My boyfriend of 3 months is texting a girl he said he met on a chat line 8 months ago, which I know he only met her online around the time we met. He says they just talk, but I know she doesnt know he has a girlfriend who lives with him. I don't like being lied to but not sure if I'm being overly jealous, or I'm justified.

Any ideas?

ask to use his phone

Umm, 3 months and you're living with him? I think that in itself isn't smart, but that's just me.

If he's talking to another girl - that'd be it for me - I have no patience for that crap and then not telling the truth on top of it?

I'd be out.

you think he's lying to you but you don't want to be overly jealous?

so what does it take to make you jealous then?

I wouldn't put up with it.

So you joined a dating site

ditto

That's a toughie.

If he's an honest guy then you have nothing to be worried about. But if he lies about little things often, he could be lying about this too.

What you could do is ask him straight up if he has told her about you. You could ask him to be very honest with you and tell him that you are very upset that you might loose him to this girl. Tell him that you need reassurance and the truth.

It's a shady topic to ask someone to stop being friends with someone, but if it bothers you this much, maybe that might be an option?

If he wants to be with just you, he will tell you. I hope this works out for you...

This is why I don't date guys lol

I am so glad i am single.

Ask him to tell her...if she is just a friend, it shouldn't be a big deal. And tell him it bothers you that she doesn't know...because all of your friends know...

Good luck!

hum yeah this is a weird place ur in. whyd u start living with a guy you only just start dating? and if he is talking to someone on the phone just be open with him and tell him that you dont like it, and if he likes/loves u whatever hed quit it, show him that ur the only one he needs to pay attention (in that sort of way) to. be patient with him, calm words, youd be supprised how sensitive guys are.

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3 months?
hmmm.......

Play on playa

GOOD CATCH, PATS!!

You should be jealous and you should feel insecure, because he lied to you and is continuing with this other person in spite of your obvious communication to him that it's not okay. If he's lying to you now over supposedly "small stuff", he'll continue to lie to you and it will get to be bigger stuff. You moved in too fast, too.
Seems he wants his cake and to eat it, too.

cheers to both of you

Life is too short to waste time playing games. If you can't resolve this, what's in the future?

Thats what I was thinking too. Living together after 3 months, he's cheating so she joins a dating site. Too confusing for me. The more I read, the more thankful I am that I am single. Alot less drama.

Stole the words right outta my fingers

& jumped into the forum community same day with a loaded question .......... and no response since the question was posed ........

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