to be an open book is different than being tested on all that is therein

and i'm going to answer you using scripture, for the sake of argument. :)

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. What does the worker gain from his toil? I have seen the burden God has laid on men.

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end. I know that there is nothing better for men than to be happy and do good while they live. That everyone may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all his toil--this is the gift of God. I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that men will revere him. Whatever is has already been, and what will be has been before; and God will call the past to account.

k, so i'm going to open myself up a little here, and try to talk about something that isn't anything i've had to think about in awhile, as I haven't made any effort to date in awhile, so c'est la vie, it hasn't been an issue.

Generally in the courting or suitoring, both parties ask a lot of questions. Getting to know each other, and divulging things about their lives, and backgrounds and personalities, in order to build a bond or relationship, and/or commonground of reference as they walk their way through the interactivity of the process.

That is generally the normal way i guess that most everyone here, and in most places go about things.

I am not one of those people. I use to be mind you, but things changed in my one and only heartbreak. After the end of that event, I changed how i did things. Ironically nothing about my past gives me shame or embarrassment, and i have zero judgments about anyone's past in any dynamic when i'm interested in them, simply because there is nothing that they could tell me short of telling me that they've had sexual reassignment surgery that would remotely change my mind about them at all in any dynamic.

that one reason is the only reason. hey, i want to be with a woman, not a woman that use to be a man. so meh whatever, i'm shallow...

anyway...

Now, i do have enough commonsense and intuitive realization to know that there are aspects of my life and past that are going to give people big eyes, or the willies, or shock them because I've lived an overwhelmingly free life and vicariously intended in all aspects. However, i still do not ask any questions at all myself.

I prefer to find out what a person decides to tell me about in standard conversation and so forth, unless it is important to them that they share their past with me, in which case, of course i will listen and be interested because of course I do care.

However, I find that certain lines of questioning back and forth aren't interest, but measurement. An interview of sorts. Where we sit there with a clipboard and have a list with "yes" and "no" or "good" and "bad" in two columns, which we check and at the end of the day we add up each column and our assessment of the person we're interested in comes down to a simple tally of likes and dislikes.

Now, from what I've seen, everyone wants someone to accept them for who they are. But do they really? When they go through the interview process of questions such as,
How many times have you been married?
how many partners have you had?
do you smoke?
do you drink?
do you go to church?
do you follow the law?
and so on and so forth, with those questions ONLY being examples of the types of questions that we as individuals tend to ask in our assessment of partners or potential partners.

I really do sincerely take a person at face value from the moment that i meet them. Anything that occured prior to me meeting them is of no relevance to any event or interaction emotionally or mentally at all from any point forward from that timeframe.

I don't like to be measured. Because i do not measure. It may not be the intention but i can guarantee you that it will be the result in the long run. Becuase of one intrinsic dynamic of human nature.

our ability to obsess and think things over and over again till we're blue in the face.

For example:

A boy and a girl, sit down together and of course, one of them will ask "how many partners have you had sex with before you met me?"

right. it won't matter what the number is that either gives. Or hell the fact that they may not know and guesstimate, or ballpark it... or say, i don't know... and of course the usual and random, I'm not telling you....

I don't care who you are... it will go off in your mind. The most secure man, or woman will not be able to help themselves to overthink something as banal as that aspect of the meeting. It won't matter that they're not sleeping with them now. I won't matter that it all happened prior to you meeting them.

How many people out there claim to desire unconditional love, yet are not realistic to realize that it isn't even within the capacity of human capability to perform such a task, with the methods by which we go about shopping for, or looking for a mate.

There is no good that can come from digging up the past. There is no good that can come from expounding the past in a manner of measurment or assessment of a possible partner. It completely undermines the ability for two individuals to think on the present if they are revolving that potential partners past in their minds like a record player, while trying to accept them in the aspect of the present.

