I have to believe there are gentleman out there still because if not that would mean there are no ladies out there to match up with them. I believe I am one of them and honestly if you lived a bit closer SassySprite I'd happily open a door or two for you. But since you don't I thought I'd share a bit on what motivates a true gentleman. Maybe that will help you find one near you a bit faster.

Being a gentleman isn't as much about holding the door as it is showing respect and value for someone. I've found that people who do not value themeselves have a hard time placing value on anyone else. Also, people who over-value themselves have no room to value anyone else. So, to find a gentleman I'd suggest finding someone confident enough in themselves to know when to listen and when to speak. When to shake your hand and when to give you a hug. Somone considerate enough to ask if you need a refill on coffee or tea when he gets up to get his own. Someone who can see and fill your needs ahead of his before you know you need them. Not out of expectation but out of respect and a true belief that women are to be valued and cherished.

A gentleman will pursue only when given permission or at least a glint of hope. Its part of his makeup. He may drop a subtle hint but without any sort of reciprocation he'll move on because being a gentleman does take energy and involves being exposed so gentlemen need to be selective as to who they pursue.

I think I might be preaching to the choir here because a true lady can always spot a gentleman. But, maybe some of this will help.

Good luck Sassie :)

hey! can you hear me all the way back there in the 1960's?

hey now i still open doors and not just for who ever i`m walking with or getting out or in my car manners and chivalry are still alive just a real weak pulse

ohhhhhh is THAT why women just stand there by the door waiting?

I just thought they were being polite and letting me go first

I feel the same way, you never know when you will offend. I still do it though, might as well be damned for being a gentleman than for not....

We have been overlooked by people who want flash instead of substance. Too many judge the book by the cover. Too many are blinded by the light.

Rite here.. nicest guy u would ever meet!

YES SOMEONE STILL GETS IT.....!!! Thank-You Kind Sir for your letter,I was really starting to feel like a fish out of water. I haven't did the dateing thing in over 25yrs,and i have to tell you its a whole new world..But,I think i might like it,I've met some new friends and had a few nice dinners but,I'm waiting for my prince to come find me....

There are plenty of us we are just very spread out

I guess the gentlemen must have skipped a generation lastmanstanding602. Wish you'd be around 20 years earlier!!!

Hey thanks!

You are quite welcome

I am a gentleman in fact if you take looks out of the equation I am not a bad package.

Theyre sleeping with easier women.

It is unfortunate that you have come across these type of men, but it seems that many have used the internet simply as a means of hooking up with no intentions of developing a relationship. I have seen first hand that treating a woman with respect and not trying to get a good night kiss or being forward has been taken as not being interested as opposed to being a gentleman. I will not change who I am because of it and have now made the change to inform them that I am interested and that my actions are those of respect for the woman and not non interest. This is just my perspective but I am sure that many other gentleman have come across the same issues.

I have to admit this is true, at this point in my life, I am not going to be chasing that much anymore, it just isn't as fun as it used to be.

TBR - you are always a gentleman to me

As you wish MiLady

Young or old.. if theyre like that theyre too stupid or uncouth to appreciate it, or know how to react.. alot of times.. noone does, because they dont deserve it. Everyones not a genius.

I try to be...most of the time