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Topic: winning someone back
goatmeal202's photo
Sat 04/26/08 06:57 PM
Is it possible??

ShellyinAZ's photo
Sat 04/26/08 06:58 PM
sometimes... not always a good thing?

link97my's photo
Sat 04/26/08 06:58 PM
Yes kill the other person........devil devil devil

Puffins1958's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:00 PM
I think....

If it was meant to be...it will be

Good luck in whatever your searching for...

flowerforyou

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Sat 04/26/08 07:00 PM
What kind of poker were you playing? drinker

chickayoshi's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:01 PM
I depends on the situation. If the person still likes you and you do your hardest to show the person you really care and want another chance to make it right, then cool beans to you.

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Sat 04/26/08 07:01 PM

Is it possible??
Maybe

dolphin14's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:03 PM
I think people break up for a reason, and it doesn't seem to work when u try and get back together.

Lily0923's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:04 PM
Once the trash goes to the curb....let the trash guys handle it... Don't keep bringing it back into your house.

bastet126's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:04 PM
depends on the breakup reason - some things are better left alone. flowerforyou

goatmeal202's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:05 PM
To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

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Sat 04/26/08 07:09 PM
There is no man/woman worth fighting over or dying for..... PERIOD! noway

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:10 PM
usually it's done and shouldn't be brought back to life... I'm sure some work.. You have to follow your heart...

itsmetina's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:26 PM
yes its possible and why not give it a try but be aware that it might not work out

mdl7070's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:30 PM
not a good idea let sleeping dogs be

EtherealEmbers's photo
Sat 04/26/08 07:38 PM
Here's an article for you that I found awhile back from a men's magazine. I posted this for my ex at the time who thought he would try and win me back. He didn't think it was worth it after I posted this.laugh I added some of my own advice at the end. Good luck with whatever you choose.


Rebuilding the Attraction...

Losing someone you're in love with is a very painful experience. You feel like you've just lost something you'll never get back. Maybe your ex has told you there's no chance of a relationship with them again? Unless you've done something unforgivable, this is never the case.

If they were attracted to you before, they can be attracted to you again.

Following these 3 steps is a good start if you want to get back together with your ex.

1. Leave Them Alone - How can you win back your ex without even speaking to them, you ask? Be patient. Don't rush things right after the break up. Your emotions mixed with their emotions at this point will likely cause a very messy explosion.

Right now, they'll still think their reason for breaking up with you is valid. If you keep pestering them, begging them to change their mind, and telling them how you "can't live without them", you're just going to make things worse.

You need to show them that you're strong. Crying about it is okay, but they don't need to know. They won't take you back out of sympathy. If they know they can get you back at any time, what's the rush? They can date other people and know you're there for a back up.

Later on, you can contact them again; we'll cover that soon. But for now, no e-mails, no writing, no phone calls, no checking their MySpace profile. Every time you give in to one of these temptations, you're going to reduce your chances, rip open your wounds again and find yourself back at square one.

You need to prove to yourself, and them, that you're a strong character. Give them time to miss you and wonder what you're up to. This leads us to...

2. Enrich Your Life - While you wait, fill up your free time with anything and everything. Join a club. Start a new hobby that you've always wanted to do. Learn a musical instrument. By doing this you're going to meet new people and better yourself.

Wipe the word "no" out of your vocabulary for a while. Friends ask you to a party? Say yes. Attractive member of the opposite sex asks you on a date? Say yes. Remember, you're not betraying or cheating on your ex by doing this. They wanted the break-up, right? If they're not happy with you meeting new mates, then they'll have to win you back.

If they know you might not be staying around to wait for them, they may suddenly realize they don't want to lose you. You're not being manipulative unless you have no interest whatsoever in these dates. This is win/win for you. Not only could you potentially meet a new lover (who could turn out to be the man/woman of your dreams) but you'll also make your ex reconsider losing you.

3. Get Back In Contact - Give it at least a week or two after the break-up before any contact. Decide how long you're going to give it, and don't change it.

If your ex tries to get in contact with you before that time is up, use your judgement to decide whether or not you should answer. Don't break plans or go out of your way to see them, but don't make a big deal out of it either. Just say "I'm busy that night, but how about (new day later in the week)?"

If they don't get in contact, write them an e-mail, or a text message, something casual asking them how they're doing. Don't bring up the break-up, dates, etc. Talk to them like they're friends. If everything goes well after a few exchanges, ask them if they'd like to hang out.

If they say yes, don't instantly fold when you see them. Still treat them like friends. Focus on having fun. Make them laugh and smile. Show them something you've learned since breaking up. (If you started taking guitar lessons in step 2 for example, show them your really awesome cover of "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star")

The most important thing is to show them how much fun they can have with you. Nothing will kill the attraction more than diving into the deep stuff. If you can get them laughing, half the battle is already won.

If you treat them like it's a first date, they will feel like they did on your first date. Remember why they became attracted to you in the first place, and show them that hasn't changed about you. Show them that whatever it was that caused the break-up has changed, and you'll do well.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Get-Back-Together-With-Ex---3-Steps-To-Rebuilding-The-Attraction&id=890045



My Two Cents:

Some additional tips:

1. No woman likes a man that whines all the time.

2. No respectable woman wants a man that is a complete doormat.

3. Pursuing a woman does not mean that you hunt her down at every spare moment and whine to her about how much you miss her.

4. If a woman tells you that you are incompatible as a couple, telling her you "WON'T" live without her is a very bad thing and only shows just how clingy you really are.

5. Just because you might feel that a woman was brought into your life for a reason, it doesn't mean that reason was to be your girlfriend. She might just be there to teach you something about yourself.

6. If a woman asks you for space to breathe, GIVE IT TO HER or you will risk losing her forever. If you stalk her while "giving her space," she will run far, far away, as fast as she can and never look back.

7. Seriously. The tip about the "enriching your life" stuff is RIGHT ON. If you are smothering her, find something else to do that is healthy. Find something to better yourself with so you will have something new to talk about and share. Find something to do so you don't obsess over her all day long. I'm not talking about watching tv, either. I'm talking about genuinely making an effort to do something. Go to a bookstore, read some books! Go to a library... read some books! Volunteer somewhere. Be a big brother to someone who needs a good role model. Get some counseling if need be. Go to church and fellowship with your fellow church members.

Read relationship and dating books. Go to a singles mixer somewhere. Find some friends to hang out with if you don't have any. Hang out with your family. Ask elderly people for advice on love. They might have some great ideas and wonderful stories to share! You might light up their day, their week, or their life by giving them the chance to talk about it. Sign up for a class or two in college. Learn something new. Take a class at a hardware store or a craft store. Do SOMETHING!!

Haven't you wasted enough time crying about your loss? Make yourself more attractive!



Drivinmenutz's photo
Sun 04/27/08 06:43 AM

Once the trash goes to the curb....let the trash guys handle it... Don't keep bringing it back into your house.


drinker drinker flowerforyou flowerforyou

Yeah, that pretty much sums it up. Even if you left on good terms you can't rekindle an old flame that burned out. Just doesn't work like that.

mommyof1's photo
Sun 04/27/08 07:06 AM
if you love someone set them free, if they come back it was ment to be

hellkitten54's photo
Sun 04/27/08 07:24 AM

Once the trash goes to the curb....let the trash guys handle it... Don't keep bringing it back into your house.



Amen sister!drinker smokin


tearsofblood666's photo
Sun 04/27/08 07:51 AM
dont try
i tried 4 times
doesnt happen
once a cheater always a cheater

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