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Topic: sometimes you're better off without them
Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Wed 07/08/09 04:54 PM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :)

MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Wed 07/08/09 04:57 PM
Intrepid, you are a very smart man. It takes alot of people much longer to learn this lesson and they continue to make the same mistake. I hope you aren't one of them. When you see red flags in the future, heed them. Trust your instincts and never settle. Good luck to you.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Wed 07/08/09 04:58 PM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) that goes for men, too, sorry to say it, but most people just suck. glad you're doing well though.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Wed 07/08/09 04:59 PM
now i know why i get hot chics...i'm a scumbag..right on

Rockmybobbysocks Joined Thu 10/30/08 Posts: 3961	Wed 07/08/09 05:02 PM
wow thats rough. i'd say you made the right decision. now start grovelling to your ex best friend that you miss him and you're sorry.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Wed 07/08/09 05:20 PM
now i know why i get hot chics...i'm a scumbag..right on Jerks = Dates

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Wed 07/08/09 05:33 PM
now i know why i get hot chics...i'm a scumbag..right on Jerks = Dates The quality of a jerk is in direct proportion of the temperature of the date. The worse he is the hotter the woman, hence the term "Hot Jerky"

MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Wed 07/08/09 05:35 PM
now i know why i get hot chics...i'm a scumbag..right on Jerks = Dates The quality of a jerk is in direct proportion of the temperature of the date. The worse he is the hotter the woman, hence the term "Hot Jerky" Well, then where did the term "Hot Carl" come from?

Tootsweet13 Joined Sun 03/29/09 Posts: 2713	Wed 07/08/09 05:35 PM
Stay strong, man!

Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Wed 07/08/09 05:46 PM
now i know why i get hot chics...i'm a scumbag..right on Jerks = Dates The quality of a jerk is in direct proportion of the temperature of the date. The worse he is the hotter the woman, hence the term "Hot Jerky" you dumbasses.lol I'm not talking about jerks. I'm talking about white trash scumbags. like one dude had tats all over his face and this new one, not only looks like the werewolf from Van Helsing but I'd be surprised he owns anything except wife beaters and hand me down workboots...and it would be nice if he actually worked

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Wed 07/08/09 05:52 PM
now i know why i get hot chics...i'm a scumbag..right on Jerks = Dates The quality of a jerk is in direct proportion of the temperature of the date. The worse he is the hotter the woman, hence the term "Hot Jerky" you dumbasses.lol I'm not talking about jerks. I'm talking about white trash scumbags. like one dude had tats all over his face and this new one, not only looks like the werewolf from Van Helsing but I'd be surprised he owns anything except wife beaters and hand me down workboots...and it would be nice if he actually worked the sad thing is, those are the kind of guys who are readily available. most guys who are decent looking, bathe daily, gainfully employed, don't dress like something out of a bad 80s movie, speak proper english, don't live in mommy's basement or sit around playing video games 20 hours out of 24 are usually taken and have a few kids who either visit regularly or live at home with him. isn't desperation sad?

daleray1606 Joined Tue 03/06/07 Posts: 3642	Wed 07/08/09 05:56 PM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) I totally agree. Sometimes the Best thing to do is move on.

bikerbabe63 Joined Sun 10/05/08 Posts: 596	Wed 07/08/09 05:59 PM
Intrepid, you are a very smart man. It takes alot of people much longer to learn this lesson and they continue to make the same mistake. I hope you aren't one of them. When you see red flags in the future, heed them. Trust your instincts and never settle. Good luck to you. I agree totally.....sometimes ts better to avoid negative people places and things

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Wed 07/08/09 06:14 PM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) It seem's that you've learned a basic lesson in life. Don't judge a book by it's cover.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Thu 07/09/09 01:06 AM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) It seem's that you've learned a basic lesson in life. Don't judge a book by it's cover.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 07/09/09 01:11 AM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) I learned that pretty quickly, but I also follow evolution...where one thing isn't working out, try something else.

74Drew Joined Thu 01/22/09 Posts: 4901	Thu 07/09/09 01:14 AM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) been there. well not the friend stuff, but the girl who made me miserable and passed me over stuff. at least you learned before she got the better of you. i didn't learn until she took off. . . .

earthytaurus76 Joined Wed 04/08/09 Posts: 6603	Thu 07/09/09 01:19 AM Edited by earthytaurus76 on Thu 07/09/09 01:22 AM
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) Uh, Ya might wanna take some responsibility for YOUR OWN actions and feelings. Im not trying to knock you here, but Im trying to be honest. Noone is responsible for your feelings, and choices but YOU. YOU chose her, and him. You CHOSE your feelings about the matter. YOU allowed unhealthy hurtful people in your life. Noone MADE you do anything. Noone can MAKE you feel anything. YOU CHOOSE how you feel. YOU chose to "loathe" her. you dont have to hang out with anyone, and no way were there not signs. I would encourage you to use better judgement in whom you associate with, and working on your character defects in what makes you keep coming back for more from someone who is unavailable, and isnt extending themselves to you not only in not a positive way, but truly negative ones. Its your fault for obsessing over someone who never was interested in you in the first place. Im sorry to have to tell you. But its true.

gayfifer Joined Sat 04/04/09 Posts: 6655	Thu 07/09/09 01:30 AM
weird!

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Thu 07/09/09 01:49 AM
Really wierd. But I know where he's coming from. But usually I get the terminally nuts latching onto me trying to destroy my life.