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Topic: Replying to compliments, is it really that hard?
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Thu 02/19/09 03:15 AM
Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back? frown

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Thu 02/19/09 03:21 AM
I know my self that I get embarrassed when somebody complements me. Not sure why, but I do. I would never Not reply to an email though. A simple thank you can go a long way. At least it should the sender that you are appreciated of there compliment.

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Thu 02/19/09 03:24 AM

I know my self that I get embarrassed when somebody complements me. Not sure why, but I do. I would never Not reply to an email though. A simple thank you can go a long way. At least it should the sender that you are appreciated of there compliment.

thank you for understanding, even a thank you makes you feel good, but the cold shoulder makes you feel like crap, especially when it tells you they checked out your profile too!!! that really sucks and makes me sad, i love giving compliments, there are alot of beautiful women on this site, and when i see one, i like to let her know i appreciate her beauty and what i like about her profile, a compliment makes you feel good about yourself and that other people see good things about you flowerforyou

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Thu 02/19/09 03:25 AM
Yes, I agree, it is frustrating. But I figure they may be busy... not everyone checks their M2 email every day. I also figure that they don't share the same interest in me as I do with them. So, I don't take it personally. Although, it would be nice to get a response or acknowledgement. I have received a few such as:

Thanks for the interest, but I'm in a new relationship and would like to see how it goes.

Thanks for the email, but you are not my type.

Thanks, but the distance is too far.

At least with the above types of replies, I know they read my email and they had the courtesy to respond. Says a lot for their character.

Some don't respond simply because they just don't want to "go there". It's like fishing, you cast your line... if you don't have the right bait, or conditions aren't right, the fish just doesn't bite. They don't leave a note on the hook that they liked the bait, but just aren't ready to be hauled into a boat. Get my drift?

Same kinda thing goes for online dating.

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Thu 02/19/09 03:54 AM
just a simple thank you online or off...

Seakolony's photo
Thu 02/19/09 03:59 AM
Normally i send a thank you, but would you truly wish to be with someone that is rude and has no manners?? JMO:smile:

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Thu 02/19/09 04:04 AM
Edited by mmmike on Thu 02/19/09 04:05 AM
I just dont write anymore even if I think they are perfect for me. Trying to say the right thing making sure everything is right and then Nothing. I just cruse the sites thats all.

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Thu 02/19/09 04:04 AM
Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back? frown


If the compliment is given to me in a public forum, I'm not very good at accepting it graciously. I think it's mostly because I don't like that sort of attention being drawn to me and I'll avoid it like the plague.

Receiving a compliment in private email is another thing entirely; however, most of the compliments I get are from guys that don't know me at all and the words come off as sounding totally insincere and/or rehearsed. I don't respond to them.

I've tried the 'Thanks but I'm in a relationship' bit, but then I've been met with either, 'Well don't think you're all that anyway, I was just paying you a passing compliment, I'm not interested either' and/or 'Well what the hell are you doing on a dating site? This is for single people who really are trying for love and romance.' So I just don't bother to respond at all anymore.

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Thu 02/19/09 04:07 AM
If a someone sends me a compliment, yes, I will say thank you, at least to show my appreciation.

I don't know how it is for you guys, but for us women, replying to emails is like playing Russian roulette. You can send a simple thank you, and then he ends up thinking that you are madly in love with him. You say thank you, but I'm not interested, and then you get the reply back of WHY WHY WHY demanding all kinds of reasons as to why you are just not interested. Every now and then, I'm able to hit my number and find someone who I can at least carry on a conversation with. But most of the time, it seems like it's more trouble then it's worth.


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Thu 02/19/09 04:16 AM
Edited by sensualsweet on Thu 02/19/09 04:18 AM

I just dont write anymore even if I think they are perfect for me. Trying to say the right thing making sure everything is right and then Nothing. I just cruse the sites thats all.


You can't hit a homerun if you never swing the bat!

We may strike out more often than hitting the ball, but at least we're in the ball game and making an effort. I guess some people prefer to be spectators.

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Thu 02/19/09 04:22 AM
I could care less if they reply or not...most are 1000 miles away anyhow...rejection is part of lifesmokin smokin smokin

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Thu 02/19/09 04:29 AM

I could care less if they reply or not...most are 1000 miles away anyhow...rejection is part of lifesmokin smokin smokin


I am waiting for my compliment...smokin

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Thu 02/19/09 05:20 AM


I just dont write anymore even if I think they are perfect for me. Trying to say the right thing making sure everything is right and then Nothing. I just cruse the sites thats all.


You can't hit a homerun if you never swing the bat!

We may strike out more often than hitting the ball, but at least we're in the ball game and making an effort. I guess some people prefer to be spectators.
I have wrote to many before and got very few respons.So ill just enjoy the profiles.Some times you have to take the hint. Im ment to be lone thats all and Im ok with that.

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Thu 02/19/09 05:29 AM

Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back? frown


Just move on to the next person. Some people aren't going to reply.

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Thu 02/19/09 05:30 AM

Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back? frown
smitten your cutesmitten

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Thu 02/19/09 05:36 AM
I always reply back. If they take the time to pay a compliment then I reply back. I get a few hateful comments when I tell them that I am in a relationship but I don't care what others think so I just shrug it off and go on.

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Thu 02/19/09 05:40 AM

Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back? frown


Well, I wouldn't really know, since I haven't been on a dating site in years. However, I do think many women tend to not take compliments well anymore these days, mostly because I believe they think most men have an ulterior motive. Not many guys today can say, "Hey, I like your outfit," without getting a raised eyebrow in return, like, "Whaddya want? If you're looking for sex, keep looking."

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Thu 02/19/09 05:52 AM
It would completely depend on how the compliment was worded, and if the message was totally about how I appear.

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Thu 02/19/09 05:56 AM
I find it easy to give compliments in everyday life. You just see what it is that you feel deserves compliment, hope that it's something that they themselves are proud of, or worked hard on to acheive and thats that. The purpose of giving a compliment is to make someone feel good....to me.

But here you can't smile, appear sincere or otherwise validate to them that it's a genuine compliment rather than a line. I'm like every man. The photo makes me read the profile unless I see something that they wrote in the forums that I liked. But the few times that I've given a compliment, it's been on something that they wrote or something that we have in common that I mentioned.

Not that any of that has won me any friends. Girls start with the photo too. lol

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Thu 02/19/09 05:57 AM
I never expect and answer back, it is welcome if they do but it is not the reason I would compliment someone through an email. I say it or write it because I like to say nice things and because I want to.

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