It is hard for me to believe what I just read...The majority of the answers forgot about God ,and morals and used age as a good reason.What have we all become when we do not respect ourselves for convenience or sex or monetary reasons as Sage suggests...What ever happened to the definition of whore whether it be male or female..or is that just acceptable because it is convenient to forget about God..At our age we should be believing in Him more and more not less...
Benefits are for doing something right not wrong..(other than wall street) A committed relationship is the best sexual stimulant we could ever hope for and great sex is the reward. .Good benefits get better with security and love and peace of mind knowing that at our age we should be with the one we will be with till we pass and believing in that.
In closing I will anger some but what I will say is the truth with no excuses needed.If you want too be a whore(male or female ) do so ,but recognize it for what it is...do not make excuses ..and then color it pretty by calling it friends with benefits.

The opinions of strangers who would not recognize my life or my death does not move me.

The few who know me wish better and fuller life for these years, after 50.

There is a commitment, perhaps unspoken, between people over fifty. The most precious gift for each other is time together, and being discreet, for both things are borne of respect.

It is so easy to make judgments. Bottom line, IMO, you life is your life...whatever fits for YOUR situation is YOUR choice to make. Each of us are responsible for our own lives ONLY. We don't need to concern ourselves about the right and wrong of others, unless their actions affect OUR life in some manner, anything else is between them and their own God..or how they perceive him/her/it.

I'll let you know in about 2 wks when I turn 50.

I didn't fall for that BS at 14. 24. 34, or 44 why would I fall for it at 54? If someone is my real friend he isn't going to ask me to make something that should mean something between me and a significant other person into something that is basiclly a hit it and quit it. With Aids in people over fifty the fastest growing age group this is a dangerous practice when done with a professed monogomous lover. Someone always ends up getting hurt in these deals and it isn't always the woman. Since even those who have insurance will have catestropic medical share of cost this is not my way of impoverishing myself and being very sick. My feeling is the people who do this are not really being honest with themselves or the people they say they are friends with because it openly says all you are is a booty call and not good enough to be anything more at the moment. That doesn't sound too friendly to me. What is never defined is how many "friends" are included in this little arrangement. I wouldn't dream of going into anyone elses private life but if a guy makes it clear he is or has been practiceing this "choice" my choice would be not to be with him.

If its between two consenting adults who fully understand the situation and want nothing more, than why not??

It is a sad statement in society that we teach our children to not do what you are condoning here.Did you teach your daughters to be free with there sexual habits or have respect for themselves..I wonder after reading the entries here..
What we are discussing here is to be blunt is sex without commitment..Bad idea as it is a road to hurt...disease and unwanted babies who end up aborted..but who am I to throw stones...I am the MAN who has turned down getting laid repeatedly in the past five years...Why ...because I have morals and believe in God..We are to be good stewards to all He has given us including our health which is both mental, physical and emotional.
As for throwing stones, we in America put women in jail daily for prostitution and the reason is simple ..It is wrong...There used to be laws against co-habitation because we were a Christian nation...We are no longer that and the results are as plain as day...More degradation...no more boundaries and more abortions than ever..
In my world ,It is so much easier to have personal morals and live up to them than risk disease , numerous broken hearts and looking back to realize that I am nothing but a whore.

Many different degrees of "friendship".
What happens behind closed doors is nobody else's business.
At this age, there are so many other things that come to bear, on marrying again.
Property, pensions, family, heck even the govt. proves that. A lady who remarries before 60. loses her ability to draw on her frst husbands S.S.; what if this marriage doesn't work out.
She has lost a lot financial security, for later years.

FWB, I think it works.

(There I said it.)