Perhaps he enjoys being single, wishes to keep his life that way, and enjoys sex with multiple women?

No! Those differences may represent issues each of us can live with and then we could say we are equal. Those differences could also represent issues and behaviors we consider unacceptable and therefor you are not equal in our eyes. Many differences most people can accept and can accept you as an equal; there are some differences most people cannot accept and consider you inferior to them.

Yes, I frequently complain about not being able to meet someone for a social companion. That is very much different than looking for a connection or relationship. Not all of us have that goal. When I specify certain criteria for a partner/relationship that is again different than a social companion. If you only are willing to get acquainted with or spend time with someone you view as relationship material, you are probably going to be a lonely, middle aged woman. There are not a lot of quality people out there if that is what you are looking for. Again your choice in life.

It depends very much on the area. It is mostly about $$. Bands are expensive and even a DJ runs $300-400. You have to have a good crowd and sell a lot of drinks to cover the cost. Some places you can still hire a couple musicians for a reasonable price; they usually supplement the pay with tips. Tourist area usually have more entertainment because that is what people want and are willing to spend more. Unfortunately, people are no longer willing to pay a cover charge for their music and entertainment. They are use to getting their music and entertainment online for free.

You left out my response. I guess that would take away from the message you are trying to create.

I appreciate your advise and I'm well aware of what you are saying. I typically will see a couple people a month that I have some interest in. Probably 1 in 5 will turn into a short conversation and 1 in 20 into a longer conversation. Very seldom does it turn into anything beyond that.

Please do not put words in my mouth!!! I did not say I was lonely. I did not say single woman on dating sites have "serious problems". What I did say is that middle aged women who cannot find a companion either are not putting out effort or have some "serious problems". I'm sorry some people have such a difficult time with the written language.

I'm a technical person, always have been. Never have been any kind of sales person and find almost all of them are hot air. I don't think a sales person has ever sold me anything that I didn't already know I was buying. I understand a sales person is supposed to appeal to your emotional side not your logic side. That is like most advertisements and sales oriented websites, full of nice feelings but very little fact. Ask a sales person a technical question about the product they are trying to sell and they probably won't know the answer.

If I have to jump through hoops to appeal to the emotional side of some woman, obviously she isn't for me.

IF there are middle aged women who are lonely, then they must have some serious problems. I don't think many older men expect them to be young woman thin or a special beauty. Men do expect a certain level of sanity, take pride in your appearance, and have a basis for the opinions you have. It is also necessary that you be out in society where others can meet you and be receptive when someone tries to start that initial conversation with you. So often it is just like on Mingle, your initial message or greeting is ignored.

I'm all eyes to see where this may happen. Doesn't seem to happen much in my life. On rare occasions at a convenience or grocery store and they are often very young or very old.

Sounds so simple. Are you saying you can just start a conversation with someone in the grocery store you have never seen before? I wouldn't expect the culture to be that different between Nebraska and Minnesota although you do live in a much larger community.

Unfortunately there is no socially acceptable way to meet women, therefore we are destined to play these silly games until we die or give up.

That's fine ladies. You have your bad days and cry in your beer. I'll enjoy my day and simply ignore you as I enjoy life.

Don't bother, I'm just fine with who I am.

There is no value in letting it really upset you! It is not your problem but theirs. When I encounter that situation, if there is another area available I will move. Spent too many years with those kind of people to tolerate it anymore - they are not my problem!!

@ Blondie: I did look at your video and while there were many instances of harassment, there were also a number of reasonable greetings that were ignored although that video was not of a social setting.

To add some insight: I tend to be a friendly, sociable person.

I am probably very poor at reading body language or social cues. Never was much good at it and many differences between generations and genders.

Their single/married status is irrelevant in most social settings.

I expect people, both men and women, to be socially receptive to appropriate greetings from others. If I say "good morning" to you, I expect a similar response. If we are setting side by side at a sports bar and a game is on, I may make a comment to you about a play that just happened - I expect a response from you. Yes, I do expect some level of social chatter from you in a public social setting. Why would you be in a public social setting if you are unwilling to engage in some level of interaction with others? Just too many rude people in today's world that never learned any manners!! They should just stay home and let the rest of us enjoy life.

When in public areas, your personal space is controlled by the environment around you that you chose to be in. If you are in a place with lots of people, your personal space is going to get very small while if you are in a park with only a few people around, it can be large. If you are uncomfortable with the amount of personal space you have, change the environment you are in.

I guess it really comes down to if sex is important to you or not and if it is, what is your availability of a willing sexual partner.

It seems that as women age, eventually they become less interested in sex. If that reaches a point where they are no longer willing to engage in some level of sexual interaction with their husband it causes a major problem in the marriage. Unfortunately many don't understand the significance of that decision to their spouse. They are also not willing to accept allowing for an open marriage or their spouse having a different sexual partner. It then becomes a decision for the man in that marriage if he is going to get divorced, do without any sex life or try and fill his sexual needs outside of the marriage. I think that becomes a decision based not only on the sexual part but the quality of the other things in the marriage. There are no easy answers.

A married man in a sexless marriage needs to become a single man! A marriage without sex is of no useful purpose!

First it depends on what you are looking for! If you are looking for a partner to live with then distance matters or someone will need to relocate. For me, I'm not looking to live with someone and I spend part of the year traveling. As long as she lives someplace near my travels it can work. Also some areas have cheap, plentiful air travel so meeting up someplace for a long weekend isn't unreasonable.