R-E-S-P-E-C-T! Honesty, Humor, Commonality & Shared Interests.

Now-THAT is funny!!!
Best check out who the First Woman Really Was!!!
Google "Lilith"
*Adam's first wife was not Eve but a woman named Lilith, who was created in the first Genesis account. Only when Lilith rebelled and abandoned Adam did God create Eve, in the second account, as a replacement.

For whatever reason in your own mind that you would write such nonsense;
you have the right to your own opinions but not the right to present your opinion as fact. Everything that you've stated is unsubstantiated by fact & totally subjectively biased.
Since you've shared your personal experience; here's some of my own.
Barefoot-I'm 5'10"[ specifically mentioned in my profile]; wearing foot gear with any type of platform or heel usually increases my height to well over 6'.
I don't judge people on the physical at all-that's just Dumb.
In my early 20's, I'd actually dated a petite, cute, little midget-man;} This miniature person was just a terrific individual, quite good looking , & best of all- was as wild & crazy as I was;} WTH, I'd always adored the Munchkins of OZ & I liked him, he liked me; so why not?
However, people's reactions when seeing the both of us as a couple were intrusive, rude, & in many instances quite intentionally mean & hurtful. The intrusion of impolite overt stares, whispers, & laughter that accompanied our every outing/date soon began to make me & him- feel more like a circus freak show event than out for a good time. The relationship became strained, it wasn't fair to either one of us so we parted paths.
After that experience, I became somewhat "height phobic" & experienced an anxious self-consciousness anytime I went out with anyone considerably shorter than myself. It's for this reason that I Specify My Own Height so as to try to avoid such awkward encounters. Unfortunately fellows with a physical height of 5'6"/5'7" still do try to hit on me with the "Let's get to know each other better" routine. A personal response that states- my own lack of interest in pursuing anything further between us, comparing my height to their height & "wishing them, well in their future search, ect" seems to be ineffective?!?
One of the responses that I received back actually stated that "my potential suitor[not!]" felt, "FINE & OK & Not Bothered/Concerned At All By The Height Differential, ect.!" This individual never even bothered to ask me, about "my own feelings" on the subject although my own reaction should have been obvious in terms of my initial response of [polite] rejection. *shakes head* It brings to mind Paul Newman's timeless quote from the movie, Cool Hand Luke, "What we got here is a failure to communicate..."

Oh... Asking me-for financial assistance?!?That would be such a horrific mistake for any potential suitor to make. "Woe Be Him!"

Tricks?
That's a really odd word to use in terms of The Art of Seduction...
As to any personal details, techniques, & descriptions of
"What or How" I would employ towards that end-?
On a "Need-To-Know" basis only; only my lover has the proper
security clearance for that kind of information;}

ALONE & SELFISH? Hmmmmmm....? No, I wouldn't define my life choices with the type of words that carry such a negative semantic.
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I prefer to describe my life as being in a long term relationship with creativity & freedom.
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The personal & unique qualities that should determine the reason WHY someone would be attracted to me[or to anyone else] seem to be irreverent on Dating/Social Sites. In such venues; "The Cover Of The Book" is of- much greater importance then The Content. I don't respond well to those who either present themselves as "Covers"[including nothing of themselves, their interests, or personal experiences] in their own profiles or those who address me in the same manner.Although my profile contains a plethora of personal information, humor, & interests; the vast majority of the notes of interest that I have received feature only [ONE]element of interest or attraction. "Looks[sic]" that's it.
Generally these notes of attraction are prefaced with the greeting[s]like:"Hi Cutie[Doll, Sweetie, Gorgeous, Sexy, ect]; "love your smile, legs,& interesting profile[?];so how're you doing today?"

Well in a relationship; it would have to be "Insecurity".
Everyone has an personal suitcase of assorted insecurities accrued over time & his/her personal experiences. That's not what I'm referring to; I'm really addressing a serious lack of self esteem.
Insecurity[a lack of self worth]is able to make any relationship into a sordid endurance test that in time, becomes overgrown with the fungi of familiarity, control, lack of respect, & contempt.

I guess you can only stalk 'em & hope for the best. "No Response"= Is A Response. It means = Not Interested. Simple. Next...!
I'm certain that this "No Response" response evolved as the result that any courteous acknowledgement of someone's interest which additionally contained, a polite rejection due to one's own disinterest in pursuing any further dialogue with the smitten individual became very unpleasant business. In a vast majority of instances the rejected admirer's [constant & frequent] return response[s] to "Politeness" would be ridden with mounting hostility, an irrational, abusive sort of entitlement,& in certain cases-just downright threatening. Above my pay-grade & not my job. Sorry. Filed in the "No Good Deed Goes Unpunished" folder & forgotten.