I do not agree with hiding anything. But, I do think that there is something to be said for learning about a person over time, and enjoying that aspect of what you learn, knowning that the now is where the emotions are building, and the now is where the relationship is occuring, and the now is where you both are walking. That the foundational building blocks to be able to accept and love, and care for each other, stem from the now which exists for both of you at the moment of time which was granted for your acquaintance.

As some of you know, I have a faith in God, and although my antics and goofiness on this forum may not seem as an indicator, there is something that i strongly believe.

if a person opens a door to a possible wound or fragile place within themselves before they are in a position to be able to trust their intended - in confidence - with that information, then nothing good can come of it. Because there is a world out there that we cannot see, and there are affects that will touch our minds, our hearts, and our emotions, to give us doubt, and trigger our fears, towards the destruction of the very thing we desire - ripping it from our hands.

And in those events, the very thing we desire the least will come upon us like a plague and destroy us again.

just food for thought, and my little needed to get this off my chest.

good. now take him apart... don't waste your breathe on confronting him, use your energy productively and take him apart inch by inch, stone by stone, morsel by morsel.....

fully, wreck his life

i was married once... she cheated, she had no idea what hit her... not a clue...

i am as vicious as i am loving, and i love beyond life itself, however, if anyone crosses me? they'll never see it coming, because i can do it with smiles and hugs till the anvil drops

wrong answer....
the easiest thing to do is to confront him, vent your anger, be upset and get all that done and feel just as bad as you did before...

how about this?

money
banking
house
cars,
all investments


move
them
to
your
name

then, get a restraining order to prevent him from coming to you house, have him served AT WORK to let everyone else konw that you're divorcing him

make sure also that you have footage...
set the boy up

and then take everything....

cheaters don't deserve any mercy at all....
they deserve to be castrated, and if its a woman, well... you won't want to know what i think of a woman who cheats....

so....

yeah....
confronting him gives you 20 minutes of joy and then you have to fight for everything.... wisdom says take everything first, an get all the information and act like nothing is going on and then do him cold and hard without a warning...

i'm half indonesian... never fcuk with an indonesian

i'm now going to read up on this! thanks lonely :)

woo hoo i'm on bottom :D

L • I • B • R • A: The sex addict
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show up wearing nothing but your pants, and tell everyone that you came in your pants :D

hi,
www.kleiascent.com/chat/
then click enter
then type in your nickname
then select "JSH" from teh drop down menu :)

and people are in there from JSH :)

hi,
www.kleiascent.com/chat/
then click enter
then type in your nickname
then select "JSH" from teh drop down menu :)

and people are in there from JSH :)

oi, thats not so golden, its just that a forum thread is hard to do this in, and its hard to get people in here, if they don't open their friggin yaps and just read :)
so i'll create a chatroom cuz this place doesn't have one and well, thats how we can all talk in real time:D

k, screw this, i'm going to make a chatroom right now, just to get this rolling :D

i recommend that you outright call them in from your friends list by who is online at the moment so we can get this show on the road, or i'm turning it into the bisexual dating game

ahhh! lets welcome bachelor no 1 ! timoreck, tell us a little bit about yourself dude!

yes it is... just getting the guys in there :D

well as we round up the lucky gentlemen who will forward their affections to the lovely young lady, we'll take a short commercial break (while i get their lily white asses in this forum thread)

don't touch that dial but DO reload your page every few seconds :D

ah yes... thats it, now stop bowing to the crowds and TELL US a little bit about yourself (this would be a hell of a lot easier in a chatroom)

well goldenstar hails from the magnificent state of Illinois! She likes music, fun, movies, concerts, fashion, politics, tattoos, piercings, living life the the fullest ! wow eh? doesn't that make you men just want to date?

ok, so we'll start the bidding ... oh wait....

the introduction of

so Goldenstar, tell us a little bit about yourself

well! welcome bak! please welcome Goldenstar everyone (wooo hooo, clap clap, whistle woo hoo yeahhh wooohbaby :O :O)