How do you forgive your boyfriend/girlfriend if he/she cheats on you?

...with the back door open..pointing the way out of my life....

Moreover, how do you let go of the last one cheating on you so that you can move forward and, not keep accusing future one's of doing the same?

Good question.

I don't see how one can, at least in the context of continued romantic relationship. I have known women who have forgiven cheating, abuse and emotional neglect. I find that to be sign of weakness.

Cut off their head, and bury them under my stoop.

Well...


I end the relationship and then forgive her after words.



I won't take her back either.


Homie don't play like that!


Rule is if your gonna do it don't get caught!

Forgiveness is a tricky thing. For some people it takes a couple of days.......for some it takes years. I think you need some sort of closure before you can forgive anyone.

I can easily forgive somebody, but cheating is something I won't just let go anymore. That's time for them to go.

good question

the boyfriend/girlfriend would never know if I forgave them or not

I think that if you can accept some of the blame for the demise of the relationship, which might have led to the cheating, it becomes much easier to forgive.

It doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship can go forward, nor am I saying in all cases it's the fault of the other, just what happened to work for me.

Happy trails to you

Dunno.. never had it happen to me before.

I'd probably give her one more chance that if I like her enough and all, other wise it's BYE BYE BYE.

I do not accept blame for others lack of morals. If someone wants to cheat then they should break up with you first.

I have been cheated on twice that i know about....by the father of my kids, and by another guy who i was in a fairly short relationship with.


With my first ex, i knew he had cheated but he wouldnt admit it until a few yrs after we broke up, and by then i was already over it.

With the second, we had only been together for 3 months, but it did kinda hurt cos he was always all over me and made out i was 'the 1' There was MANY things he omitted when we got together, and having another 6 women on the go was 1 of them!

I chose to not carry anyone elses emotional baggage. Infidelity was his problem, not mine, and i know through my other relationships that not all ppl r like that, so i know not to categorize all men as cheaters. I actually find myself pitying cheaters as they will never have the exclusive love that we all deserve as humans.

The best way to move on from a cheater, is by leaving them, and the emotional crap u suffered, in the past, and not let it marr ur judgement on other potential partners. If u live in fear of being cheated on, u cant be happy, and im dam sure im not letting a low down cheater have that much influence on my life.

I can't respect someone who didn't have enough respect for me end the relationship if you you feel the need to cheat

Forgiving someone who's betrayed your trust is not an easy thing. And forgiveness does not necessarily mean it's okay or that you should stay in the relationship.

The way I see it is, if you forgive this person you can move forward and leave all the emotional baggage behind. The worst thing to do is to enter a new relationship with all the issues of your last one. Forgive, not because it makes your ex GF/BF feel better, but because it's good for you.