/17/14 05:25 PM
I expected this thread to be locked by now. It's beyond me why it didn't happen yet... and completely run out of popcorn! Do you have any popcorn left? Anyway, as I was saying, if a man doesn't understand something, then we need to try to explain.

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3510	Mon 11/17/14 05:25 PM
Folks, perhaps we are being too harsh on peter. He simply does not understand why it is logical for a single woman to refuse to date a man who is still legally married ... ... even though it is logical for a single woman to refuse to date a man who is still legally married. No sabes? No comprende y Entiendes??

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Mon 11/17/14 05:26 PM Edited by Amelinng on Mon 11/17/14 05:36 PM
I expected this thread to be locked by now. It's beyond me why it didn't happen yet... and completely run out of popcorn! Do you have any popcorn left? ONJ, I was watching the show from the side lines, but I will share this with you while it lasts

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21251	Mon 11/17/14 05:31 PM
I expected this thread to be locked by now. It's beyond me why it didn't happen yet... and completely run out of popcorn! Do you have any popcorn left? Anyway, as I was saying, if a man doesn't understand something, then we need to try to explain. He understands perfectly.

OnNewJourney Joined Sun 10/26/14 Posts: 711	Mon 11/17/14 05:33 PM Edited by OnNewJourney on Mon 11/17/14 05:33 PM
Mmmm popcorn! Thanks Dodo! Thanks Ame! Although it is logical for a single woman to refuse to date a man who is still legally married, the question is why wouldn't they try to be rational and look at things in another logical way, Peter's way?

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Mon 11/17/14 05:35 PM
He understands perfectly. Yup, yup. "Deliberately obtuse."

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48920	Mon 11/17/14 05:48 PM
He understands perfectly. Yup, yup. "Deliberately obtuse." He coming at this from an angle of more than 90�?

OnNewJourney Joined Sun 10/26/14 Posts: 711	Mon 11/17/14 05:50 PM
He understands perfectly. Yup, yup. "Deliberately obtuse." He coming at this from an angle of more than 90�? Perhaps he is Batman? Real one!

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21251	Mon 11/17/14 05:51 PM
He understands perfectly. Yup, yup. "Deliberately obtuse." He coming at this from an angle of more than 90�? He be comin' at this from an angle of pure, unadulterated B.S..

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Mon 11/17/14 05:51 PM
The man who has been separated for 20 yrs, we thought he was already divorced ages ago as he gave us that impression. His explanation why he did not go thru with the divorce was that it was just a 'piece of paper'. But that piece of paper will forever classify him as a 'legally married man', even though he is separated. Knowing him well, I think he still feels a bond somewhere.....thus, the hesitation to take the final clean break. Whether they could get together again, who knows...but it has been known to happen. So, any decent woman....be they single, divorced, widowed or separated.... would walk away from a 'legally still married' man, unless, they were not in the relationship for 'real'!

OnNewJourney Joined Sun 10/26/14 Posts: 711	Mon 11/17/14 05:53 PM
Hmmm ... should I get into "a combat mode" in case of a change of an angle or change nothing and continue enjoying popcorn?

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Mon 11/17/14 05:58 PM
He understands perfectly. Yup, yup. "Deliberately obtuse." He coming at this from an angle of more than 90�? Nahhhh...it's not mathematical jargon; it's an English idiom. Mathematically-speaking, he keeps adding 2 + 2 together and coming up with a different answer each time.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48920	Mon 11/17/14 06:00 PM
Folks, let's try to be civil here. If a still-married man doesn't understand why it is logical for a single woman to refuse to date him, then I doubt that anything that we say will help.

OnNewJourney Joined Sun 10/26/14 Posts: 711	Mon 11/17/14 06:01 PM
The man who has been separated for 20 yrs, we thought he was already divorced ages ago as he gave us that impression. His explanation why he did not go thru with the divorce was that it was just a 'piece of paper'. But that piece of paper will forever classify him as a 'legally married man', even though he is separated. Knowing him well, I think he still feels a bond somewhere.....thus, the hesitation to take the final clean break. Whether they could get together again, who knows...but it has been known to happen. So, any decent woman....be they single, divorced, widowed or separated.... would walk away from a 'legally still married' man, unless, they were not in the relationship for 'real'! Everyone makes their own decisions, but I would do the same. I would never have relationship with any married or separated men.

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Mon 11/17/14 06:07 PM
Folks, let's try to be civil here. If a still-married man doesn't understand why it is logical for a single woman to refuse to date him, then I doubt that anything that we say will help. I guess that means we are wasting our breath!