I have read about the reaction that you've written of & I think Carole is more of this type so I'm letting her "have space" but when I did send her, the link to the site, she texted me back that she LOVED it! Yes! Really, I do get much insight from what folks share & make no mistake-It Helps! Thank You

Filed under the "Pay To Play" games of chance...

WORD! 8 years? Sorry Op but your relationship is well past its expiration date in terms of any hoped for marriage proposals...

You're 100% Correct.Not possible.The best possible outcome that can be realized in cyberspace encounter is that there maybe enough exchanged information to give one -reason to believe in the "Potential" of a real love relationship with another individual. Without "Real Time" spent together in each other's company; "Real Love" cannot be determined.

THANK YOU ALL FOR ALL THE KIND, SUPPORTIVE, & THOUGHTFUL COMMENTS THAT HAVE BEEN ADDED ONTO THIS POST. Warmest prayers & condolences to all of those who have suffered such a grievous loss in your own lives. I've been doing a lot of reading-up on the feelings & the kind of grief that accompanies this kind of "Major Loss" in order to best help & be supportive of my dearest friend. Although I leave her messages & emails every other day;she has not responded back now for days. Everyone expresses their pain in vary different ways & I've read that Carole's lack of response is not uncommon among those experiencing such a shocking & tragic ordeal. I still hurt inside for the fact that the grief over a loss of this magnitude lasts for a lifetime...
No one deserves such a horrific experience, Most Especially- Not Someone -that you love as a sister...

Here's a picture I took of young, beautiful Ms. Erin. Another task that I wanted to create for Carole & Erin is an online Memorial Tribute site. Family & friends can share their stories, memories, & thoughts about Erin. Hopefully, maybe one day when Carole feels better; there's a place for her to keep a private journal for her own story. If anyone has a moment to take a peek at the site; I'll include the links:
~ERIN REED~ Tribute on Legacy.com
Link:[Copy & Paste] http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/Erin-Reed/homepage.aspx
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The site might look a bit "Clumsy" even though I did my best
I've never tackled a project like this & I'm praying that that I 'll not have to repeat the task again for quite a long time.

Again, Gratitude & Big Hugs for everyone's sharing; it's very much appreciated!

Once you go"Black"; you'll go Back!Muahhahaha!

Life experience has taught me to keep my Spiritual beliefs "under the radar" but I am & have been a practicing Pagan for many years. My last marriage was celebrated in the Neopagan tradition with an enactment of The Handfasting Ritual. Without writing a book on the topic, I'll post, a couple of asides that might be of some general interest. In the Handfasting Ritual/Ceremony-the bride is not & can never be "Given Away" by any mortal representative[i.e.Father, Brother, mother, ect]. The first question that is usually asked to the bride by The High Priestess[the usual officiator of this Ritual], "Do you [name] come here today to join with[name]of your own free will?" The vows that are exchanged & bind the couple in a Handfasting Ceremony, traditionally only apply to a time frame of one calendar year. After such time has elapsed; the couple, then has the option either to renew their sacred vows to stay together or separate without recrimination.
I have read that the "time element of a year" evolved in historical context to the time when a wife was considered to be "The personal property[chattel]" of her husband. In such times, horrific, frequent, & deadly instances of domestic abuse flourished without any social political & legal remedies available to the victim for her own self- protection. "The Goddess" is a Major Deity of Primary Importance in many of the different Sects that are defined as "Pagan". Paganism & Christianity regard The Feminine & Women in too many contrary ways to even include in an informal post. The "Time Frame of A Year" evolved as protection for a woman who found herself with an abusive partner that legitimized her escape from the union.
*If anyone is a fan of The Vikings TV Series; in Season 2 Episode 7, the writers have done a wonderful job of contrasting the Pagan Handfasting Ceremony with the traditional Christian Wedding Ceremony.
+note[The Viking/Season 2 Episode 7] ; the High Priestess's use of a sword to "Pass The Protection Of The Father Over To The Husband" is not correct. While the use of the sword is a common practice in The Handfasting Ritual; the spoken dialog & reasons implied by the content of that dialog are not accurate.

Many thanks for your kind responses & condolences. They say that "Time Heals". I'm not certain that all "Things" are able to be Healed by means of time or anything else. Like trying to repair a glass that breaks & splinters into a zillion irregular splinters & pieces...As being "A Fix-It" type of personality; this is a situation that is just- UnFixAble, Uncontrollable, & Inexplicable. Anyways, although I am trying to be there for Carole; I just feel that my efforts are so small, petty, & absurdly insignificant because I can't even hope to fix a situation that there is no fix-for.My own ego ******** there. *sighs*

I'm pretty upset & it's not "business as usual..."
A very close & dear friend of mine[Carole] lost her 26 yr. old daughter[Erin]last Saturday in a car accident. They were so close, Erin was an amazing young woman, such a waste...This should never have happened!
Just feeling very sad & angry & doing alot of crying because of the tragedy just breaks my heart.