I am NOT looking for sex. I've always said that would have to wait. But most guys expect that. How can I find someone who is willing to wait?

Any advice welcome.

How long do they have to wait?

hold on...be right back

Fair quesiton. I've always said 'not before marriage'. Most guys just don't understand that. My ex was great, he felt the same way. But now I'm stuck feeling like he was the only one who will ever understand. I'd rather stay single then get back with him. But truthfull, I just don't know how to find someone who will understand. HELP

Gone for lunch. Be back in an hour.

check the school yards

I think that it will be difficult to find someone who is willing to wait but it's possible.Stay strong in your beliefs

Stop assuming that is what most guys expect. If you've come to the conclusion that most guys just want sex, it's going to be hard to find someone, because your mind is already made up.

I think that's why they say you have to take a risk.

Just be patient . don't look in places where you know they won't be . Don't put yourself in situations where you can be trapped . you know what I mean . Have faith

That has everything to do with the values of a paticualr person. Me I know I can't wait till marriage, nor have I ever waited. Personaly, this has to do with my values, I want to try a product before I buy it. If I have to wait for marriage and we are not emotionaly, physicaly compatible, and and the sex just down right sucks then divorce is realy expensive. It realy comes down to our primal instints. There are guys out there who will wait for marriage but I think you'll have to try ones with strong religious and family values.

if they dont wait..they dont deserve you.

I soooo agree with you!

I totally agree, try the local church singles groups.

Hun, you gotta find a pic... please. Anything!

My advice to you is... stop stressing about shoulda woulda couldas and go out and meet people.

Oh please, that is a gross generalization that a man won't wait. We aren't all dogs. I'm fairly certain that I've blown a couple of relationships by taking it too slow myself.

Any man that is in the relationship for the right reasons will take whatever schedule you lay out for him. Now I'm not saying he isn't going to try to get you to speed things up a bit, we are men. But if you say "no" he'll pout and probably try a different approach which you might have to say "no" to again.

Now in the defense of men, waiting until the ring is on the finger is also a little stupid. What if you boy is a little more freaky than you'd like? What if he isn't willing to be freaky enough? I mean if your boy comes into the honeymoon sweet with a ball gag, saddle, bottle of crisco oil, a battery and jumper cables, don't you think this is something you might have wanted to know before it was final? Sexual compatability is also part of being married. A man is not going to want to hear you say "I'm not doing that!" after he signs the liscence. At least not for the first few years, I think we expect that after year fifteen of marriage.

Look, I'm not telling you to give it up. Hell, I'm a man, and I'm not easy to get into bed, it takes more than just a willing participant for me. What I'm saying is consider all aspects of your relationships, and when your ready, rock someone's world!!

Thank you Thank you. I'll be here all week... Well when I am not at work or finaly get a date of my own lol. What can I say though? I am brutaly honest and hate sugar coating things.

Damn that was good for me....

WOW....cold....

... You are 23 years old. I respect your values, and the fact that you choose the abstinance trail to wedlock. Its a brave choice in these selfish times. But then on the other foot I can debate the issue that you may be missing natural human behavior. So good luck. The answer in this situation may be location- where you live. You may have a whole community that doesn't share your beliefs. Just as it is hard to find a promiscuous woman in a covenant full of nuns- its hard to find a childless virgin in metro detroit.