ok so i just want to say thanks for the advice and you must know now i am posting under hottie2005...........LonlyGirl4124 is me hottie2005 this was hard for me i don't know if i really even now want to tell all you on mingle that this is my story but it is and i can hide it and i can change it i have to live this life i was given and so i am trying to day by day and i don't want to make the same mistakes my parents did i love my family but there are things i just hate as well anyways you no now who this lonlygirl is

you know a lot of you think i don't listen to the things said and i do i don't want to fail again i just want to find a good man that wont hurt my kids and well be good to us i really don't want to be hurt either but i really want my kids to be safe they are number one and i don't think that this crush will go past being a crush because as days go on i know i don't want to leave my family behind to be with a man because over the last 4 years i have learnt that no matter what i do my family has been there and if not my family my friends and if i walk away from all this i got what a man that could just up and walk away like they always do so yes i changed my mind with a little help from some of you and some on my own i still talk to him every day but i told him its going to be just friends or nothing and he was okay with friends. i have had to just stop think and make some wiser decisions for my kids.

i did not plan my life this way but i love my kid and they are my world they come first over everyone even my self some times people say that i have to take care of me first to take care of my kids maybe thats my problem i just try to keep going for my kids.

thanks to you all really this has opened my eyes. and its not easy for me to live like this just me my kids. my family well help me when they have to but they dont come around much its me and my kids every day and the only time i get a conversation with adults is on line or the phone with the few friends i have. i am a shy person so i dont meet new people well i am not so shy on line. just dont know anymore

defiantly get the cops involved

i was not looking i was just on here to meet new people i did not want to date anyone right now it just happens that this man and i have gotten close over the last 2 months and we talk every day almost and we make each other happy but i do have so much going on in my life i dont know were i stand right now well i guess just see what happens thanks to you all i have made some good friends on mingle.

i am sure she would love to do this but she says she has kids she most likley dose not want to end up in jail or she might have done this before who know really

i feel we are all equal and no one is better than one another but thats me everyone has there beliefs.

but she could have said some thing just logging off line is so rude i would rather the person say why they dont want to talk more but to just leave someone that way is wrong.

and yes we meet on mingle if your wondering wish it was posibal for him and i to be together

no not a lot of choice but i have never meet a man like him nobody makes me feel the way he dose.

okay so i have meet a great guy and we both have feelings for each other and everything but we live so far apart hes spain i am in canada. we had agreed to be friends but now we both know theres so much more there than friends.

i cant move there because i have kids and court order to stay close to there fathers.

he cant come here because he has a business there so we say we well leave it to god but i just dont know if i have the faith in all this just happening on its own.

any advice ???????

thanks and i was told the case well be close soon there are a few things in my new apartment that i had to deal with like 2 baby gates so they well be back again to see its done then its over they told me its nothing to louse my kids over and that makes me fell better.

i do feel that way some times its not easy for me or my kids with what we have been through but i mean i am sure that other people have been through worse i have never said my life is perfect or that my kids are. and were are starting therapy and my 4 year old well be starting daycare 2 days a week. she also well be started in a swimming lesions or dance or what ever she and i deiced for her to do. and we also stared an early childhood intervention program this well help both my kids and my self. and once this is all started and we do okay i am looking in to parenting classes

Yes i have i know a family here that killed there baby and the children's aid was in there home just days before and nothing was dont now a 13 month old baby is lost her life. when they found this baby the parents were high on many different drugs the child had been bet to death.

but maybe its not just child services we have to blame but it still makes me mad that this child had to louse her life so soon.

I am taking the help with my daughter and son. am glad that there is help out there too just don't agree with some of the ways child service works.

and i know that it was my ex that called because he told me and when i brought it up that they had been to my home he said they called him back and he tried to tell them he was upset over the brake up and it was not true but the because was started so they must flow throw with it. but i mean i dont have any thing to hide it just makes me upset that they are wasting time here when they never even looked in on the drug bust at my ex's home makes since to them i guess


thanks every one really

thanks everyone

and i am doing what they ask and i am not mad that they came to check out the complaint but i am up set that when my daugther was in here fathers care and 12 police men when in to his home and took many different drugs not one person stepped in and said hey there are 4 children here all 4 years old and younger. and here in Canada it seams they just let people have drugs around kids and beat the crap out of them but when its some one like myself that is trying to do things wright they are here on the first call. i am not the perfect mom and not saying i am. I have an out of control 4yr old and a 17 month old son i struggle to cope a 4yr old that hits me spits at me you name it she dose it and its all new since October when her step father left. things get worse when i try to put her on time out so i let it go it don't help. being 24 and 2 children on my own was not my plan for life but i love my children and would never change this.

thanks again

why is it that people call social services on the parents that are trying there best to do the right thing with there kids. My ex called on me now I am being investigated and the case well remain open until they find what he says is true or they decide to close it because they find he lied. And what makes me made most is they called him after being here and he told them he called because he was mad and that he lied but the have an open case and cant close it i just don't get this!! i am a good mom I am not perfect but i try my best we all make mistakes right? And i don't like that they can question a 4 year old child with out the mother or father there to hear the answers. I mean kids make up things.


ANYONE GOT THOUGHTS ON THIS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

she didn't have time .....terri clark

big green tractor

nope!!:(

NO ITS NOT lol been there a few times

used to love it but this year i hate it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Christmas well suck for me this year being my kids well be with there dad and not me i have spent it with them every year since they were born!!