Topic: Where have all the gentlemen gone?
74Drew's photo
Mon 04/20/09 11:42 PM



Drew,

I wouldn't even consider being with a man that doesn't have manners. I deserve no less.

and i agree. i won't be with a girl who is rude to people.
being well mannered is synnonomous with being a nice guy. and women are notorious for bypassing the nice guy.


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Not all women, doll.

i know, a few bad apples....
but isn't that why there are so many of us with indigestion?


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4christman's photo
Tue 04/21/09 09:15 AM
I beleive we should treat others as we want to be treatedsmooched and only like minded people should be together. Not just looking for carnal pleasuredrool .

Sassysprite's photo
Tue 04/21/09 09:50 AM
HI,THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT....And i want to tell DREW that i for one do date the nice guys,And the women are right,i wish to be treated with respect at all times,i give the people i'm with the same respect'that i want from them. But,at the same time there's nothing wrong with letting each other know that your looking forward to your time together alone..I can lean over and lick your ear as you are driving and let you know that i have plans for you later on, with out all the booty grabbing in front of people.I want a man who treats me like a lady in front of people and like a sex toy when we alone....All people want to be want...me too.....

lovespassion's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:00 AM
I am here in toronto canada i always pay ladies the respect they should be treatedflowerforyou

74Drew's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:09 AM
i feel like i've been misunderstood.
i am in no way defending people who are rude, crude, or lacking class. all i'm saying is that if you want a gentleman and you want to ensure that there will be more gentlemen for the next generations of women, you need to acknowledge and appreciate the ones that are here right now.
it seems that in the dating world bad behavior is rewarded while good behavior is not. women (generalization) need to stop overlooking the nice guys. women (generalization) need to stop giving themselves to the bad boys and then being bitter when they're treated poorly. this is what bad boys do. stop falling for it.
i understand that there are some women out there who have finally learned that it's the nice guys that will treat them well. why is it that we nice guys have to wait until you women (generalization) are in your 40's before you figure it out? why do we have to wait for you to learn from your mistakes? why do we have to deal with all of the hurt and mistrust caused by your mistakes?
unfortunately, we nice guys are starting to learn from our mistakes as well. we're learning what doesn't work and we're spreading the word. if this is something that you want to stop, it's in your power to stop it.


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no photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:02 AM
I have seen it a few times..but its not the norm anymore like it used to be. They start out opening doors and such, but then it falls by the wayside with comfort..dont expect it forever, never seen it last long.

Sassysprite's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:36 AM
DREW,i got married when i was 15,no i was preagent. I was married for my whole life,and was divorced in 2001 and haven't dated until the last mth. and the whole world has changed....

TBRich's photo
Tue 04/21/09 01:46 PM
I always start out rude, crude and socially unacceptable, then if I like her I clean it up a bit.

PATSFAN's photo
Tue 04/21/09 01:59 PM


Single & happy



Shux darn!



flowerforyou

TBRich's photo
Tue 04/21/09 02:00 PM
GO FOR IT, PAT!!!!!!!

JrakaBigred's photo
Tue 04/21/09 05:25 PM
The gentlemen are out there. There are alot of bad seed overshadowing the good ones. Just keep searching. I am in California though.:smile:

Winx's photo
Tue 04/21/09 05:40 PM

I have seen it a few times..but its not the norm anymore like it used to be. They start out opening doors and such, but then it falls by the wayside with comfort..dont expect it forever, never seen it last long.


It can last for a long time. My father has opened doors for my mother and more for 50 years.

I've always been treated that way, myself. If you're talking long term - a 12 year relationship.

no photo
Tue 04/21/09 06:46 PM
why would a woman want a man to open the cat door for her anyway

Sassysprite's photo
Tue 04/21/09 06:47 PM
HEY I MENT TO SAY I WAS NOT PREAGENT.....

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Wed 04/22/09 05:41 AM


OK,soo i've already asked where all the cowboy's have gone but,what happened to all the gentlemen?What happened to opening the car door or walking on the outside of the sidewalk,what happened to keeping trash talk for boy time?When did men start thinking that just because i had a cookie that they were entitled to a bite(I'm not talking choc.chip here)Where did treating people with respect slip off to? If i choose to go out with a man it doesn't mean that i have made the choice to take him into my bed. Sorry GUYS i guess you may have came across women that made you think this way,but I don't want to be treated as one of the guys with a piece of ass on the side...
I had a man tell me that one time and he thought it was an complement


Chivalry still exist.

waving


but does femininity?!

74Drew's photo
Wed 04/22/09 05:47 AM



OK,soo i've already asked where all the cowboy's have gone but,what happened to all the gentlemen?What happened to opening the car door or walking on the outside of the sidewalk,what happened to keeping trash talk for boy time?When did men start thinking that just because i had a cookie that they were entitled to a bite(I'm not talking choc.chip here)Where did treating people with respect slip off to? If i choose to go out with a man it doesn't mean that i have made the choice to take him into my bed. Sorry GUYS i guess you may have came across women that made you think this way,but I don't want to be treated as one of the guys with a piece of ass on the side...
I had a man tell me that one time and he thought it was an complement


Chivalry still exist.

waving


but does femininity?!

good question.


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no photo
Wed 04/22/09 07:43 AM
might as well try to find BIG FOOT or NESSIE!laugh :wink:

TBRich's photo
Wed 04/22/09 09:25 AM

might as well try to find BIG FOOT or NESSIE!laugh :wink:


I can still hear your sarcasm through that tape, perhaps you need something else keeping your mouth busy, or take the tape off from your eyes.

no photo
Wed 04/22/09 11:52 AM



OK,soo i've already asked where all the cowboy's have gone but,what happened to all the gentlemen?What happened to opening the car door or walking on the outside of the sidewalk,what happened to keeping trash talk for boy time?When did men start thinking that just because i had a cookie that they were entitled to a bite(I'm not talking choc.chip here)Where did treating people with respect slip off to? If i choose to go out with a man it doesn't mean that i have made the choice to take him into my bed. Sorry GUYS i guess you may have came across women that made you think this way,but I don't want to be treated as one of the guys with a piece of ass on the side...
I had a man tell me that one time and he thought it was an complement


Chivalry still exist.

waving


but does femininity?!
I have discovered that chivalry isn't just how men treat women, but how each person treats adn interacts with everybody around them. It is just as chivalrous for a young person to hold the door for an older person as it is for a man to hold the same door for a woman. "chivalry" is a $50 word for being polite, classy, and appropriate in your dealings with others. Being feminine isn't about being weak, or about being the "weaker sex", nor is masculinity about being tough or strong. There are some very strong (physically, mentally, emotionally) women out there who come across as being very feminine. And there are men who are quite attentive to the needs adn feelings of the women around them without playing the politically correct part of being "feminized". Too many feminists think that if a man is treating them with basic respect and manners, then he is being condescending to her. That's is absolutely not true. I like and appreciate it when a man holds the door for me, and I hope that he is not offended if I hold the next door for him, since I got there first.

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Wed 04/22/09 06:13 PM


might as well try to find BIG FOOT or NESSIE!laugh :wink:


I can still hear your sarcasm through that tape, perhaps you need something else keeping your mouth busy, or take the tape off from your eyes.


:wink: The "smartass" warning is clearly stated on my profilelaugh